多少人能够无条件地接受自己# Midlife - 人到中年
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...With self-acceptance we're just--non-judgmentally--affirming who we are,
with whatever strengths--and weaknesses--we possess in the moment.
The problem with any focus on self-improvement is that such an orientation
inevitably makes self-acceptance conditional. After all, we can't ever feel
totally secure or good enough so long as our self-regard depends on
constantly bettering ourselves. Self-acceptance is here-and-now oriented--
not future oriented, as in: "I'll be okay when . . ." or "As soon as I
accomplish . . . I'll be okay." Self-acceptance is about already being okay,
with no qualifications--period. It's not that we ignore or deny our faults
or frailties, just that we view them as irrelevant to our basic
acceptability.
我就老想着要提高自己.
with whatever strengths--and weaknesses--we possess in the moment.
The problem with any focus on self-improvement is that such an orientation
inevitably makes self-acceptance conditional. After all, we can't ever feel
totally secure or good enough so long as our self-regard depends on
constantly bettering ourselves. Self-acceptance is here-and-now oriented--
not future oriented, as in: "I'll be okay when . . ." or "As soon as I
accomplish . . . I'll be okay." Self-acceptance is about already being okay,
with no qualifications--period. It's not that we ignore or deny our faults
or frailties, just that we view them as irrelevant to our basic
acceptability.
我就老想着要提高自己.
