q*c
2 楼
转载， 不代表我个人观点。
http://www.boston.com/lifestyle/relationships/articles/2012/05/
Trophy wives no more
As women's learning and earning powers have increased, marital motivations
have shifted.
Aristotle and Jackie Onassis on their wedding day in 1968. “I can’t very
well marry a dentist from New Jersey!” the former first lady told Truman
Capote. (Associated Press/File)
By Tina Cassidy
Globe Correspondent / May 10, 2012
When Jacqueline Kennedy married shipping magnate Aristotle Onassis in 1968
on his private Aegean island Skorpios, tongues wagged from Greece to
Greenwich.
The story line was simple: She married him for money, and he married her for
effect. She was, after all, arguably the most famous and beautiful woman in
the world, and he was one of the richest, three decades older than she.
Whether there was love, or even just affection, or whether this was about
mutual security of some kind, it all seemed irrelevant. When her friend
Truman Capote asked her why she became Mrs. Onassis, she said, “I can’t
very well marry a dentist from New Jersey!”
In fact, Jackie perfectly fit the traditional definition of a trophy wife in
a marriage that ended with Aristotle Onassis’s death in 1975, when Jackie
was just 45.
Although there have been plenty of high-profile relationships since then
that have fit into the trophy category — Marla and then Melania Trump; Ted
Turner asking Jane Fonda to stop working — times have changed.
Take last year’s marriage of Cassandra Huysentruyt Grey, also known as the
Princess of Bel-Air, the pretty, second wife of Paramount Pictures Chairman
and CEO Brad Grey (they are 34 and 54, respectively).
Turns out that Huysentruyt Grey has a self-proclaimed Napoleonic ambition.
She also may have the talent to be her own studio mogul — a West Hollywood
fashion studio that serves as a style incubator for the rich and famous. A
recent headline in the New York Times declared, “Don’t Call Her a Trophy
Wife.”
Is this the new wave?
The recession and the increase in women’s education levels are two major
factors feeding a shift in cultural norms since Jackie wore knee-length
Valentino and a ribbon in her hair for her Greek Orthodox wedding ceremony.
Today, to have a wife (even if she is the second or third) who is smart, has
a job, and perhaps even a business plan or a PhD, is now highly valued. It
means that the man is not a conspicuous consumer, marrying just for the arm-
candy factor. It means that he does not want to debase himself by
telegraphing to the world that the only reason he’s with a gorgeous, much-
younger woman is because of his money. It means that he is evolved.
And it means that she doesn’t need his cash — she has her own.
Women began outpacing men in educational achievement in 1992 and by 2009,
nearly 30 percent of working wives were out-earning their husbands,
according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics. Women are already receiving the
majority of degrees conferred, and the idea of a woman “marrying up” is
becoming statistically unlikely.
“That’s just not an option,” according to Liza Mundy, the author of a
biography of Michelle Obama as well as a more recent book called “The
Richer Sex: How the New Majority of Female Breadwinners Is Transforming Sex,
Love, and Family.” “Women don’t expect to marry up and can’t marry up.
Now that we have more college education than men, marrying up is laughable,
and even women marrying laterally is becoming more difficult.”Page 2 of 2 --
Furthermore, it appears that men don’t want the obligation of supporting a
so-called trophy wife.
An early inkling of this came in 2001 with a University of Texas study,
published in the Journal of Marriage and Family, which looked at 50 years of
data that asked men what characteristics they found most admirable in a
mate. The study shows that males used to rank high such things as domestic
skills and virginity. By the late 1990s, those answers had plummeted while
“financial prospects” rose to the top of the desirability list.
Meanwhile, single childless women in their 30s are out-earning men,
according to a 2010 report by James Chung of Reach Advisors, who spent more
than a year analyzing data from the Census Bureau’s American Community
Survey. And those women expect a potential partner to do domestic chores —
and be handsome.
“Everyone wants a well-educated, good-looking partner,” Mundy says. “The
dumpy and bald [older rich man] is no longer acceptable to women — they are
bringing their own money to the table. . . . It may be no accident that a
lot of women aren’t getting married, they’re just being single moms. That
kind of social mobility through marriage is definitely not available to
women in the way that it once was.”
A 2011 paper in Psychology Today on the rise of the “power bride” boils
down to this revelation: “A woman’s ability to hold a steady job [now
matters] more than her age, previous marriages, maternal status, religion or
race. Men were more willing to marry women with more, rather than less,
education than they themselves had. A wise move, since women eclipse men at
the same rates at which they attain bachelor’s and master’s degrees, and
the number of women pursuing higher education continues to steadily climb.”
The Psychology Today article also noted that a Match.com poll found that 48
percent of men (and an equal percentage of women) reported dating partners
who drew the same income as they did.
To flip around the trophy concept, there may be a new definition for women
wanting to “have it all.” They may want to have a successful and/or
powerful partner, but not at the expense of their own success or power.
Which brings us back to Jackie. After Aristotle Onassis died in 1975, she
began to forge what would become a longtime relationship with Maurice
Tempelsman (also a successful businessman). She never got remarried — but
she did get a job.
Tina Cassidy, a former reporter and editor at The Boston Globe, is the
author of the new book “Jackie After O: One Remarkable Year When Jacqueline
Kennedy Onassis Defied Expectations and Rediscovered Her Dreams.” She can
be reached at a***************[email protected]
© Copyright 2012 Globe Newspaper Company.
http://www.boston.com/lifestyle/relationships/articles/2012/05/
Trophy wives no more
As women's learning and earning powers have increased, marital motivations
have shifted.
Aristotle and Jackie Onassis on their wedding day in 1968. “I can’t very
well marry a dentist from New Jersey!” the former first lady told Truman
Capote. (Associated Press/File)
By Tina Cassidy
Globe Correspondent / May 10, 2012
When Jacqueline Kennedy married shipping magnate Aristotle Onassis in 1968
on his private Aegean island Skorpios, tongues wagged from Greece to
Greenwich.
The story line was simple: She married him for money, and he married her for
effect. She was, after all, arguably the most famous and beautiful woman in
the world, and he was one of the richest, three decades older than she.
Whether there was love, or even just affection, or whether this was about
mutual security of some kind, it all seemed irrelevant. When her friend
Truman Capote asked her why she became Mrs. Onassis, she said, “I can’t
very well marry a dentist from New Jersey!”
In fact, Jackie perfectly fit the traditional definition of a trophy wife in
a marriage that ended with Aristotle Onassis’s death in 1975, when Jackie
was just 45.
Although there have been plenty of high-profile relationships since then
that have fit into the trophy category — Marla and then Melania Trump; Ted
Turner asking Jane Fonda to stop working — times have changed.
Take last year’s marriage of Cassandra Huysentruyt Grey, also known as the
Princess of Bel-Air, the pretty, second wife of Paramount Pictures Chairman
and CEO Brad Grey (they are 34 and 54, respectively).
Turns out that Huysentruyt Grey has a self-proclaimed Napoleonic ambition.
She also may have the talent to be her own studio mogul — a West Hollywood
fashion studio that serves as a style incubator for the rich and famous. A
recent headline in the New York Times declared, “Don’t Call Her a Trophy
Wife.”
Is this the new wave?
The recession and the increase in women’s education levels are two major
factors feeding a shift in cultural norms since Jackie wore knee-length
Valentino and a ribbon in her hair for her Greek Orthodox wedding ceremony.
Today, to have a wife (even if she is the second or third) who is smart, has
a job, and perhaps even a business plan or a PhD, is now highly valued. It
means that the man is not a conspicuous consumer, marrying just for the arm-
candy factor. It means that he does not want to debase himself by
telegraphing to the world that the only reason he’s with a gorgeous, much-
younger woman is because of his money. It means that he is evolved.
And it means that she doesn’t need his cash — she has her own.
Women began outpacing men in educational achievement in 1992 and by 2009,
nearly 30 percent of working wives were out-earning their husbands,
according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics. Women are already receiving the
majority of degrees conferred, and the idea of a woman “marrying up” is
becoming statistically unlikely.
“That’s just not an option,” according to Liza Mundy, the author of a
biography of Michelle Obama as well as a more recent book called “The
Richer Sex: How the New Majority of Female Breadwinners Is Transforming Sex,
Love, and Family.” “Women don’t expect to marry up and can’t marry up.
Now that we have more college education than men, marrying up is laughable,
and even women marrying laterally is becoming more difficult.”Page 2 of 2 --
Furthermore, it appears that men don’t want the obligation of supporting a
so-called trophy wife.
An early inkling of this came in 2001 with a University of Texas study,
published in the Journal of Marriage and Family, which looked at 50 years of
data that asked men what characteristics they found most admirable in a
mate. The study shows that males used to rank high such things as domestic
skills and virginity. By the late 1990s, those answers had plummeted while
“financial prospects” rose to the top of the desirability list.
Meanwhile, single childless women in their 30s are out-earning men,
according to a 2010 report by James Chung of Reach Advisors, who spent more
than a year analyzing data from the Census Bureau’s American Community
Survey. And those women expect a potential partner to do domestic chores —
and be handsome.
“Everyone wants a well-educated, good-looking partner,” Mundy says. “The
dumpy and bald [older rich man] is no longer acceptable to women — they are
bringing their own money to the table. . . . It may be no accident that a
lot of women aren’t getting married, they’re just being single moms. That
kind of social mobility through marriage is definitely not available to
women in the way that it once was.”
A 2011 paper in Psychology Today on the rise of the “power bride” boils
down to this revelation: “A woman’s ability to hold a steady job [now
matters] more than her age, previous marriages, maternal status, religion or
race. Men were more willing to marry women with more, rather than less,
education than they themselves had. A wise move, since women eclipse men at
the same rates at which they attain bachelor’s and master’s degrees, and
the number of women pursuing higher education continues to steadily climb.”
The Psychology Today article also noted that a Match.com poll found that 48
percent of men (and an equal percentage of women) reported dating partners
who drew the same income as they did.
To flip around the trophy concept, there may be a new definition for women
wanting to “have it all.” They may want to have a successful and/or
powerful partner, but not at the expense of their own success or power.
Which brings us back to Jackie. After Aristotle Onassis died in 1975, she
began to forge what would become a longtime relationship with Maurice
Tempelsman (also a successful businessman). She never got remarried — but
she did get a job.
Tina Cassidy, a former reporter and editor at The Boston Globe, is the
author of the new book “Jackie After O: One Remarkable Year When Jacqueline
Kennedy Onassis Defied Expectations and Rediscovered Her Dreams.” She can
be reached at a***************[email protected]
© Copyright 2012 Globe Newspaper Company.
D*i
3 楼
靠，你不知道“股神”二字跟国内说的“小姐”一样含义丰富啊
B*n
4 楼
所以本大湿要求大妈每年挣九万，顺应历史潮流么。
j*h
5 楼
不是不是；全都upgrade了
现在好像说大牛是小姐
现在好像说大牛是小姐
c*y
6 楼
你漂亮么？帅气么？听话顺从么？
【在 B*******n 的大作中提到】
: 所以本大湿要求大妈每年挣九万，顺应历史潮流么。
【在 B*******n 的大作中提到】
: 所以本大湿要求大妈每年挣九万，顺应历史潮流么。
D*i
7 楼
上一个牛市时，168股坛就流行一句咆哮体了：“你才是股神，你们全家都是股神！”
j*h
8 楼
才听你说
吊大圆歪你还是整一个吧
周末大家好做做功课
吊大圆歪你还是整一个吧
周末大家好做做功课
r*m
9 楼
IBD基本就是买高卖更高的套路，适用于牛市。
现在还是牛市吗？
现在还是牛市吗？
s*l
10 楼
帮主，难道现在是熊市？
【在 r*m 的大作中提到】
: IBD基本就是买高卖更高的套路，适用于牛市。
: 现在还是牛市吗？
【在 r*m 的大作中提到】
: IBD基本就是买高卖更高的套路，适用于牛市。
: 现在还是牛市吗？
t*g
11 楼
现在牛转熊，熊转牛都在一瞬之间:)
【在 s****l 的大作中提到】
: 帮主，难道现在是熊市？
【在 s****l 的大作中提到】
: 帮主，难道现在是熊市？
w*s
12 楼
现在要IBD 名单是来一个个烧的么？
【在 s****l 的大作中提到】
: 帮主，难道现在是熊市？
【在 s****l 的大作中提到】
: 帮主，难道现在是熊市？
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