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【 以下文字转载自 WaterWorld 讨论区 】
发信人: Sande710 (SD主妇), 信区: WaterWorld
标 题: 【哈佛大学推荐】20个快乐的习惯
关键字: 快乐 智慧
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Thu Mar 19 13:57:53 2015, 美东)
1. Be grateful.
要学会感恩。
Slow down, look around you, and pay attention to the little details in your
life – the delicate purple flower on the sidewalk, the beautiful sunset,
the hot shower that washes away your long day, and the smile in your partner
’s eyes…
让自己变慢脚步，看看你的四周，关注生活中的细微之处：人行道上淡紫色的花，美丽
的日落，洗去你一天疲惫的淋浴，伴侣眼中的笑容。
When you have a grateful heart that is appreciative of life’s beautify,
wonder and blessings, you’re automatically filled with happiness.
当你的感恩之心能够欣赏生活的美，思考和祝福，你自然就充满了幸福感。
2. Choose your friends wisely.
明智的选择自己的朋友。
According to Harvard, the most important external factors affecting
individual happiness are human relationships. So if you want to be happy,
choose to be around people who are optimistic, who appreciate you as you are
, and who can make your life richer, bigger, more fun, and more meaningful.
根据哈佛，影响个人幸福最重要的外部因素是人际关系。所以如果你想变得开心的话，
要选择和乐观的朋友在一起，他们能欣赏你真实的自己，让你的生活变得更丰富，快乐
，有意义。
3. Cultivate compassion.
培养同情心。
When we try to step into other people’s shoes and understand a situation
from another’s perspective, we’re more likely to handle the situation with
compassion, objectivity and effectiveness. There will be less conflicts and
more happiness.
当我们代替别人，站在另一个角度看问题，我们更能用同情心，客观和有效的处理问题
。生活中就会少一些冲突，多一点快乐。
4. Keep learning.
不断学习。
Learning keeps us young and dreams keep us alive. When we engage our brains
and put them toward productive uses, we’re less likely to dwell on unhappy
thoughts and much more likely to feel happy and fulfilled.
学习让我们保持年轻，梦想让我们充满活力。我们运用大脑，进行运作的时候，我们就
不大会想不开心心的事情，我们会变得更开心和满足。
5. Become a problem solver.
学会解决问题。
Happy people are problem solvers. When they encounter a challenge in life,
they don’t beat themselves up and fall into a depressive state. Instead,
they face up to the challenge and channel their energies toward finding
creative a solution. By becoming a problem solver, you’ll build up your
self-confidence and your ability to accomplish whatever it is you set your
mind to – and whatever challenges life throws your way.
开心的人是会解决问题的人。在生活中遇到挑战的时候，他们不会自虐，然后变得很消
沉。他们会直面挑战，调动全身力量寻找解决办法。通过变成一个解决问题的人，你会
建立自己的自信心和下决心要的事情和直面挑战的能力。
6. Do what you love.
做你想做的事情。
Since we spend over one-third of our adult life working, loving what we do
has a huge impact on our overall happiness. If this is not possible at the
moment, then try to find enjoyment and meaning in your current work, or
cultivate a hobby that involves doing something you love.
既然我们成人生活的三分之一时间都在工作，那么做我们想做的事对我们的整体辛福感
就有很大的影响。如果现在不能做你想做的事情，那就试着在你现在的工作中寻找快乐
和意义，或者培养一个你喜爱的兴趣。
7. Live in the present.
活在当下。
When you feel depressed, you’re living in the past. When you feel worried
or anxious, you’re living in the future. But when you feel content, happy
and peaceful, you’re living in the present.
你感到沮丧，是因为你活在过去。你会感到担忧和焦虑，是因为你活在未来。但是当你
感到满足，开心和平和时，你才是活在当下。
8. Laugh often.
要经常笑。
Laughter is the most powerful anecdote to anger or depression. Research has
shown that the simple act of curving the corners of your mouth can increase
your feeling of happiness. So don’t take life too seriously. Try to find
humor and laughter in life’s everyday struggles.
笑是对抗生气或沮丧最有力的的东西。研究表明简单的嘴巴上扬也可以增加你的幸福感
。不要把生活看的太严肃。要学会在每日的奋斗中寻找幽默感和笑声。
9. Practice forgiveness.
学会原谅。
Resentment and anger are forms of self-punishment. When you forgive, you’re
actually practicing kindness to yourself. And most importantly, learn to
forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. It’s through our mistakes that
we learn and grow to become a bigger and better person.
憎恨和生气是对自我的惩罚。当你释怀的时候，事实上你是在对自己施以善意。最重要
的是，学会原谅自己。每个人都犯错。只有通过我们的错误，我们才慢慢学会如何成为
一个更强大，更好的人。
10. Say thanks often.
要经常说谢谢。
Always be appreciative of the blessings in your life. And it’s equally
important to express your appreciation to those who’ve made your life
better in some way, big or small.
对生活中的祝福要学会欣赏。向那些让你生活变好的人，无论或大或小，表达出你的欣
赏之情也同样重要。
11. Create deeper connections.
学会深交。
Our happiness multiplies when we connect and bond with another human being
on a deeper level. And being fully present and listening are two of the most
important skills to strengthening that bond and bringing happiness to
ourselves, and to others.
我们的幸福感会在和另一个人的深交中不断猛增。专注聆听是加强这种关系纽带和把幸
福感带给自己和别人的两个最重要的方面。
12. Keep your agreement.
守承诺。
Our self-esteem is built on the agreements we’ve made with ourselves. And
high self-esteem has a direct correlation to happiness. So keep your
agreements with others and with yourself.
我们的自尊是建立在我们对自己守承诺的情况下。高度的自尊和幸福感有直接关联。所
以要对自己和别人遵守承诺。
13. Meditate.
冥想。
According to Harvard, people who take 8 sessions of mindfulness meditation
training are, on average, 20% happier than a control group. Such training
can lead to structural brain changes including increased grey-matter density
in the hippocampus, known to be important for learning and memory, and in
structures associated with self-awareness, compassion and introspection.
根据哈佛，平均上，上过8次冥想训练的人要比控制狂多开心20%。这样的训练可以导致
大脑结构变化，包括海马体黑色物质的密度，其对学习和记忆很重要，在结构上和自我
意识，同情心和反省。
14. Focus on what you’re doing.
关注你在做的事情。
When you put your mind, heart and soul into what you’re doing, you’re
creating a happiness state – called the “flow.” When you’re living in
the flow, you’re less likely to care about what others may think of you,
and less bothered by things that are not that important. The result? More
happiness, of course!
当你全身心投入一件事的时候，你就会处于一个开心的状态。当我们处于这种状态，你
就不大会关心别人对你怎么看，不大会被不大重要的事情干扰。结果呢？更幸福，当然
啦！
15. Be optimistic.
要乐观。
For happy people, the glass is always half-full. If your tendency is to
imagine the very worst-case scenario every time you face a challenge, then
train yourself to reverse that tendency. Ask yourself what good can come out
of the situation or what you can learn from it. Optimism surely fuels
success and happiness.
对于开心的人来说，玻璃都一直是半满的。每当你面对一个挑战时，如果你倾向于想象
最坏的想法，那就自我转换这种情况。告诉你自己一个状况中的好处或者你从中学到的
东西。乐观肯定能驱动成功和幸福感。
16. Love unconditionally.
无条件的爱。
No one is perfect. Accept yourself for all of your imperfections. And do so
for others. Loving someone unconditionally does not mean that you need to
spend all your time with them or help them figure out their problems.
Unconditional love means accepting people as they are, and allowing them to
find their own ways, at their own pace.
没人是完美的。接受你自己所有的不完美。也要这样对待别人。无条件的爱一个人并不
意味着你要花所有的时间和他们在一起，或者帮助他们解决问题。无条件的爱意味着接
受真实的他们，以他们自己的步伐，让他们自己摸索。
17. Don’t give up.
不要放弃。
Unfinished projects and repeated defeats inevitably dampen one’s self-
esteem. If you’ve made up your mind to do something, see it through. Don’t
give up until you succeed. Remember, failure is temporary but defeat is
permanent. And defeat only occurs when you give up.
没有完成的方案和不断的失败不可避免的会削弱你的自尊。如果你决定做某事，做完它
。在成功之前都不要放弃。要记住，失败是暂时的，打败的永存的。只有当你放弃的时
候，你才会被打败。
18. Do your best and then let go.
做最好的自己，然后放手。
Everyone has limitations, and things don’t always turn out to be what we’d
like them to be – despite our efforts. So always give your best, and then
let go. Let events run their course. When you’ve done your best, you’ll
have no regrets.
每个人都有局限性。而且有时候尽管我们很努力做一件事情，但是总会事与愿违。所以
做最好的自己，然后放手。当你尽了全力，你就没有遗憾了。
19. Take care of yourself.
好好照顾自己。
A healthy body is the key to happiness. If you have poor health, it’s very
difficult to be happy no matter how hard you try. So make sure you eat well,
exercise and find time to rest. Take good care of your body, your mind and
your spirit.
一个健康的身体是幸福的关键。如果你身体不好，你无论如何努力，都很难快乐。确信
自己吃得好，做锻炼，找点时间休息。好好照顾你的身体，大脑和精神。
20. Give back.
学会给予。
Doing good is one of the surest ways to feel good. According to Harvard,
when people do good, their brains becomes active in the very same reward
center that is stimulated when they experience other rewards. So it’s not a
surprise that people who care more about others are happier than those who
care less about others.
做好事是最能确保你心情好的方法之一。根据哈佛，人们做好事，他们的大脑变得活跃
，就好像当你经历别的奖励时，大脑所受的刺激。所以，那些关心别人的人要比不大关
心别人的人更开心。
发信人: Sande710 (SD主妇), 信区: WaterWorld
标 题: 【哈佛大学推荐】20个快乐的习惯
关键字: 快乐 智慧
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Thu Mar 19 13:57:53 2015, 美东)
1. Be grateful.
要学会感恩。
Slow down, look around you, and pay attention to the little details in your
life – the delicate purple flower on the sidewalk, the beautiful sunset,
the hot shower that washes away your long day, and the smile in your partner
’s eyes…
让自己变慢脚步，看看你的四周，关注生活中的细微之处：人行道上淡紫色的花，美丽
的日落，洗去你一天疲惫的淋浴，伴侣眼中的笑容。
When you have a grateful heart that is appreciative of life’s beautify,
wonder and blessings, you’re automatically filled with happiness.
当你的感恩之心能够欣赏生活的美，思考和祝福，你自然就充满了幸福感。
2. Choose your friends wisely.
明智的选择自己的朋友。
According to Harvard, the most important external factors affecting
individual happiness are human relationships. So if you want to be happy,
choose to be around people who are optimistic, who appreciate you as you are
, and who can make your life richer, bigger, more fun, and more meaningful.
根据哈佛，影响个人幸福最重要的外部因素是人际关系。所以如果你想变得开心的话，
要选择和乐观的朋友在一起，他们能欣赏你真实的自己，让你的生活变得更丰富，快乐
，有意义。
3. Cultivate compassion.
培养同情心。
When we try to step into other people’s shoes and understand a situation
from another’s perspective, we’re more likely to handle the situation with
compassion, objectivity and effectiveness. There will be less conflicts and
more happiness.
当我们代替别人，站在另一个角度看问题，我们更能用同情心，客观和有效的处理问题
。生活中就会少一些冲突，多一点快乐。
4. Keep learning.
不断学习。
Learning keeps us young and dreams keep us alive. When we engage our brains
and put them toward productive uses, we’re less likely to dwell on unhappy
thoughts and much more likely to feel happy and fulfilled.
学习让我们保持年轻，梦想让我们充满活力。我们运用大脑，进行运作的时候，我们就
不大会想不开心心的事情，我们会变得更开心和满足。
5. Become a problem solver.
学会解决问题。
Happy people are problem solvers. When they encounter a challenge in life,
they don’t beat themselves up and fall into a depressive state. Instead,
they face up to the challenge and channel their energies toward finding
creative a solution. By becoming a problem solver, you’ll build up your
self-confidence and your ability to accomplish whatever it is you set your
mind to – and whatever challenges life throws your way.
开心的人是会解决问题的人。在生活中遇到挑战的时候，他们不会自虐，然后变得很消
沉。他们会直面挑战，调动全身力量寻找解决办法。通过变成一个解决问题的人，你会
建立自己的自信心和下决心要的事情和直面挑战的能力。
6. Do what you love.
做你想做的事情。
Since we spend over one-third of our adult life working, loving what we do
has a huge impact on our overall happiness. If this is not possible at the
moment, then try to find enjoyment and meaning in your current work, or
cultivate a hobby that involves doing something you love.
既然我们成人生活的三分之一时间都在工作，那么做我们想做的事对我们的整体辛福感
就有很大的影响。如果现在不能做你想做的事情，那就试着在你现在的工作中寻找快乐
和意义，或者培养一个你喜爱的兴趣。
7. Live in the present.
活在当下。
When you feel depressed, you’re living in the past. When you feel worried
or anxious, you’re living in the future. But when you feel content, happy
and peaceful, you’re living in the present.
你感到沮丧，是因为你活在过去。你会感到担忧和焦虑，是因为你活在未来。但是当你
感到满足，开心和平和时，你才是活在当下。
8. Laugh often.
要经常笑。
Laughter is the most powerful anecdote to anger or depression. Research has
shown that the simple act of curving the corners of your mouth can increase
your feeling of happiness. So don’t take life too seriously. Try to find
humor and laughter in life’s everyday struggles.
笑是对抗生气或沮丧最有力的的东西。研究表明简单的嘴巴上扬也可以增加你的幸福感
。不要把生活看的太严肃。要学会在每日的奋斗中寻找幽默感和笑声。
9. Practice forgiveness.
学会原谅。
Resentment and anger are forms of self-punishment. When you forgive, you’re
actually practicing kindness to yourself. And most importantly, learn to
forgive yourself. Everyone makes mistakes. It’s through our mistakes that
we learn and grow to become a bigger and better person.
憎恨和生气是对自我的惩罚。当你释怀的时候，事实上你是在对自己施以善意。最重要
的是，学会原谅自己。每个人都犯错。只有通过我们的错误，我们才慢慢学会如何成为
一个更强大，更好的人。
10. Say thanks often.
要经常说谢谢。
Always be appreciative of the blessings in your life. And it’s equally
important to express your appreciation to those who’ve made your life
better in some way, big or small.
对生活中的祝福要学会欣赏。向那些让你生活变好的人，无论或大或小，表达出你的欣
赏之情也同样重要。
11. Create deeper connections.
学会深交。
Our happiness multiplies when we connect and bond with another human being
on a deeper level. And being fully present and listening are two of the most
important skills to strengthening that bond and bringing happiness to
ourselves, and to others.
我们的幸福感会在和另一个人的深交中不断猛增。专注聆听是加强这种关系纽带和把幸
福感带给自己和别人的两个最重要的方面。
12. Keep your agreement.
守承诺。
Our self-esteem is built on the agreements we’ve made with ourselves. And
high self-esteem has a direct correlation to happiness. So keep your
agreements with others and with yourself.
我们的自尊是建立在我们对自己守承诺的情况下。高度的自尊和幸福感有直接关联。所
以要对自己和别人遵守承诺。
13. Meditate.
冥想。
According to Harvard, people who take 8 sessions of mindfulness meditation
training are, on average, 20% happier than a control group. Such training
can lead to structural brain changes including increased grey-matter density
in the hippocampus, known to be important for learning and memory, and in
structures associated with self-awareness, compassion and introspection.
根据哈佛，平均上，上过8次冥想训练的人要比控制狂多开心20%。这样的训练可以导致
大脑结构变化，包括海马体黑色物质的密度，其对学习和记忆很重要，在结构上和自我
意识，同情心和反省。
14. Focus on what you’re doing.
关注你在做的事情。
When you put your mind, heart and soul into what you’re doing, you’re
creating a happiness state – called the “flow.” When you’re living in
the flow, you’re less likely to care about what others may think of you,
and less bothered by things that are not that important. The result? More
happiness, of course!
当你全身心投入一件事的时候，你就会处于一个开心的状态。当我们处于这种状态，你
就不大会关心别人对你怎么看，不大会被不大重要的事情干扰。结果呢？更幸福，当然
啦！
15. Be optimistic.
要乐观。
For happy people, the glass is always half-full. If your tendency is to
imagine the very worst-case scenario every time you face a challenge, then
train yourself to reverse that tendency. Ask yourself what good can come out
of the situation or what you can learn from it. Optimism surely fuels
success and happiness.
对于开心的人来说，玻璃都一直是半满的。每当你面对一个挑战时，如果你倾向于想象
最坏的想法，那就自我转换这种情况。告诉你自己一个状况中的好处或者你从中学到的
东西。乐观肯定能驱动成功和幸福感。
16. Love unconditionally.
无条件的爱。
No one is perfect. Accept yourself for all of your imperfections. And do so
for others. Loving someone unconditionally does not mean that you need to
spend all your time with them or help them figure out their problems.
Unconditional love means accepting people as they are, and allowing them to
find their own ways, at their own pace.
没人是完美的。接受你自己所有的不完美。也要这样对待别人。无条件的爱一个人并不
意味着你要花所有的时间和他们在一起，或者帮助他们解决问题。无条件的爱意味着接
受真实的他们，以他们自己的步伐，让他们自己摸索。
17. Don’t give up.
不要放弃。
Unfinished projects and repeated defeats inevitably dampen one’s self-
esteem. If you’ve made up your mind to do something, see it through. Don’t
give up until you succeed. Remember, failure is temporary but defeat is
permanent. And defeat only occurs when you give up.
没有完成的方案和不断的失败不可避免的会削弱你的自尊。如果你决定做某事，做完它
。在成功之前都不要放弃。要记住，失败是暂时的，打败的永存的。只有当你放弃的时
候，你才会被打败。
18. Do your best and then let go.
做最好的自己，然后放手。
Everyone has limitations, and things don’t always turn out to be what we’d
like them to be – despite our efforts. So always give your best, and then
let go. Let events run their course. When you’ve done your best, you’ll
have no regrets.
每个人都有局限性。而且有时候尽管我们很努力做一件事情，但是总会事与愿违。所以
做最好的自己，然后放手。当你尽了全力，你就没有遗憾了。
19. Take care of yourself.
好好照顾自己。
A healthy body is the key to happiness. If you have poor health, it’s very
difficult to be happy no matter how hard you try. So make sure you eat well,
exercise and find time to rest. Take good care of your body, your mind and
your spirit.
一个健康的身体是幸福的关键。如果你身体不好，你无论如何努力，都很难快乐。确信
自己吃得好，做锻炼，找点时间休息。好好照顾你的身体，大脑和精神。
20. Give back.
学会给予。
Doing good is one of the surest ways to feel good. According to Harvard,
when people do good, their brains becomes active in the very same reward
center that is stimulated when they experience other rewards. So it’s not a
surprise that people who care more about others are happier than those who
care less about others.
做好事是最能确保你心情好的方法之一。根据哈佛，人们做好事，他们的大脑变得活跃
，就好像当你经历别的奖励时，大脑所受的刺激。所以，那些关心别人的人要比不大关
心别人的人更开心。
e*a
3 楼
有
能不能消不知道，够呛，不过你可以问问
【在 e*******s 的大作中提到】
: 前段时间付款时，说什么付款可以减$10，就手贱点了申请，要输入SSN后四位我也没放
: 在心上，今天才回过神来貌似算开了新的信用账户…
: 请问这有hard pull吗？有的话还能消除吗？谢谢！
能不能消不知道，够呛，不过你可以问问
【在 e*******s 的大作中提到】
: 前段时间付款时，说什么付款可以减$10，就手贱点了申请，要输入SSN后四位我也没放
: 在心上，今天才回过神来貌似算开了新的信用账户…
: 请问这有hard pull吗？有的话还能消除吗？谢谢！
i*e
4 楼
17，18矛盾不？
h*s
5 楼
pull eq。 不好消。 但是不上报new account。
幸好别的几大家chase，citi，amex，在nj都不pull eq，所以其实基本不影响申卡。
[在 ecedreams (加油) 的大作中提到：]
：前段时间付款时，说什么付款可以减$10，就手贱点了申请，要输入SSN后四位我也没
放在心上，今天才回过神来貌似算开了新的信用账户…
：
：...........
幸好别的几大家chase，citi，amex，在nj都不pull eq，所以其实基本不影响申卡。
[在 ecedreams (加油) 的大作中提到：]
：前段时间付款时，说什么付款可以减$10，就手贱点了申请，要输入SSN后四位我也没
放在心上，今天才回过神来貌似算开了新的信用账户…
：
：...........
s*1
6 楼
Don give up until you have done your best then let go ?
【在 i**e 的大作中提到】
: 17，18矛盾不？
【在 i**e 的大作中提到】
: 17，18矛盾不？
b*r
7 楼
非常棒！谢谢转来
your
partner
【在 s**********1 的大作中提到】
: Don give up until you have done your best then let go ?
your
partner
【在 s**********1 的大作中提到】
: Don give up until you have done your best then let go ?
u*a
8 楼
I am grateful! Thanks!
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