I won't get married just to be taken of. That's selfish and unhealthy. I will probably wind up dying alone. It's okay: we should pay the price for the fun we have. The odds of getting hit by a bus is surely lower than getting a bitchy wife who never stops nagging you, which, to me, a chronic torture more unbearable than a car accident. Even if the wife is perfect, which I doubt possbile, there are still tremendous burdens out there in the marriage. I believe, to many people, the sheer pleasure of life is doing what a man really likes to do, having different taste, seeing different views, and his life is abundant in this fashion, for he has been sufficiently rewarded in this one way journey.
I was not suggesting a hedonist should never get married: I meant he should NOT dive into wedlock before he feels ready to sacrifice and compromise. A man is more willing to do so when he doesn't bother to explore other women's hearts, when knowledge is no mysterious to him, and then day-to-day chores can be a source of pleasure, and taking care of a family will be a joy insead of an affiliction. Even I will have to stay single for the rest of my life. Is it that bad? Not really! The proportion of married adults of all ages are merely 52% in America. I can always find single or divoced friends. I can always date women in my age till I die. Life is such a quaint and elusive trip: I never try to impose meaning on the chaos of my life; An indivisual is so trivial in this big world: all I care is having fun! (I will probably change my mind when getting older, and settle down in my 40s, by the way.)
the source for the quote: "The long-term slide in marriage rates has pushed the proportion of married adults of all ages to 52% in 2009, according to the Census, the lowest share in history. In 1960, 72.2% of adults over 18 were married. " http://online.wsj.com/article/SB10001424052748703882404575519871444705214.html
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【在 w**********u 的大作中提到】 : I guess you are right. I should have put it in this way: 贪玩,懒惰,不想受 : 家庭之累的千万不要结婚!!
w*u
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You are talking about hanging out with girl friends. Marriage spoils all the fun! Sweet girls become fussy and bossy wivies after getting married. Only men with servants' hearts can enjoy the companionship with them.
I agree with almost all of what you said below. It's good to see another person with similiar views as mine :) 现实生活中我很少听到happy marriages. 除了unhappy marriages, 很多就是"过的还 可以, 没时间吵架"这种的.
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【在 w**********u 的大作中提到】 : I won't get married just to be taken of. That's selfish and unhealthy. : I will probably wind up dying alone. It's okay: we should pay the price for : the fun we have. The odds of getting hit by a bus is surely lower than : getting a bitchy wife who never stops nagging you, which, to me, a chronic : torture more unbearable than a car accident. : Even if the wife is perfect, which I doubt possbile, there are still : tremendous burdens out there in the marriage. I believe, to many people, the : sheer pleasure of life is doing what a man really likes to do, having : different taste, seeing different views, and his life is abundant in this : fashion, for he has been sufficiently rewarded in this one way journey.
【在 I********e 的大作中提到】 : I agree with almost all of what you said below. It's good to see another : person with similiar views as mine :) : 现实生活中我很少听到happy marriages. 除了unhappy marriages, 很多就是"过的还 : 可以, 没时间吵架"这种的. : : for : the
I*e
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I've met quite a few people (some of them are middle aged) who don't have kids and are nothing like what you said - they are caring, helpful, positive and they are fun to hang around with! 他们也有家 (some are married others have lived together for many years) 有业, 只是没有孩子而已. 没有共同语言很正 常, 有了孩子很多人就只会谈孩子, 没有孩子的人对这方面有太大的兴趣. 你的想法太狭隘了. 不过没关系, 大家过的怎么样自己心里很清楚.
【在 I********e 的大作中提到】 : I've met quite a few people (some of them are middle aged) who don't have : kids and are nothing like what you said - they are caring, helpful, positive : and they are fun to hang around with! 他们也有家 (some are married others : have lived together for many years) 有业, 只是没有孩子而已. 没有共同语言很正 : 常, 有了孩子很多人就只会谈孩子, 没有孩子的人对这方面有太大的兴趣. : 你的想法太狭隘了. 不过没关系, 大家过的怎么样自己心里很清楚.
First of all, I thought you were mostly talking about being parents. Having kids or not makes a huge difference which is definitely bigger than being married vs living together long term (note I said "long term", I am not talking about sleeping with someone for 6 months then moving on to the next). You seem to think that being a parent makes a person so great. My observation actually kind of disagrees with that. I've seen many people who are very reasonable on their own. But as soon as it comes to stuff related to their kids they become very unreasonable people; they become people I would not want to associate myself with - "My kids are the best" "It must be your fault 'cause my kids wouldn't do something like that" "What do you mean my kid's screaming and throwing food in public is bothering you? He's just a kid.". Of course I know people who are very reasonable parents and very considerate to other people's feelings. But I've seen soooo many counter examples. Secondly, you wanna talk statistics so let's talk about that - let me ask you a question - 一百对结婚的人, 快乐的有多少? 你好象也不觉得有多少吧.所以 你说人生不能就追求快乐. 社会好象也不觉得快乐的比例有多高吧..要不离婚率怎么 会这么高.
【在 w**********u 的大作中提到】 : I won't get married just to be taken of. That's selfish and unhealthy. : I will probably wind up dying alone. It's okay: we should pay the price for : the fun we have. The odds of getting hit by a bus is surely lower than : getting a bitchy wife who never stops nagging you, which, to me, a chronic : torture more unbearable than a car accident. : Even if the wife is perfect, which I doubt possbile, there are still : tremendous burdens out there in the marriage. I believe, to many people, the : sheer pleasure of life is doing what a man really likes to do, having : different taste, seeing different views, and his life is abundant in this : fashion, for he has been sufficiently rewarded in this one way journey.
【在 s*****t 的大作中提到】 : 各人有各人的生活方式,樓主沒有傷害別人的意思, 只是坦白出來說說,有些人何必 : 那麽harsh or judgmentally mean ?貌似好心, 不是一種羡慕嫉妒恨? : 不過樓主標題確實聳動了,日子自己過就好了,誰也別勸説誰
e*g
49 楼
I won't get married just to be taken of. That's selfish and unhealthy.
【在 w**********u 的大作中提到】 : I won't get married just to be taken of. That's selfish and unhealthy. : I will probably wind up dying alone. It's okay: we should pay the price for : the fun we have. The odds of getting hit by a bus is surely lower than : getting a bitchy wife who never stops nagging you, which, to me, a chronic : torture more unbearable than a car accident. : Even if the wife is perfect, which I doubt possbile, there are still : tremendous burdens out there in the marriage. I believe, to many people, the : sheer pleasure of life is doing what a man really likes to do, having : different taste, seeing different views, and his life is abundant in this : fashion, for he has been sufficiently rewarded in this one way journey.
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【在 I********e 的大作中提到】 : First of all, I thought you were mostly talking about being parents. Having : kids or not makes a huge difference which is definitely bigger than being : married vs living together long term (note I said "long term", I am not : talking about sleeping with someone for 6 months then moving on to the next). : You seem to think that being a parent makes a person so great. My : observation actually kind of disagrees with that. I've seen many people who : are very reasonable on their own. But as soon as it comes to stuff related : to their kids they become very unreasonable people; they become people I : would not want to associate myself with - "My kids are the best" "It must be : your fault 'cause my kids wouldn't do something like that" "What do you
d*e
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【在 w**********u 的大作中提到】 : I won't get married just to be taken of. That's selfish and unhealthy. : I will probably wind up dying alone. It's okay: we should pay the price for : the fun we have. The odds of getting hit by a bus is surely lower than : getting a bitchy wife who never stops nagging you, which, to me, a chronic : torture more unbearable than a car accident. : Even if the wife is perfect, which I doubt possbile, there are still : tremendous burdens out there in the marriage. I believe, to many people, the : sheer pleasure of life is doing what a man really likes to do, having : different taste, seeing different views, and his life is abundant in this : fashion, for he has been sufficiently rewarded in this one way journey.
you idea of manipulating Chinese to follow you own life choice by imposing this is the only way to enjoy life is far more disgusting, You choose your own life style, I don't care. But you can't manipulate others to follow you by saying this is to enjoy life. This will cause extinction of our own kind. Suck my ball, biiitch!
【在 m**e 的大作中提到】 : Your language is disgusting. You are a Bitch!