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h*22014-08-31 07:08

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A guy is dating with a girl for 1 year. Both of them are more than 40 years
old and are shy. They are highly educated and knowledgeable. Both of them
are looking for a serious long-term relationship. When they date, they just
chat and have something common to chat. They never hold hand with each
other and no physical contacts, as they are shy and respectful. Anyone have
similar experiences that lead to a successful marriage?

o*t2014-08-31 07:08

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以前没有恋爱经验？是否相爱？爱对方自然就要有身体的接触，爱对方就说出来，别闷
在心里等对方猜，婚姻是基于爱，没爱别急着结婚。就冲你问这问题觉得一种要搭伙过
日子的味道。

s*x2014-08-31 07:08

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maybe both are virgin? two virgins without any experience and educated with
classic Chinese education system can do so naturally.

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【在 h**********2 的大作中提到】

: A guy is dating with a girl for 1 year. Both of them are more than 40 years
: old and are shy. They are highly educated and knowledgeable. Both of them
: are looking for a serious long-term relationship. When they date, they just
: chat and have something common to chat. They never hold hand with each
: other and no physical contacts, as they are shy and respectful. Anyone have
: similar experiences that lead to a successful marriage?

G*G2014-08-31 07:08

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yes. one is a monk, another is a nun.

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【在 h**********2 的大作中提到】

: A guy is dating with a girl for 1 year. Both of them are more than 40 years
: old and are shy. They are highly educated and knowledgeable. Both of them
: are looking for a serious long-term relationship. When they date, they just
: chat and have something common to chat. They never hold hand with each
: other and no physical contacts, as they are shy and respectful. Anyone have
: similar experiences that lead to a successful marriage?

D*92014-08-31 07:08

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有些感情是由深至浅, 有些感情是由浅至深.
一见钟情,多半是由深至浅. 渐渐发现,渐渐失望,最后变淡.
灵魂伴侣,多半是由浅至深. 慢慢聊,慢慢嚼. 这样一旦牵起手来,将永远不再松开.
当然,聊得来的,也不一定都是灵魂伴侣.
世上没有绝对.
如果结婚对象即是灵魂伴侣,又有身体上的吸引,那样当然最好.
如果不能兼得,二选一的话,你选哪个?

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【在 h**********2 的大作中提到】

: A guy is dating with a girl for 1 year. Both of them are more than 40 years
: old and are shy. They are highly educated and knowledgeable. Both of them
: are looking for a serious long-term relationship. When they date, they just
: chat and have something common to chat. They never hold hand with each
: other and no physical contacts, as they are shy and respectful. Anyone have
: similar experiences that lead to a successful marriage?

o*t2014-08-31 07:08

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那就停止交往吧，没戏。根本就不相爱，离着婚姻相差太远。

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【在 h**********2 的大作中提到】

: A guy is dating with a girl for 1 year. Both of them are more than 40 years
: old and are shy. They are highly educated and knowledgeable. Both of them
: are looking for a serious long-term relationship. When they date, they just
: chat and have something common to chat. They never hold hand with each
: other and no physical contacts, as they are shy and respectful. Anyone have
: similar experiences that lead to a successful marriage?

D*92014-08-31 07:08

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这么说来,没有任何相互吸引的地方.
害羞之说,完全是借口, 对于一个40左右,并且曾结过婚的,男士,来说.
你们现在的状态,完全是聊伴而已.
已经过了一年的时间,还没有擦出火花,只有两种可能,
一种是情商太低,太慢热型,慢到不可思议的地步.
一种是永远不会发生.

for

【在 h**********2 的大作中提到】

: A guy is dating with a girl for 1 year. Both of them are more than 40 years
: old and are shy. They are highly educated and knowledgeable. Both of them
: are looking for a serious long-term relationship. When they date, they just
: chat and have something common to chat. They never hold hand with each
: other and no physical contacts, as they are shy and respectful. Anyone have
: similar experiences that lead to a successful marriage?

M*s2014-08-31 07:08

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干巴巴

g*g2014-08-31 07:08

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不太有戏
男的有兴趣会想方设法扑上来的，没有shy之说，特别是结过婚的
除非还是惊弓之鸟，怕受伤
总之不太看好

h*22014-08-31 07:08

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如是惊弓之鸟有法吗？