这都是 case by case。 中国城福建移民父母的ABC和留学生父母得 ABC, 中西部ABC和
东西两岸ABC,完全不同。
随便看了一篇，提到两个问题: 生长在白人95%的中西部；父母没有意识到身份识别问
题的严重性，没有对此做什么准备。
对比下，我们在生活在亚裔人口处在一个自认为最优比率的地区 ，也是有很多其他地
区移民，提倡政治正确,强调种族融合，人民富有同情心的深蓝区。此外我们从来就重
视这个问题，儿子1岁就送美国幼儿园，2岁后几乎每年回中国，和国内亲戚交流很多，
对自己哪里来的深有认识，可谓对两种文化都有一定认识。
所以,毫无压力。
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I'd like to share some of my thoughts that I Pmed to the author. I really
applaud you for at least presenting these issues to people my parents age.
Fellow ABC here from the Midwest. When I read your article, I immediately
understood the hardships that you faced. I grew up in a 95% white area in
the Midwest and middle school was hell for me. I just thought that was
normal to be treated like that. I was an uncle chan and thought that the
whiter I acted, the more I would be accepted. Clearly it doesn’t work that
way. I didn't even realize it was racism until I spent time outside of the
Midwest and in Singapore and LA. I think it is extremely important to let
Asian Americans, particularly AA males to understand that they are not alone
. With that said, while I feel your pain, I respectfully disagree about not
coming to the US. I would rather have my kids be exposed to the US and also
maintain their Chinese so they can choose to go back to Asia or stay in the
US. I was actually pretty pissed off at my parents for a while too for
settling in the Midwest or not emphasizing learning Chinese. However, at
some point, you have to take responsibility for your own actions. That means
spending ur own time and effort to learn Chinese or even eventually carving
out your own path by moving back to Asia. I actually spoke to my parents
last night and they really disagreed with the article. They thought you were
a loser and you are extremely ungrateful. They thought you were a possible
troll and also wondered why you didn't publish your real name or information.
To be honest, I thought they would have this kind of reaction. However, I
also don't blame them. My parents, probably like yours, suffered terribly
during the great leap forward and saw first hand the type of political
persecution that existed in China. They also saw people starve to death and
have had many experiences of going to bed on an empty stomach. Just think of
it from a Maslow hierarchy of needs situation. Food, shelter and being
alive is far more important than Steve Harvey making fun of Asian men or our
standing in society. To them, they can't take seriously some of the issues
that you presented. They are still stuck on being glad to have the basics.
I think perhaps if you may have presented the article as a question and
raised it in a cost/benefit analysis rather than a statement, individuals
our parents age could take the article more seriously and seriously consider
the points that you made. Furthermore you could have mentioned that China
has flaws too like incredible corruption and pollution issues. Also your
parents, like mine, did the best they could. That doesn’t mean that they
didn’t make any mistakes. It would also be interesting to see if Taiwanese,
Korean Americans or Japanese Americans’ parents could relate better to
some of these issues since those countries have developed extremely well to
a level similar to the US.
