Your question reminds me of my mom. My mom and dad are married for almost
40 years now. When I got married, my mom told me a story:
When she and dad first got married, she discovered my dad snored badly -
still does. She first tried to get him to stop (both of them were medical
professionals), when that did not work, she was worried, and then depressed.
Then one day she told herself, rather to be irritated and depressed, why
not learn to enjoy it. It took a while, but she finally learned t