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等推荐信等的心烦！# Immigration - 落地生根

m*r2010-10-21 07:10

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某位教授, 9月28号答应给写推荐信；10月1号把draft给他；到现在10月21号了，没有
任何回应；中间10月11号发email询问也不理。应不应该打电话问问？
还有自己phd的老板，10月11号发信问推荐，到现在没有任何回应；10月18号发email询
问也不理。应不应该打电话问问？（最近一次通讯是9月12号需要修改一篇文章，以前
发邮件老板最多1，2天就回复了）
其他欧洲，亚洲的推荐人，面都没见过，回复很快的，也很快就完成了；为啥这些美国
人倒是一个比一个慢呢？

b*92010-10-21 07:10

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calm down.
Just kindly ask them.
bless

l*b2010-10-21 07:10

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多找几个人，总有几个回得快的，然后就先递上去。
剩下的，大不了rfe的时候用。

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: 某位教授, 9月28号答应给写推荐信；10月1号把draft给他；到现在10月21号了，没有
: 任何回应；中间10月11号发email询问也不理。应不应该打电话问问？
: 还有自己phd的老板，10月11号发信问推荐，到现在没有任何回应；10月18号发email询
: 问也不理。应不应该打电话问问？（最近一次通讯是9月12号需要修改一篇文章，以前
: 发邮件老板最多1，2天就回复了）
: 其他欧洲，亚洲的推荐人，面都没见过，回复很快的，也很快就完成了；为啥这些美国
: 人倒是一个比一个慢呢？

f*92010-10-21 07:10

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I also waited for 1.5 months for a reference letter. It is hard
to push some professors especially big guys since they have so many
other commitments. They might not put our letter as priority.
The rational way is to politely send them a reminder (put due date on that)
once a week or even 10 days if you still can not get response.
Good Luck!

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b*M2010-10-21 07:10

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U did not tell them deadline.

m*r2010-10-21 07:10

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my bad. I didn't put hard deadline as I thought it was not polite to push
them so I put like " at your earliest convenience".
It seems I should put deadline there now.

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: U did not tell them deadline.

m*r2010-10-21 07:10

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thanks all for your comments!

)

【在 f********9 的大作中提到】

: I also waited for 1.5 months for a reference letter. It is hard
: to push some professors especially big guys since they have so many
: other commitments. They might not put our letter as priority.
: The rational way is to politely send them a reminder (put due date on that)
: once a week or even 10 days if you still can not get response.
: Good Luck!

r*l2010-10-21 07:10

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他意思是不要put deadline吧
anyway 我觉的还是不要给deadline,如果对方miss了你给的deadline,再催估计你也不
好开口了,大家就都很awkward了. 2周催一次,4周没答复,打电话. 就是客气,让对方不
好意思,觉的再拖guity.
大概就这么写
I feel so embarrassed to ask you about the reference letter which I am
looking forward to. I highly appreciate your time and understanding that I
want to wrap up my application, which has haunted me for a while.
....................

Again, many thanks for your time and generous help. Any questions or
concerns, please let me know.

【在 m*********r 的大作中提到】

: my bad. I didn't put hard deadline as I thought it was not polite to push
: them so I put like " at your earliest convenience".
: It seems I should put deadline there now.

g*a2010-10-21 07:10

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多找几个人, journal editor is the best

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r*y2010-10-21 07:10

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ft "so embarrassed to ask"... why embarrassed about asking for a
reference letter? it's not that u did anything wrong.
embarrassed不是中文里的“不好意思”的意思

which I am

【在 r***l 的大作中提到】

: 他意思是不要put deadline吧
: anyway 我觉的还是不要给deadline,如果对方miss了你给的deadline,再催估计你也不
: 好开口了,大家就都很awkward了. 2周催一次,4周没答复,打电话. 就是客气,让对方不
: 好意思,觉的再拖guity.
: 大概就这么写
: I feel so embarrassed to ask you about the reference letter which I am
: looking forward to. I highly appreciate your time and understanding that I
: want to wrap up my application, which has haunted me for a while.
: ....................
:

r*l2010-10-21 07:10

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embarrassed用这里没什么问题. 是要表达你问人家自己也很不好意思(而不是理直气壮
),当然自己是没做错什么,道理上也没必要"embarrassed". 但上来就说I want to know when you can finish the letter.对方看着会很不舒服. 随便google一下,embarrassed的例句都是表达这个意思
http://www.epinions.com/content_3790446724
Approach them and ask. Usually something to the effect of, "Excuse me, Ms.
Cook? I am applying to college, and I was wondering if you would write a
recommendation letter for me," works just fine. Most likely, the person that
you're asking has been in the same position as you before. No need to
grovel or be embarrassed.......

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: ft "so embarrassed to ask"... why embarrassed about asking for a
: reference letter? it's not that u did anything wrong.
: embarrassed不是中文里的“不好意思”的意思
:
: which I am

g*e2010-10-21 07:10

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Did you mention that you will draft the letter to save hsi precious time?

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s*72010-10-21 07:10

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一个星期没消息，我是这么做的，而且很灵，一般发出一天之内准有回应：
Dear Dr AAA:
Have not heard from you for a while. So I am wondering whether my last Email
has been reached you. Therefor, I email my CV and draft to you again. Hope
you are able to receive.
I understand that whatever decision you made should be reasonable. Just let
me know if you need more info.
With best regards
然后把草稿和CV再发一遍，三个外国教授推荐就是这么搞到的。。。

b*M2010-10-21 07:10

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My experience, you must put the deadline, otherwise, no response. I usually
say:" I hope to get the letter by mm/dd/yy, please let me know if you need
more time".

z*a2010-10-21 07:10

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Just forget the first one