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c*e
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本人刚开始找工作,请大家帮帮我这个小白吧。。。
1. 在indeed或monster上面的job posting, 看到这些网站可以帮你发简历给公司,但
听说这样发过去格式会乱,是不是最好自己发简历给公司,或到公司网站上申请?
2. 如果不知道某个公司招不招人,但想把简历发过去问问。 这样的话email该怎么写
? 能不能只发个简历过去? 还是应该写个coverletter? 没有job discription的
话coverletter该怎么写啊?
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s*i
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依附理论”(Attachment Theory)
为什么一个平时很独立的女孩,恋爱后会对男友十分依赖?为什么小小的分手会使人做
出异常的事情甚至威胁生命?为什么有外遇时丈夫对元配会冷若冰霜、面若阎罗,但对
并不及元配的情人却曲意讨好、柔情似水?“依附理论”(Attachment Theory)他是
通过研究母亲与其1岁孩子的互动提出的,因为母婴关系与恋人关系有着很大程度的类
似:在一起时的心理满足和所谓的分离焦虑;“被无条件接纳”的心理需求和“最被重
视”的心理需求(如果婴儿发现母亲不理它,就会哭闹来引起母亲的注意,期望母亲产
生内疚来更好的满足自己)。所以有人戏称所有相爱的人心理年龄都会降到3岁以下,
退化成为父女或者母子关系。
下面介绍一下依附实验,将母婴引入一间有玩具的房间,观察母亲离开一会儿再回来过
程中婴儿的反应,发现了四种典型的表现:
a.安全型依附:母欲离去时婴欲挽留,表现出不快乐,母不在时无心玩玩具,母回来后
张手希望被抱,被抱一会儿后就要下地接着玩儿。这样的婴儿长大后在恋爱中表现较好
,包容、谅解、易相处,尊重爱人,不论你需要个人空间还是亲近时,他/她都可以给
你。
b.逃避型依附:母欲离去时婴儿无反应,母回来后也无反应,通过仪器发现婴儿也有焦
虑情绪,只是不表露出来。这与母婴平时的相处经验有关,婴儿学会了不期望母亲能长
时间相伴。这类的恋人,表现为比较冷漠,但是内心很需要爱情,只是不知道该怎样去
爱,他们更倾向于通过网络等其他非面对面的渠道寻找感情。
c.焦虑型,不安全型依附:母欲离去时婴哭喊不从更甚于a,母回来后还要打母亲,很
久之后才会安静下来,边玩边看着母,怕母亲再离去。给予这类恋人的忠告是:首先懂
得怎样当一个快乐的单身,才能在关系中找到快乐。
d.紊乱型依附。母欲离去时婴表现慌乱,不知道该怎么办,母回来后亦不知道该怎么办
,有时会出现张开手要抱的同时后退不让母接近。因为婴儿希望爱的对象——母亲,也
是造成其痛苦的对象,爱恨交织。这种类型的恋人一般受伤很多,分手时常会做出比较
出格的事,致命吸引。
孩子在前三年的经验最重要,可以一直影响其行为到青春期,对于他们的情绪,只能进
行输导而不是围堵,父母要做到emotion coach(情感教练)的作用而不是emotion
dismissing(不会翻译),举个例子:孩子的宠物狗死掉了,哭泣不止,母亲抱着安慰
说“我很理解你现在的悲伤情绪,妈妈以前养的一只猫也死掉了,……”,这就是
emotion coach;父亲来了却直接训斥:“哭什么哭?狗死了再买一条!”这就是
emotion dismissing。曾经有个女学生来向我诉苦,说花前月下,她依偎在bf怀里,正
想说“月亮好圆好亮啊”之类的话,bf忽然冒出一句:“1969年7月20日,阿姆斯壮的
脚已经踩上去过了!”顿时让她觉得虽然近在咫尺,心却离得比地月还远。安全型的人
在四种当中是最适合做爱人的,但是数量比较少,即使是紊乱型的爱人,只要找到领航
船,绕开暗礁安全停泊也不是不可能的。
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b*7
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EB23俨然已经是第一大版了
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j*1
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a beautiful house in our neighborhood is up for sale. Here is a list of
facts about the house
1 Solid brick tudor style (not brick veneer)
2. 2 stories with finished attic and basement, so total 4 levels of living
space. For the 2 main floors, it’s about 1600sf. Total usable area should
be at least 2100 sf.
3. LIRR commuter train station about 4 min away. 35-40 min train ride to
Penn Station
4. school district 14, probably the best one on the south shore, near city/
Nassau border. This district has a public pre-k program that runs half day.
With additional fee the child may choose to stay full day. The district is
relatively a rich one. So the schools are running up to meet the demand of
those parents with extra means, hence the quality of the education is pretty
good. Greatschool.org rating 9 from elementary to high schools, school
diggers rating 5. Newsweek high school ranks 250-350th nationally
5. new kitchen with stainless steel appliances and granite countertop,
recently remodeled, built-in breakfast bench area
6. 4 bedrooms, 1.5 bathroom updated, stone fireplace
7. original well-kept floor with beautiful mohagny inlay throughout the
house.
8. one car garage with additional carport area connected
9 gas heating (don’t know when they converted but it’s definitely a plus
to have)
10 in-ceiling multi-room stereo speakers. Recess lights in many rooms
11. asking price $473,500, all tax included $11381
12 many facilities near by, parks, library, Italian restaurants, pathmark/
stop&shop, Trader joes, banks, marshall/TJMaxx, costco, BJ, walmart, target,
bestbuy, cinema, iceskating rink, homedepot, lowes, a small-medium sized
mall, beach, bus stops, almost anything you want close to a home. Yet the
house is in a quiet secluded street in the small community.
There are something I would like to mention about this house. It sits in a
corner lot in a quiet residential area. Over the years the couple renovated
the house inside and out, particularly the yard. It’s a 80x100 irregular
shape park-like side yard with metal fences and stone patio, and a child
playset too. I would say it’s the most beautiful yard I ever saw. The house
is of brick construction, not veneer as I already mentioned. The build of
the wall, which is called solid common brick (verse common brick veneer),
add great value to the total worth of the house, as is indicated in Nassau
Property website. The advantage of this is easy maintenance (or zero
maintenance), fire-resistant and a particular charm that only comes from
aged brick. Another thing is traveling to Flushing. It takes 25 min door to
door when we go grocery shopping via Southern State Parkway-Cross island
Parkway-495.
I may sound like a TUO1 or agent, but I am not either. My daughter went to
the same bus stop as the son of that house so I know the couple. They are
low-key hardworking couples with mother stays home caring for 2 younger kids
and the house. The reason why I wanted to help by posting here is that they
are selling through for-sell-by-owner route. It might not bring as many
visitors as using agents would. I understand they probably want to save in
agent fee. With 3 young kids and one working parent, shedding 30k by hiring
agent may be a lot for them. Also we might want to sell our house too half
year later. I would like to see how the market goes in our area.
If anyone is interested, I can send you their address.
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c*e
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3. 海投的话resume都带不带reference? 还是要了再给?
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t*r
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“所以有人戏称所有相爱的人心理年龄都会降到3岁以下,退化成为父女
或者母子关系。”
如果想拿研究 funding 的话,把“有人戏称”去掉,然后去证明
“所有相爱的人”。
如果不能证明“所有相爱的人”,那请先确定被研究对象人群。
否则。。。funding 堪忧啊。。。
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b*d
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可能贴几张照片效果更好一些!

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【在 j*****1 的大作中提到】
: a beautiful house in our neighborhood is up for sale. Here is a list of
: facts about the house
: 1 Solid brick tudor style (not brick veneer)
: 2. 2 stories with finished attic and basement, so total 4 levels of living
: space. For the 2 main floors, it’s about 1600sf. Total usable area should
: be at least 2100 sf.
: 3. LIRR commuter train station about 4 min away. 35-40 min train ride to
: Penn Station
: 4. school district 14, probably the best one on the south shore, near city/
: Nassau border. This district has a public pre-k program that runs half day.

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g*i
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一般不带reference,别人要了再给.
我觉得找公司里的人内推效果比较好,其次是找公司的recruiter让他们投

【在 c****e 的大作中提到】
: 3. 海投的话resume都带不带reference? 还是要了再给?
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t*r
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我很怀疑大人 romantic relationship 的模型跟小孩一样,于是我
去 wiki 简单查了一下,发现确实不一样。大人的是:
Secure attachment
Insecure attachment:
Anxious–preoccupied attachment
Dismissive–avoidant attachment
Fearful–avoidant attachment
。。。唉。。。为毛。。。总要戴着科学的帽子夹带私货。。。
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j*1
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There are 6 pictures on the website. But from the flyer they put in our mail
box today, there are 12 pictures total. i will have to ask the couple if
they allow me to scan additional pictures in the flyer and post them here.
If not, intereted XDJM may visit the zillow website.

【在 b*d 的大作中提到】
: 可能贴几张照片效果更好一些!
:
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C*d
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Thanks for sharing

【在 g*****i 的大作中提到】
: 一般不带reference,别人要了再给.
: 我觉得找公司里的人内推效果比较好,其次是找公司的recruiter让他们投

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t*r
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其实在目前的原始医学的条件下,这种心理学更加原始。。。基本就是问卷
调查加天马行空混口饭吃。。。说实话,信一半、怀疑一半,才是上策。。。
不过也没办法,现代医学就是个原始科学。。。有人搞研究总是比不搞要好
。。。各家自己的事,看着办就好。。。这个毕竟不是毒蘑菇研究那样严格
的东东。。。
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g*n
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at least provide redfin/zillow link or address, please?
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t*r
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楼帅的帖子里最误导的是,那个事件,对小小娃来说,是 “emotional
compromised with a valid cause”。
但是很多事件,对大人/大娃来说,是 “emotional compromised
without a valid cause”。
楼帅所说的 emotion coach / emotion dismissing,仅仅对
“emotional compromised with a valid cause” 才有合理的
意义。
很多的自然成长过程中,在 emotional 方面的自然的 training,
是一个 simulation of future reality。任何一个 simulation,
都是让 trainee 有 certain rate of failure,一个不会让
trainee failure 的 simulation,只是浪费时间。。。
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p*n
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mppmzx
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t*r
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另外一个比喻,就好比吊葡萄糖。你得首先 evaluate,某些病人才需要吊。
健康人不需要,健康人没事去吊葡萄糖,没病也给吊出病来。。。万一碰上
一个二型糖尿病人。。。悲催了。。。
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j*1
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the address is 5 dubonnet rd valley stream. You may want to check it out on
zillow. the owner will send more pictures to me (more than the 6 on zillow).
I can forward it to you if you are interested

【在 g*******n 的大作中提到】
: at least provide redfin/zillow link or address, please?
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h*e
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built in 1930?长岛的房子好老呀。
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