J*p
2 楼
从 Dr Sear 那儿看来的。我觉得让孩子能专心地听父母说话真的挺难的。正在学习中
,愿意和各位分享。
25 Ways to Talk So Children Will Listen
A major part of discipline is learning how to talk with children. The way
you talk to your child teaches him how to talk to others. Here are some
talking tips we have learned with our children:
1. Connect Before You Direct
Before giving your child directions, squat to your child's eye level and
engage your child in eye-to-eye contact to get his attention. Teach him how
to focus: "Mary, I need your eyes." "Billy, I need your ears." Offer the
same body language when listening to the child. Be sure not to make your eye
contact so intense that your child perceives it as controlling rather than
connecting.
2. Address The Child
Open your request with the child's name, "Lauren, will you please..."
3. Stay Brief
We use the one-sentence rule: Put the main directive in the opening sentence
. The longer you ramble, the more likely your child is to become parent-deaf
. Too much talking is a very common mistake when dialoging about an issue.
It gives the child the feeling that you're not quite sure what it is you
want to say. If she can keep you talking she can get you sidetracked.
4. Stay Simple
Use short sentences with one-syllable words. Listen to how kids communicate
with each other and take note. When your child shows that glazed,
disinterested look, you are no longer being understood.
5. Ask Your Child to Repeat the Request Back to You
If he can't, it's too long or too complicated.
6. Make an offer the child can't refuse
You can reason with a two or three-year-old, especially to avoid power
struggles. "Get dressed so you can go outside and play." Offer a reason for
your request that is to the child's advantage, and one that is difficult to
refuse. This gives her a reason to move out of her power position and do
what you want her to do.
7. Be Positive
Instead of "no running," try: "Inside we walk, outside you may run."
8. Begin your Directives With "I want."
Instead of "Get down," say "I want you to get down." Instead of "Let Becky
have a turn," say "I want you to let Becky have a turn now." This works well
with children who want to please but don't like being ordered. By saying "I
want," you give a reason for compliance rather than just an order.
9. "When...Then."
"When you get your teeth brushed, then we'll begin the story." "When your
work is finished, then you can watch TV." "When," which implies that you
expect obedience, works better than "if," which suggests that the child has
a choice when you don't mean to give him one.
10. Legs First, Mouth Second
Instead of hollering, "Turn off the TV, it's time for dinner!" walk into the
room where your child is watching TV, join in with your child's interests
for a few minutes, and then, during a commercial break, have your child turn
off the TV. Going to your child conveys you're serious about your request;
otherwise children interpret this as a mere preference.
11. Give Choices
"Do you want to put your pajamas on or brush your teeth first?" "Red shirt
or blue one?"
12. Speak Developmentally Correctly
The younger the child, the shorter and simpler your directives should be.
Consider your child's level of understanding. For example, a common error
parents make is asking a three-year- old, "Why did you do that?" Most adults
can't always answer that question about their behavior. Try instead, "Let's
talk about what you did."
13. Speak Socially Correctly
Even a two-year-old can learn "please." Expect your child to be polite.
Children shouldn't feel manners are optional. Speak to your children the way
you want them to speak to you.
14. Speak Psychologically Correctly
Threats and judgmental openers are likely to put the child on the defensive.
"You" messages make a child clam up. "I" messages are non-accusing. Instead
of "You'd better do this..." or "You must...," try "I would like...." or "I
am so pleased when you..." Instead of "You need to clear the table," say "I
need you to clear the table." Don't ask a leading question when a negative
answer is not an option. "Will you please pick up your coat?" Just say, "
Pick up your coat, please."
15. Write It
Reminders can evolve into nagging so easily, especially for preteens who
feel being told things puts them in the slave category. Without saying a
word you can communicate anything you need said. Talk with a pad and pencil.
Leave humorous notes for your child. Then sit back and watch it happen.
16. Talk The Child Down
The louder your child yells, the softer you respond. Let your child
ventilate while you interject timely comments: "I understand" or "Can I help
?" Sometimes just having a caring listener available will wind down the
tantrum. If you come in at his level, you have two tantrums to deal with. Be
the adult for him.
17. Settle The Listener
Before giving your directive, restore emotional equilibrium, otherwise you
are wasting your time. Nothing sinks in when a child is an emotional wreck.
18. Replay Your Message
Toddlers need to be told a thousand times. Children under two have
difficulty internalizing your directives. Most three- year-olds begin to
internalize directives so that what you ask begins to sink in. Do less and
less repeating as your child gets older. Preteens regard repetition as
nagging.
19. Let Your Child Complete The Thought
Instead of "Don't leave your mess piled up," try: "Matthew, think of where
you want to store your soccer stuff." Letting the child fill in the blanks
is more likely to create a lasting lesson.
20. Use Rhyme Rules
"If you hit, you must sit." Get your child to repeat them.
21. Give Likable Alternatives
You can't go by yourself to the park; but you can play in the neighbor's
yard.
22. Give Advance Notice
"We are leaving soon. Say bye-bye to the toys, bye-bye to the girls…"
23. Open Up a Closed Child
Carefully chosen phrases open up closed little minds and mouths. Stick to
topics that you know your child gets excited about. Ask questions that
require more than a yes or no. Stick to specifics. Instead of "Did you have
a good day at school today?" try "What is the most fun thing you did today?"
24. Use "When You…I Feel…Because…"
When you run away from mommy in the store I feel worried because you might
get lost.
25. Close The Discussion
If a matter is really closed to discussion, say so. "I'm not changing my
mind about this. Sorry." You'll save wear and tear on both you and your
child. Reserve your "I mean business" tone of voice for when you do.
,愿意和各位分享。
25 Ways to Talk So Children Will Listen
A major part of discipline is learning how to talk with children. The way
you talk to your child teaches him how to talk to others. Here are some
talking tips we have learned with our children:
1. Connect Before You Direct
Before giving your child directions, squat to your child's eye level and
engage your child in eye-to-eye contact to get his attention. Teach him how
to focus: "Mary, I need your eyes." "Billy, I need your ears." Offer the
same body language when listening to the child. Be sure not to make your eye
contact so intense that your child perceives it as controlling rather than
connecting.
2. Address The Child
Open your request with the child's name, "Lauren, will you please..."
3. Stay Brief
We use the one-sentence rule: Put the main directive in the opening sentence
. The longer you ramble, the more likely your child is to become parent-deaf
. Too much talking is a very common mistake when dialoging about an issue.
It gives the child the feeling that you're not quite sure what it is you
want to say. If she can keep you talking she can get you sidetracked.
4. Stay Simple
Use short sentences with one-syllable words. Listen to how kids communicate
with each other and take note. When your child shows that glazed,
disinterested look, you are no longer being understood.
5. Ask Your Child to Repeat the Request Back to You
If he can't, it's too long or too complicated.
6. Make an offer the child can't refuse
You can reason with a two or three-year-old, especially to avoid power
struggles. "Get dressed so you can go outside and play." Offer a reason for
your request that is to the child's advantage, and one that is difficult to
refuse. This gives her a reason to move out of her power position and do
what you want her to do.
7. Be Positive
Instead of "no running," try: "Inside we walk, outside you may run."
8. Begin your Directives With "I want."
Instead of "Get down," say "I want you to get down." Instead of "Let Becky
have a turn," say "I want you to let Becky have a turn now." This works well
with children who want to please but don't like being ordered. By saying "I
want," you give a reason for compliance rather than just an order.
9. "When...Then."
"When you get your teeth brushed, then we'll begin the story." "When your
work is finished, then you can watch TV." "When," which implies that you
expect obedience, works better than "if," which suggests that the child has
a choice when you don't mean to give him one.
10. Legs First, Mouth Second
Instead of hollering, "Turn off the TV, it's time for dinner!" walk into the
room where your child is watching TV, join in with your child's interests
for a few minutes, and then, during a commercial break, have your child turn
off the TV. Going to your child conveys you're serious about your request;
otherwise children interpret this as a mere preference.
11. Give Choices
"Do you want to put your pajamas on or brush your teeth first?" "Red shirt
or blue one?"
12. Speak Developmentally Correctly
The younger the child, the shorter and simpler your directives should be.
Consider your child's level of understanding. For example, a common error
parents make is asking a three-year- old, "Why did you do that?" Most adults
can't always answer that question about their behavior. Try instead, "Let's
talk about what you did."
13. Speak Socially Correctly
Even a two-year-old can learn "please." Expect your child to be polite.
Children shouldn't feel manners are optional. Speak to your children the way
you want them to speak to you.
14. Speak Psychologically Correctly
Threats and judgmental openers are likely to put the child on the defensive.
"You" messages make a child clam up. "I" messages are non-accusing. Instead
of "You'd better do this..." or "You must...," try "I would like...." or "I
am so pleased when you..." Instead of "You need to clear the table," say "I
need you to clear the table." Don't ask a leading question when a negative
answer is not an option. "Will you please pick up your coat?" Just say, "
Pick up your coat, please."
15. Write It
Reminders can evolve into nagging so easily, especially for preteens who
feel being told things puts them in the slave category. Without saying a
word you can communicate anything you need said. Talk with a pad and pencil.
Leave humorous notes for your child. Then sit back and watch it happen.
16. Talk The Child Down
The louder your child yells, the softer you respond. Let your child
ventilate while you interject timely comments: "I understand" or "Can I help
?" Sometimes just having a caring listener available will wind down the
tantrum. If you come in at his level, you have two tantrums to deal with. Be
the adult for him.
17. Settle The Listener
Before giving your directive, restore emotional equilibrium, otherwise you
are wasting your time. Nothing sinks in when a child is an emotional wreck.
18. Replay Your Message
Toddlers need to be told a thousand times. Children under two have
difficulty internalizing your directives. Most three- year-olds begin to
internalize directives so that what you ask begins to sink in. Do less and
less repeating as your child gets older. Preteens regard repetition as
nagging.
19. Let Your Child Complete The Thought
Instead of "Don't leave your mess piled up," try: "Matthew, think of where
you want to store your soccer stuff." Letting the child fill in the blanks
is more likely to create a lasting lesson.
20. Use Rhyme Rules
"If you hit, you must sit." Get your child to repeat them.
21. Give Likable Alternatives
You can't go by yourself to the park; but you can play in the neighbor's
yard.
22. Give Advance Notice
"We are leaving soon. Say bye-bye to the toys, bye-bye to the girls…"
23. Open Up a Closed Child
Carefully chosen phrases open up closed little minds and mouths. Stick to
topics that you know your child gets excited about. Ask questions that
require more than a yes or no. Stick to specifics. Instead of "Did you have
a good day at school today?" try "What is the most fun thing you did today?"
24. Use "When You…I Feel…Because…"
When you run away from mommy in the store I feel worried because you might
get lost.
25. Close The Discussion
If a matter is really closed to discussion, say so. "I'm not changing my
mind about this. Sorry." You'll save wear and tear on both you and your
child. Reserve your "I mean business" tone of voice for when you do.
z*i
3 楼
为什么大家通常选本地的AGENT,很少选外地的或ONLINE的.
我在CO,可以选CA的AGENT吗?
多谢!!
我在CO,可以选CA的AGENT吗?
多谢!!
p*w
4 楼
“大概8点20发”———猪一样队友(图)zz
现在满微博的“大概8点20发”,了解下,原来是CCTV今天要黑苹果手机,拟好了微博
内容,请几个“微博红人”在晚上8点20分发用来造势,一个叫何润东的明星大概懒得
动脑子,直接把CCTV发给他的短信转发微博了,这样何润东就成了猪一样的队友,另外
如什么留几手、郑渊洁等几个聪明人就自动暴露了!
@辣笔小球 【爆料】给留几手、郑渊洁、何润东等10万元,让他们在同一时间发布微博
黑苹果的微博的某公关公司,受雇于三星。公关公司就和上述人士有过联系,并询问过
是原创,还是写好复制给他们。留几手和郑渊洁都是玩笔头子的,但何润东这胸无点墨
的傻逼这次坑爹了,把私信内容的发布时间也当做内容发出来了。
现在满微博的“大概8点20发”,了解下,原来是CCTV今天要黑苹果手机,拟好了微博
内容,请几个“微博红人”在晚上8点20分发用来造势,一个叫何润东的明星大概懒得
动脑子,直接把CCTV发给他的短信转发微博了,这样何润东就成了猪一样的队友,另外
如什么留几手、郑渊洁等几个聪明人就自动暴露了!
@辣笔小球 【爆料】给留几手、郑渊洁、何润东等10万元,让他们在同一时间发布微博
黑苹果的微博的某公关公司,受雇于三星。公关公司就和上述人士有过联系,并询问过
是原创,还是写好复制给他们。留几手和郑渊洁都是玩笔头子的,但何润东这胸无点墨
的傻逼这次坑爹了,把私信内容的发布时间也当做内容发出来了。
h*y
6 楼
MARK
y*a
7 楼
可以啊
只要他能做你们州的就行
只要他能做你们州的就行
s*3
8 楼
有意思 央视315究竟是打假还是造假啊
i*k
10 楼
谢谢分享!
how
【在 J*******p 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png)
: 从 Dr Sear 那儿看来的。我觉得让孩子能专心地听父母说话真的挺难的。正在学习中
: ,愿意和各位分享。
: 25 Ways to Talk So Children Will Listen
: A major part of discipline is learning how to talk with children. The way
: you talk to your child teaches him how to talk to others. Here are some
: talking tips we have learned with our children:
: 1. Connect Before You Direct
: Before giving your child directions, squat to your child's eye level and
: engage your child in eye-to-eye contact to get his attention. Teach him how
: to focus: "Mary, I need your eyes." "Billy, I need your ears." Offer the
how
【在 J*******p 的大作中提到】
![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png)
: 从 Dr Sear 那儿看来的。我觉得让孩子能专心地听父母说话真的挺难的。正在学习中
: ,愿意和各位分享。
: 25 Ways to Talk So Children Will Listen
: A major part of discipline is learning how to talk with children. The way
: you talk to your child teaches him how to talk to others. Here are some
: talking tips we have learned with our children:
: 1. Connect Before You Direct
: Before giving your child directions, squat to your child's eye level and
: engage your child in eye-to-eye contact to get his attention. Teach him how
: to focus: "Mary, I need your eyes." "Billy, I need your ears." Offer the
s*m
12 楼
哎,名人来钱真容易啊,按个按钮10万?我只能仰望。
f*r
14 楼
谢谢分享!
t*u
18 楼
本地的对身份要求没有那么严格,有时或许利率要比大银行底点
n*w
22 楼
lol
b*7
28 楼
看不懂。 8点20发怎么呢?
s*m
31 楼
这东西怎么辟谣啊?自己故意写个8点20来陷害其他名人?
a*a
37 楼
为啥何润东的这条,没有时间戳?
C*d
43 楼
看看这导演说的,如何选材。
【总导演尹文:3•15晚会选题有三个标准】2013年中央电视台3•15晚会刚
结束,总导演尹文接受新浪财经独家对话,详细讲述3•15晚会的三个选题标准,
“一,是不是真的是消费者关心的问题。第二,是不是现在我们需要迫切解决的问题。
第三是不是共性的问题。
【总导演尹文:3•15晚会选题有三个标准】2013年中央电视台3•15晚会刚
结束,总导演尹文接受新浪财经独家对话,详细讲述3•15晚会的三个选题标准,
“一,是不是真的是消费者关心的问题。第二,是不是现在我们需要迫切解决的问题。
第三是不是共性的问题。
a*a
44 楼
在别的截图里,看到何润东是26分发的,也就是说,完全可以看到大家的发言之后,再
编造这条陷害大家
编造这条陷害大家
w*p
45 楼
有分教: 大概八点二十发,我花开后百花杀; 冲突臭气透央视,大V不慎露菊花
y*e
47 楼
笑死我了。。。拿钱办事也得找个靠谱的。。
【在 p*********w 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png)
: “大概8点20发”———猪一样队友(图)zz
: 现在满微博的“大概8点20发”,了解下,原来是CCTV今天要黑苹果手机,拟好了微博
: 内容,请几个“微博红人”在晚上8点20分发用来造势,一个叫何润东的明星大概懒得
: 动脑子,直接把CCTV发给他的短信转发微博了,这样何润东就成了猪一样的队友,另外
: 如什么留几手、郑渊洁等几个聪明人就自动暴露了!
: @辣笔小球 【爆料】给留几手、郑渊洁、何润东等10万元,让他们在同一时间发布微博
: 黑苹果的微博的某公关公司,受雇于三星。公关公司就和上述人士有过联系,并询问过
: 是原创,还是写好复制给他们。留几手和郑渊洁都是玩笔头子的,但何润东这胸无点墨
: 的傻逼这次坑爹了,把私信内容的发布时间也当做内容发出来了。
【在 p*********w 的大作中提到】
![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png)
: “大概8点20发”———猪一样队友(图)zz
: 现在满微博的“大概8点20发”,了解下,原来是CCTV今天要黑苹果手机,拟好了微博
: 内容,请几个“微博红人”在晚上8点20分发用来造势,一个叫何润东的明星大概懒得
: 动脑子,直接把CCTV发给他的短信转发微博了,这样何润东就成了猪一样的队友,另外
: 如什么留几手、郑渊洁等几个聪明人就自动暴露了!
: @辣笔小球 【爆料】给留几手、郑渊洁、何润东等10万元,让他们在同一时间发布微博
: 黑苹果的微博的某公关公司,受雇于三星。公关公司就和上述人士有过联系,并询问过
: 是原创,还是写好复制给他们。留几手和郑渊洁都是玩笔头子的,但何润东这胸无点墨
: 的傻逼这次坑爹了,把私信内容的发布时间也当做内容发出来了。
z*3
48 楼
这是黑苹果的CCTV8点二十左右(只能左不能右)节目播,配合大V攻势,两方面都宣传了
...
【在 p*********w 的大作中提到】![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png)
: “大概8点20发”———猪一样队友(图)zz
: 现在满微博的“大概8点20发”,了解下,原来是CCTV今天要黑苹果手机,拟好了微博
: 内容,请几个“微博红人”在晚上8点20分发用来造势,一个叫何润东的明星大概懒得
: 动脑子,直接把CCTV发给他的短信转发微博了,这样何润东就成了猪一样的队友,另外
: 如什么留几手、郑渊洁等几个聪明人就自动暴露了!
: @辣笔小球 【爆料】给留几手、郑渊洁、何润东等10万元,让他们在同一时间发布微博
: 黑苹果的微博的某公关公司,受雇于三星。公关公司就和上述人士有过联系,并询问过
: 是原创,还是写好复制给他们。留几手和郑渊洁都是玩笔头子的,但何润东这胸无点墨
: 的傻逼这次坑爹了,把私信内容的发布时间也当做内容发出来了。
...
【在 p*********w 的大作中提到】
![](/moin_static193/solenoid/img/up.png)
: “大概8点20发”———猪一样队友(图)zz
: 现在满微博的“大概8点20发”,了解下,原来是CCTV今天要黑苹果手机,拟好了微博
: 内容,请几个“微博红人”在晚上8点20分发用来造势,一个叫何润东的明星大概懒得
: 动脑子,直接把CCTV发给他的短信转发微博了,这样何润东就成了猪一样的队友,另外
: 如什么留几手、郑渊洁等几个聪明人就自动暴露了!
: @辣笔小球 【爆料】给留几手、郑渊洁、何润东等10万元,让他们在同一时间发布微博
: 黑苹果的微博的某公关公司,受雇于三星。公关公司就和上述人士有过联系,并询问过
: 是原创,还是写好复制给他们。留几手和郑渊洁都是玩笔头子的,但何润东这胸无点墨
: 的傻逼这次坑爹了,把私信内容的发布时间也当做内容发出来了。
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