I've never betrayed my oath. It was my ex who brought up the divorce. I agreed to it. Even after finding his health problem, I still decided to stay with him for a while. However, he decided to quit since he knew we are not a good match. We always had bumpy relations along the road, but I always wanted to try one more time to solve the issue. His health problem was the last straw that makes me leave. He was not even actively soliciting treatment. I am the only child and I have responsibility to bear a child for my family side. Hard to understand, but that is the case. In front of the responsibility of getting an offspring, other things are nothing.
We've discovered we are not a good match long time ago, but I thought we could work it out if we stayed together for a longer time. Marriage is supposed to be a matching process, which lasts long time. Health problem was discovered recently when we tried to bear a child. We did not settle down until 2 years ago.
【在 f******u 的大作中提到】 : 写的很详细。不过,8年了,才发现性格不合,身体不好?好像时间有点长。 : 可惜啊,至少我的爱好不符合:除了工作,我的爱好就是A片了。 : : really : you : The : compatible : had
【在 T*******d 的大作中提到】 : We've discovered we are not a good match long time ago, but I thought we : could work it out if we stayed together for a longer time. Marriage is : supposed to be a matching process, which lasts long time. : Health problem was discovered recently when we tried to bear a child. We did : not settle down until 2 years ago.
T*d
65 楼
请不要转其它版。 不来不知道,一来吓一跳。这么多洛杉矶女生征。那就为这股热潮加把火。 A couple of updates: I've received some responses, but no responder is from California. I really like California weather and do not want to move in nearer future unless you are fine with me working at/from home. Please consider this fact when you respond to me. It is interesting that people always believe what they want to believe. The true story is both my ex and me are nice persons. We are just not compatible and he does have health problems that can't be fixed soon or forever. I had a lot of chances to betray the marriage during 8 years, but I never thought of doing it. It is always a pain to end a marriage, without saying a marriage lasted 8 years. I've done with my past. I've learned the lesson in a hard way. Though, My past helps to graph what I want exactly, line by line. I am telling the complete truth and if it bothers you, please be polite. Why can' t you guys be nicer to a divorced women who has been really loyal to a relation and found out she made a mistake in her early 20's. She spent the best 8 years with a person she should have never stayed with. Again, I've paid enough for my mistakes. Please pity me and speak gently. ★性别: 女 ☆取向:男 ★出生年份: 1981 ★所在地(至少明确state): Los Angeles ★职业情况(学生还是工作): 工作 ★简单的物理参数(身高/体重): 1.57m / 48kg ★当前婚姻状态(从没结过婚/离异/丧偶): 离异 ★联系方式(email/IM/站内): 暂时站内吧 没有专用征婚帐号,除了私人email就公司 email,还站内吧 以下是背景里大多数人不说的可选内容 ★身份:绿卡 ★想要小孩:Definitely ★离婚原因:对方身体原因,外加性格不合。 ★前一段婚姻的长度:8年。初恋外加初婚,一直尝试磨合。后来主要由于对方身体原 因分开。没有nightmare,和平分手。很遗憾做了整个家族里第一个离婚的。 ★小孩:无 ★教育背景:硕士,北美前30的公立大学 ★家庭背景:家庭。爸爸是教授,妈妈是公司管理人。双方都退休.感情非常和睦,非 常通情达理。独女。 ★工作性质:Fortune 500公司职员,比较稳定。 ★收入:洛杉矶绝大多数 F 500公司中等职员的水平 ★星座:狮子座 ★地域:中国南部,喜欢吃辣。讨厌炒菜放糖。喜欢粤菜湘菜川菜。对太咸太甜的食物 很厌恶。 ★性格:又可爱又可恨,温柔时刻很温柔,但是泼辣起来也泼辣。没有心机。信奉简单 沟通是最有效的沟通。非常忠于感情,完全不能忍受三心二意。也能够比较独立地生活 ,不是没原则的棉花糖。 ★爱好:喜欢户外,但是不骨灰。喜欢旅游,但是不疯狂。喜欢浏览古镇。有时候有点 点文青,喜欢观察不同的文化。 ★生活习惯:生活比较有规律。12点一般都睡了。身体健康,注重生命的可持续发展。 ★金钱观:喜欢管钱,但是注重的是花钱的质量。对自己的帐号管理得ok。 ★相貌:身材和那个著名博主extrapetite差不多,稍微大一号。长相的话,小时候脸 胖,长大了大学时候偏胖,后来来美后,瘦了20lbs。现在普遍是算成slender一类的。 体重已经连续10年不变了。追求典雅大方的穿着,酷爱深色系衣服。但是不古板,注重 美感。对媚俗的艳红色和国内某些花哨的穿衣风格有着深恶痛绝。对交流照片没有恐惧 ,最好见面直接聊。 以下是对你的要求: ★身份:H1B,绿卡或者公民。不是歧视学生,是因为自己想很快settle down。 ★想要小孩:Definitely。 ★婚否:希望你经历简单。离婚一次的也挺好。如果离婚次数超过2次的,请跳过。 ★小孩:无。 ★收入:和我持平或更高。 ★学历:本科及以上。希望你的college至少是能叫得出名字的。社区college的就免提 了。 ★年龄:42岁以下。 ★家庭背景:希望你来自是小康及以上家庭。 ★对你父母的描述:因为婚姻难免涉及家庭。所以还是这里加一个描述。希望你的父母 不需要你livelihood的支持。父母能理解年轻人需要分开生活。最好你的父母在你和另 一半吵架的时候,能够偶尔教育你。如果你父母来自农村,希望他们没有对你不切实际 的要求。 ★地域:南加或其它。实在是喜欢加州的气候和吃的。实在要relocate也估计可以找到 工作。只是不希望你所在的地方是大农村。 ★星座:没有要求。不过据说火象星座比较好。比如白羊,射手。水瓶也很好。 ★地域:没有要求,不过希望你来自中国南部。只要是喜欢吃,注意吃的就行。 ★性格:有包容性。在女生气头上能说两句软话。最好有一点点家庭主义,就是自家的 就是最好的那种自豪感。结婚后,有认为自己小家高于大家族的那种责任感。对父母的 孝敬更多地体现在时常的关心交流,而不是偶尔的现金和礼物。对父母不合理的要求和 观点能够劝说。和父母的关系最好不是绝对的上下级听命关系。有一点点大男子主义比 较好。 ★爱好:不要喜欢购物,不喜欢室内打游戏。最好除了工作之外,有除了看A片之外的 真正的兴趣爱好。 ★生活习惯:生活比较有规律。12点基本能睡了。身体健康。注重生命的可持续发展。 偶尔到时常健身。 ★金钱观:该花钱的时候不怕花。不要过分节俭。能省钱的时候要省钱。对老婆买点小 东西不要over react。 ★相貌:希望你喜欢整齐的着装。对那种sloppy的着装不感兴趣。不希望你的衣橱不要 超过女生的衣橱的大小。一般正常一间卧室的closet全是你的衣服还可以接受。不要在 身体的明显部位有tatoo。不希望你是塌鼻子。 ★身高:170cm以上。 ★最后的note:希望那种期待不严肃感情生活的朋友们跳过。这个帖子这么长,就是为 着settle down写的。希望你也希望尽快settle down,组建自己的家庭,有自己的孩子 。为了寻找刺激的人群,是会觉得我这样的人非常boring的。 最后,非常感谢你能仔细地看我的每一条要求。祝每个女生岁月静好,每个男生有激情 ,有理想,在三十而立的年代有幸福的家庭。
w*r
66 楼
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【在 T*******d 的大作中提到】 : 请不要转其它版。 : 不来不知道,一来吓一跳。这么多洛杉矶女生征。那就为这股热潮加把火。 : A couple of updates: : I've received some responses, but no responder is from California. I really : like California weather and do not want to move in nearer future unless you : are fine with me working at/from home. Please consider this fact when you : respond to me. : It is interesting that people always believe what they want to believe. The : true story is both my ex and me are nice persons. We are just not compatible : and he does have health problems that can't be fixed soon or forever. I had
m*m
67 楼
想知道LA绝大多数F500中等员工的工资水平
【在 T*******d 的大作中提到】 : 请不要转其它版。 : 不来不知道,一来吓一跳。这么多洛杉矶女生征。那就为这股热潮加把火。 : A couple of updates: : I've received some responses, but no responder is from California. I really : like California weather and do not want to move in nearer future unless you : are fine with me working at/from home. Please consider this fact when you : respond to me. : It is interesting that people always believe what they want to believe. The : true story is both my ex and me are nice persons. We are just not compatible : and he does have health problems that can't be fixed soon or forever. I had
【在 T*******d 的大作中提到】 : 请不要转其它版。 : 不来不知道,一来吓一跳。这么多洛杉矶女生征。那就为这股热潮加把火。 : A couple of updates: : I've received some responses, but no responder is from California. I really : like California weather and do not want to move in nearer future unless you : are fine with me working at/from home. Please consider this fact when you : respond to me. : It is interesting that people always believe what they want to believe. The : true story is both my ex and me are nice persons. We are just not compatible : and he does have health problems that can't be fixed soon or forever. I had
【在 T*******d 的大作中提到】 : 请不要转其它版。 : 不来不知道,一来吓一跳。这么多洛杉矶女生征。那就为这股热潮加把火。 : A couple of updates: : I've received some responses, but no responder is from California. I really : like California weather and do not want to move in nearer future unless you : are fine with me working at/from home. Please consider this fact when you : respond to me. : It is interesting that people always believe what they want to believe. The : true story is both my ex and me are nice persons. We are just not compatible : and he does have health problems that can't be fixed soon or forever. I had
【在 T*******d 的大作中提到】 : 请不要转其它版。 : 不来不知道,一来吓一跳。这么多洛杉矶女生征。那就为这股热潮加把火。 : A couple of updates: : I've received some responses, but no responder is from California. I really : like California weather and do not want to move in nearer future unless you : are fine with me working at/from home. Please consider this fact when you : respond to me. : It is interesting that people always believe what they want to believe. The : true story is both my ex and me are nice persons. We are just not compatible : and he does have health problems that can't be fixed soon or forever. I had
K*i
87 楼
其实没有人觉着: 这是坑么?
K*y
88 楼
I want to have a lot of babies with you. Sad, I am not in Los Angeles.
【在 T*******d 的大作中提到】 : 请不要转其它版。 : 不来不知道,一来吓一跳。这么多洛杉矶女生征。那就为这股热潮加把火。 : A couple of updates: : I've received some responses, but no responder is from California. I really : like California weather and do not want to move in nearer future unless you : are fine with me working at/from home. Please consider this fact when you : respond to me. : It is interesting that people always believe what they want to believe. The : true story is both my ex and me are nice persons. We are just not compatible : and he does have health problems that can't be fixed soon or forever. I had
n*s
89 楼
foo cares
【在 K**********i 的大作中提到】 : 其实没有人觉着: : 这是坑么?
T*d
90 楼
Thanks every one! you guys just bump up my post for free.
【在 T*******d 的大作中提到】 : 请不要转其它版。 : 不来不知道,一来吓一跳。这么多洛杉矶女生征。那就为这股热潮加把火。 : A couple of updates: : I've received some responses, but no responder is from California. I really : like California weather and do not want to move in nearer future unless you : are fine with me working at/from home. Please consider this fact when you : respond to me. : It is interesting that people always believe what they want to believe. The : true story is both my ex and me are nice persons. We are just not compatible : and he does have health problems that can't be fixed soon or forever. I had
T*d
100 楼
Bump
T*d
101 楼
what was the reason you divorced the 2nd time?
【在 R******k 的大作中提到】 : 写的挺好 : 离婚次数超过2次的飘过~ : : really : you : The : compatible : had
【在 T*******d 的大作中提到】 : 请不要转其它版。 : 不来不知道,一来吓一跳。这么多洛杉矶女生征。那就为这股热潮加把火。 : A couple of updates: : I've received some responses, but no responder is from California. I really : like California weather and do not want to move in nearer future unless you : are fine with me working at/from home. Please consider this fact when you : respond to me. : It is interesting that people always believe what they want to believe. The : true story is both my ex and me are nice persons. We are just not compatible : and he does have health problems that can't be fixed soon or forever. I had
T*d
104 楼
I've never betrayed my oath. It was my ex who brought up the divorce. I agreed to it. Even after finding his health problem, I still decided to stay with him for a while. However, he decided to quit since he knew we are not a good match. We always had bumpy relations along the road, but I always wanted to try one more time to solve the issue. His health problem was the last straw that makes me leave. He was not even actively soliciting treatment. I am the only child and I have responsibility to bear a child for my family side. Hard to understand, but that is the case. In front of the responsibility of getting an offspring, other things are nothing.
We've discovered we are not a good match long time ago, but I thought we could work it out if we stayed together for a longer time. Marriage is supposed to be a matching process, which lasts long time. Health problem was discovered recently when we tried to bear a child. We did not settle down until 2 years ago.
【在 f******u 的大作中提到】 : 写的很详细。不过,8年了,才发现性格不合,身体不好?好像时间有点长。 : 可惜啊,至少我的爱好不符合:除了工作,我的爱好就是A片了。 : : really : you : The : compatible : had
【在 T*******d 的大作中提到】 : We've discovered we are not a good match long time ago, but I thought we : could work it out if we stayed together for a longer time. Marriage is : supposed to be a matching process, which lasts long time. : Health problem was discovered recently when we tried to bear a child. We did : not settle down until 2 years ago.
【在 T*******d 的大作中提到】 : 请不要转其它版。 : 不来不知道,一来吓一跳。这么多洛杉矶女生征。那就为这股热潮加把火。 : A couple of updates: : I've received some responses, but no responder is from California. I really : like California weather and do not want to move in nearer future unless you : are fine with me working at/from home. Please consider this fact when you : respond to me. : It is interesting that people always believe what they want to believe. The : true story is both my ex and me are nice persons. We are just not compatible : and he does have health problems that can't be fixed soon or forever. I had
【在 T*******d 的大作中提到】 : 请不要转其它版。 : 不来不知道,一来吓一跳。这么多洛杉矶女生征。那就为这股热潮加把火。 : A couple of updates: : I've received some responses, but no responder is from California. I really : like California weather and do not want to move in nearer future unless you : are fine with me working at/from home. Please consider this fact when you : respond to me. : It is interesting that people always believe what they want to believe. The : true story is both my ex and me are nice persons. We are just not compatible : and he does have health problems that can't be fixed soon or forever. I had
Asthetically, Chinese men look better. Mentally, Chinese men know how to play "doudizhu". Foodwise, Chinese men know how to eat hot pot. There are so many things in my life that I can not share with Lao Wai. Unless I really can't find a Chinese men, I would never go with other ethnity.
【在 T*******d 的大作中提到】 : Asthetically, Chinese men look better. Mentally, Chinese men know how to : play "doudizhu". Foodwise, Chinese men know how to eat hot pot. There are so : many things in my life that I can not share with Lao Wai. Unless I really : can't find a Chinese men, I would never go with other ethnity.
c*a
139 楼
又可爱又可恨,温柔时刻很温柔,但是泼辣起来也泼辣。 加上喜欢管钱,基本知道为什么离婚了。
H*r
140 楼
phd苦逼起来,什么都很难说。。。
【在 r******t 的大作中提到】 : 男的33岁还是学生的也是不多了。
J*U
141 楼
无聊看了两页,觉得这个前夫很幸运,应该算重生了
d*p
142 楼
【在 H**r 的大作中提到】 : phd苦逼起来,什么都很难说。。。
L*s
143 楼
一张照片,胜过这么多废话
v*a
144 楼
u2 1 pic = 1000 words
【在 L*****s 的大作中提到】 : 一张照片,胜过这么多废话
T*d
145 楼
He can not agree with you more. I just wish I had left him 10 years ago and did not waste my best years with him.
【在 T*******d 的大作中提到】 : 请不要转其它版。 : 不来不知道,一来吓一跳。这么多洛杉矶女生征。那就为这股热潮加把火。 : A couple of updates: : I've received some responses, but no responder is from California. I really : like California weather and do not want to move in nearer future unless you : are fine with me working at/from home. Please consider this fact when you : respond to me. : It is interesting that people always believe what they want to believe. The : true story is both my ex and me are nice persons. We are just not compatible : and he does have health problems that can't be fixed soon or forever. I had
【在 T*******d 的大作中提到】 : 请不要转其它版。 : 不来不知道,一来吓一跳。这么多洛杉矶女生征。那就为这股热潮加把火。 : A couple of updates: : I've received some responses, but no responder is from California. I really : like California weather and do not want to move in nearer future unless you : are fine with me working at/from home. Please consider this fact when you : respond to me. : It is interesting that people always believe what they want to believe. The : true story is both my ex and me are nice persons. We are just not compatible : and he does have health problems that can't be fixed soon or forever. I had
n*e
224 楼
俺脚着你还不如去给小小人投条
【在 c****0 的大作中提到】 : 盲顶~ : : really : you : The : compatible : had
I think you are right. I need to change my post. I sound like a high maintanance gal with a list of conditions, but I am actually a low maintenance gal looking for a husband that could live the rest life with me. I've been hurt by previous relation, so I just want to avoid these things in incoming relation. Any way, thanks for the reminder.
【在 T*******d 的大作中提到】 : 请不要转其它版。 : 不来不知道,一来吓一跳。这么多洛杉矶女生征。那就为这股热潮加把火。 : A couple of updates: : I've received some responses, but no responder is from California. I really : like California weather and do not want to move in nearer future unless you : are fine with me working at/from home. Please consider this fact when you : respond to me. : It is interesting that people always believe what they want to believe. The : true story is both my ex and me are nice persons. We are just not compatible : and he does have health problems that can't be fixed soon or forever. I had
I have to say you did not even read my post. Isn't this obvious? It was the other half looking for the perfect woman, not me. I was the party that was filed divorce against. Even if you need to comment, please at least read before you comment. This kind of watering post really bothers me. Please Please Please at least read the post before you share your darkness.
人工授精is a solution if the sperm has some quality. The fetus could have problem if the male sperm has quality issue. You never really know about 人 工授精, right? Do you know how much pain a woman need to bear through 人工授 精? However, even if I would like to sacrifice and do 人工授精, he still decided to file petition. You never know how much pain I had when I first knew about his health problem. It almost shattered my heart and my dream. Plus, he and I had a bumpy relation along the road. I did feel unsafe. If I have a child with him, he still could leave me. The child could be my life time burden and I have to raise him/her in a single parent environment. At a certain moment, I realized that this kind of relation will hurt the kid. It is time to leave him no matter how brilliant he is.
【在 T*******d 的大作中提到】 : 人工授精is a solution if the sperm has some quality. The fetus could have : problem if the male sperm has quality issue. You never really know about 人 : 工授精, right? Do you know how much pain a woman need to bear through 人工授 : 精? However, even if I would like to sacrifice and do 人工授精, he still : decided to file petition. You never know how much pain I had when I first : knew about his health problem. It almost shattered my heart and my dream. : Plus, he and I had a bumpy relation along the road. I did feel unsafe. If I : have a child with him, he still could leave me. The child could be my life : time burden and I have to raise him/her in a single parent environment. At a : certain moment, I realized that this kind of relation will hurt the kid. It
T*d
247 楼
Well, I can't type chinese right now. Again,very obvious fact. You sound like you forgot to take medicine for your balls, so you had 蛋疼. Calm down or go to your doc's place!
【在 r******d 的大作中提到】 : 会说话么,英文夹着中文,真看着蛋疼,lz要么是挖坑,要么就是忘了吃药 : : I : a : It
r*d
248 楼
连我一个忘吃药的都能看的出你那个有问题,建议你还是早日就医,玩了就没救了
down
【在 T*******d 的大作中提到】 : Well, I can't type chinese right now. Again,very obvious fact. You sound : like you forgot to take medicine for your balls, so you had 蛋疼. Calm down : or go to your doc's place!
【在 T*******d 的大作中提到】 : 人工授精is a solution if the sperm has some quality. The fetus could have : problem if the male sperm has quality issue. You never really know about 人 : 工授精, right? Do you know how much pain a woman need to bear through 人工授 : 精? However, even if I would like to sacrifice and do 人工授精, he still : decided to file petition. You never know how much pain I had when I first : knew about his health problem. It almost shattered my heart and my dream. : Plus, he and I had a bumpy relation along the road. I did feel unsafe. If I : have a child with him, he still could leave me. The child could be my life : time burden and I have to raise him/her in a single parent environment. At a : certain moment, I realized that this kind of relation will hurt the kid. It
f*p
250 楼
别再心中念叨shit就好~~~
【在 m******7 的大作中提到】 : 弱弱地说一声,是relationship,不是relation。我每次看到不得不在脑海中加上- : ship. : : I : a : It
T*d
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Etymologically, a relationship concerns the sense of being related and thus does primarily apply to people. However, the concept of a relationship can be abstracted to all things, and results in the follow distinction between the two terms: A relation is a concept relating two things. A relationship is a conception of a relation. Consequently, in many cases the distinction between the two words is unnecessary. In fact, unless a relationship supports added subtleties the two words collapse for all intensive purpose to mean the same thing. Examples will make this clearer. Example 1. Equality In the case of 2=2, we can say that equality is both a relation and a relationship between the 2 and itself. The relation and relationship are the same because there are no addition ways to qualify equality. Example 2. Greater than. In the case of 3>1, the relation and relationship are distinct things. We should use relation when we mean to speak of the abstract concept of being more in number, but we should use relationship when we want to speak of the fact that 3 is precisely 2 more than 1. In this way, while 2 and 1 and 3 and 1 both relate by greater than, the exact relationships are distinct. Example 3. Siblings. In the case of two sisters, the word relation refers to their being siblings , but when it comes to the relationship between the two, the added subtlety of them being on good or bad terms can come into play. This is why we always choose to say "How's their relationship?" when we want the gossipy details, but only say "What's the relation?" when we want to find out how family members relate.
【在 m******7 的大作中提到】 : 弱弱地说一声,是relationship,不是relation。我每次看到不得不在脑海中加上- : ship. : : I : a : It
g*n
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人与人之间要用relationship
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【在 T*******d 的大作中提到】 : Etymologically, a relationship concerns the sense of being related and thus : does primarily apply to people. However, the concept of a relationship can : be abstracted to all things, and results in the follow distinction between : the two terms: : A relation is a concept relating two things. : A relationship is a conception of a relation. : Consequently, in many cases the distinction between the two words is : unnecessary. In fact, unless a relationship supports added subtleties the : two words collapse for all intensive purpose to mean the same thing. : Examples will make this clearer.
m*7
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哈哈,MM是个认真严谨的人,有疑惑就google大法解决。 我是看了一些婚姻关系方面的书,里面的词用的都是relationship,所以出声提醒一下。 Merriam-webster词典的词义辨析:http://www.learnersdictionary.com/blog.php?action=ViewBlogArticle&ba_id=93 When do you use relations and when do you use relationship? Can I say "I am in relations with him?" These two words both mean the same thing ("the way in which two or more people, groups, countries, etc., talk to, behave toward, and deal with each other"), and so some of their uses overlap, but they have different connotations. Relations is used in more formal writing and tends to be used more of the interactions between countries or large groups of people (" relations between Iraq and the U.S.," "relations between blacks and whites") . It is also used in constructions like "diplomatic relations" or " international relations." When relations is used of specific people, it is a very formal use that refers to the act of sexual intercourse. It is not correct to say, "I am in relations with him." For that, you would use the word relationship. Relationship tends to be used more broadly and generally to describe the interactions between specific people or smaller groups of people. When used of specific people, it often can refer to a romantic connection ("I am in a relationship with him") unless another type of relationship is specified (" her relationship with her coworkers", "the parent-child relationship"). Because relationship is more informal than relations, it is not used as much as relations in formal writing about countries or large groups of people, but these uses ("the relationship between Iraq and the U.S.") are not uncommon and are idiomatic.
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【在 T*******d 的大作中提到】 : Etymologically, a relationship concerns the sense of being related and thus : does primarily apply to people. However, the concept of a relationship can : be abstracted to all things, and results in the follow distinction between : the two terms: : A relation is a concept relating two things. : A relationship is a conception of a relation. : Consequently, in many cases the distinction between the two words is : unnecessary. In fact, unless a relationship supports added subtleties the : two words collapse for all intensive purpose to mean the same thing. : Examples will make this clearer.