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求个建议，要不要反悔# Returnee - 海归

c*e2013-04-17 07:04

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决定海归了，本来答应了去个二线城市的高校。
可是这个月看见一线城市一所大学的招聘广告。虽然这所学校不如二线的那所，但还是
小有名气的。
个人非常想在大城市的生活。两所学校待遇方面是差不多的。
现在呢，自己很纠结，国内学术圈子应该也很小吧，以后开个学术会议低头不见抬头见
的，若是答应的没有去，自己名声是不是就毁了。若是去了，自己还是心系大城市，一
去就是三年，这三年也是安家生子的年纪（本人现在还单着），以后再折腾，成本就
大了。
真心求个建议啊，有熟悉国内学术市场的说说。

m*a2013-04-17 07:04

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看你牛不牛
你要是牛人就无所谓，你要不牛的话就还是安分点
不过口头OFFER反悔也没啥吧，毕竟没签合同。不知道你拿这个OFFER的程序，有可能你
得罪的只是人事处那边的，和院系没关系?

f*52013-04-17 07:04

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better not to revoke your acception.
in addition, u even don't have an offer from the school in the top city.
In my case, I have accepted an offer from shanghai in Nov. However, in Dec,
my another dream school from beijing also invites me for a interview. My
advisor ask me to reject the interview because it is not good for your
reputation. PPL will talk about you during years.
3year is not that long compared to your whole career. In addition, You are
single now, how do you expect to have a wife and kid in three years? unless
you are a very effieicent guy

c*e2013-04-17 07:04

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关键是我是女的，三点时间太长了，拖不起。我也在考虑dating pool。上海城市大一
些，高学历的人也多一些，对女博宽容一些。

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【在 f***5 的大作中提到】

: better not to revoke your acception.
: in addition, u even don't have an offer from the school in the top city.
: In my case, I have accepted an offer from shanghai in Nov. However, in Dec,
: my another dream school from beijing also invites me for a interview. My
: advisor ask me to reject the interview because it is not good for your
: reputation. PPL will talk about you during years.
: 3year is not that long compared to your whole career. In addition, You are
: single now, how do you expect to have a wife and kid in three years? unless
: you are a very effieicent guy