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y*j2014-05-14 07:05

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I married an America. I feel he always waste money in everything. for
example, we have 2 ipods,1 pad, 8 desktops at home. One of the ipod has a
little black dot on the screen, he bought Andriod nexus 10 last December
without telling me. He also likes to buy expensive pants and shoes around
100$ each pair himself. He always think he is rich and he deserves good
stuff. He earns around 80k per year, I earn 60k, we have two kids and one
large house loan, we hardly have a few thousand dollars savings each year.
There is no way I can convince him to save money. I feel he and me are so
different in many ways. We have a joint account, but he just buy things
whenever he wants. I feel unbalanced and depressed.I love my kids, they are
very cute, that is the main focus of my life now.
Any suggestions for this case?

t*d2014-05-14 07:05

2 楼

挖坑的？结婚前没想到老美今天花明天的钱？你也使劲花，花到入不敷出，看看男的还
敢不敢那么乱花钱。

H*e2014-05-14 07:05

3 楼

What is an America? American? White? Or Asian American?

are

【在 y*****j 的大作中提到】

: I married an America. I feel he always waste money in everything. for
: example, we have 2 ipods,1 pad, 8 desktops at home. One of the ipod has a
: little black dot on the screen, he bought Andriod nexus 10 last December
: without telling me. He also likes to buy expensive pants and shoes around
: 100$ each pair himself. He always think he is rich and he deserves good
: stuff. He earns around 80k per year, I earn 60k, we have two kids and one
: large house loan, we hardly have a few thousand dollars savings each year.
: There is no way I can convince him to save money. I feel he and me are so
: different in many ways. We have a joint account, but he just buy things
: whenever he wants. I feel unbalanced and depressed.I love my kids, they are

l*n2014-05-14 07:05

4 楼

Get marriage therapy, show him you are willing to spend money to make the
marriage work. It sounds to me you just have very different spending habits
and it's not necessarily his fault, you two are simply different, talk to a
professional will help.

l*n2014-05-14 07:05

5 楼

Three additional points:
1. many people here dislike interracial marriages, ignore their opinion.
2. when you say your husband spends too much money on himself, does he also
spend money on you or the children? that makes the biggest difference in the
world.
3. assuming your husband treats the children well, maybe he just needs a
little help managing money; that is far better than being with a cheap man
who never spends a penny.

y*j2014-05-14 07:05

6 楼

My husband is a white American with a master degree. He likes to spend money
on everyone in the family, not just himself. He treats the kids well too
although in a different way. He just does not consider price when buying
things, so we end up with almost no savings even though both of us earn
relatively decent amount. I would like to save some money for the kids when
they go to college, he thinks they can get loans when needed. We are just so
different...I am thinking about having separate accounts, but it may cause
more arguments about who pays what...
We had marriage therapy for some other issues when we just got married. I
think therapy offers some opportunities for you to talk about the problems
not necessary solutions to the problems, it is not much different from
talking online like this. The main problem is that we are really busy now
with two little kids and work, hardly have any time...

d*f2014-05-14 07:05

7 楼

你可不可以用中文？

money
when
so
cause

【在 y*****j 的大作中提到】

: My husband is a white American with a master degree. He likes to spend money
: on everyone in the family, not just himself. He treats the kids well too
: although in a different way. He just does not consider price when buying
: things, so we end up with almost no savings even though both of us earn
: relatively decent amount. I would like to save some money for the kids when
: they go to college, he thinks they can get loans when needed. We are just so
: different...I am thinking about having separate accounts, but it may cause
: more arguments about who pays what...
: We had marriage therapy for some other issues when we just got married. I
: think therapy offers some opportunities for you to talk about the problems

y*h2014-05-14 07:05

8 楼

她不会可能

你可不可以用中文？

【在 d********f 的大作中提到】

: 你可不可以用中文？
:
: money
: when
: so
: cause

l*n2014-05-14 07:05

9 楼

How about getting him some finance/ money management resource? Books, or
tapes for him to listen in the car if you are both too busy? Watch Suze
Orman? Sounds to me your husband is a good, caring man, just needs some new
perspective about money.

money
when
so
cause

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y*j2014-05-14 07:05

10 楼

This is a very helpful suggestion that I am going to adopt. I also need some
education about money management as well. Thank you ...

new

【在 l*****n 的大作中提到】

: How about getting him some finance/ money management resource? Books, or
: tapes for him to listen in the car if you are both too busy? Watch Suze
: Orman? Sounds to me your husband is a good, caring man, just needs some new
: perspective about money.
:
: money
: when
: so
: cause