朋友问我为什么不结婚 - 未名空间MITBBS历史存档

a*n2011-02-07 08:02

1 楼

我的回答：
I do not even have the plan for marriage.
Self independence is the most important. After I become financially
independent, I could think of marriage. I guess by that time it is already
too late. Also, marriage means responsibility. I think that I am not able to
take up all the resonsibilities by marriage.
I guess 23 - 28 is the best age for marriage. After that, love will become
complicated. There are also various kind of pressure from work. You know
family life is not as sweet as one can imagine.
是不是有人有同感？

d*u2011-02-07 08:02

2 楼

failure of life.
35 yrs old lady?

w*a2011-02-07 08:02

3 楼

跨度太大,25岁是道槛.

v*s2011-02-07 08:02

4 楼

春节听到次数最多的一句问候是：“有对象儿了吗？”听到次数最多的一句祝福是：“
祝你明年过年领回来个对象儿。”听到次数最多的关于亲友的消息是：“你看XXX都有
对象儿了。”

a*n2011-02-07 08:02

5 楼

Yup. I have to admit that.
Not yet reach 35, still have got 3.5 years to go.

【在 d****u 的大作中提到】

: failure of life.
: 35 yrs old lady?

a*n2011-02-07 08:02

6 楼

有点道理喔。
好像24 ，25岁的时候最想结婚，过了的话，就不是特别想。。。
再说，找个人，还要背景调查很累。谁知道对方国内有没有女朋友啊。

【在 w****a 的大作中提到】

: 跨度太大,25岁是道槛.

a*n2011-02-07 08:02

7 楼

哈哈。
都是闹着玩的。

【在 v******s 的大作中提到】

: 春节听到次数最多的一句问候是：“有对象儿了吗？”听到次数最多的一句祝福是：“
: 祝你明年过年领回来个对象儿。”听到次数最多的关于亲友的消息是：“你看XXX都有
: 对象儿了。”

v*s2011-02-07 08:02

8 楼

24，5十个奇怪的年龄：怕老，怕嫁不出去，怕找不到工作，怕没钱花……
过了25，就不急了，恩。

【在 a*******n 的大作中提到】

: 有点道理喔。
: 好像24 ，25岁的时候最想结婚，过了的话，就不是特别想。。。
: 再说，找个人，还要背景调查很累。谁知道对方国内有没有女朋友啊。

n*s2011-02-07 08:02

9 楼

翅膀都硬了。随缘吧。

b*r2011-02-07 08:02

10 楼

no, because you haven't found a right person to marry.

to

【在 a*******n 的大作中提到】

: 我的回答：
: I do not even have the plan for marriage.
: Self independence is the most important. After I become financially
: independent, I could think of marriage. I guess by that time it is already
: too late. Also, marriage means responsibility. I think that I am not able to
: take up all the resonsibilities by marriage.
: I guess 23 - 28 is the best age for marriage. After that, love will become
: complicated. There are also various kind of pressure from work. You know
: family life is not as sweet as one can imagine.
: 是不是有人有同感？

w*a2011-02-07 08:02

11 楼

恩.但是过了25急不急我就不知道了,因为我后来很快就结婚了.

【在 v******s 的大作中提到】

: 24，5十个奇怪的年龄：怕老，怕嫁不出去，怕找不到工作，怕没钱花……
: 过了25，就不急了，恩。

S*t2011-02-07 08:02

12 楼

我23，4岁的时候特别急，过了之后就没感觉了，哈哈

i*k2011-02-07 08:02

13 楼

没人要了。人生就是这样。节哀！

a*g2011-02-07 08:02

14 楼

个人爱好罢了
有的人很喜欢sex，你让她怎么办？保持名声的唯一做法就是领证

to

【在 a*******n 的大作中提到】

: 我的回答：
: I do not even have the plan for marriage.
: Self independence is the most important. After I become financially
: independent, I could think of marriage. I guess by that time it is already
: too late. Also, marriage means responsibility. I think that I am not able to
: take up all the resonsibilities by marriage.
: I guess 23 - 28 is the best age for marriage. After that, love will become
: complicated. There are also various kind of pressure from work. You know
: family life is not as sweet as one can imagine.
: 是不是有人有同感？

B*i2011-02-07 08:02

15 楼

Getting married because of love is a stupid idea. Grow up.

p*u2011-02-07 08:02

16 楼

还没玩够，当然不用结婚了。

a*s2011-02-07 08:02

17 楼

the finance is so bad that girls married for love.

z*42011-02-07 08:02

18 楼

找到Mr.Right，两个人会很幸福，不管经历什么，都有人陪伴，虽然也会吵架，但是感
觉不错啊。这种幸福Self independence无关，没有遇到前，总会很坚强，上学时会自
己搞电脑，工作了更是呼朋唤友，购物逛街，也是忙得不亦乐乎。等谈了恋爱，结了婚
发现两个人比一个人更好。只是不知道怎么会有这么大的resonsibilities。没想这么
多，爱了就想在一起，于是就结婚了。

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【在 a*******n 的大作中提到】

: 我的回答：
: I do not even have the plan for marriage.
: Self independence is the most important. After I become financially
: independent, I could think of marriage. I guess by that time it is already
: too late. Also, marriage means responsibility. I think that I am not able to
: take up all the resonsibilities by marriage.
: I guess 23 - 28 is the best age for marriage. After that, love will become
: complicated. There are also various kind of pressure from work. You know
: family life is not as sweet as one can imagine.
: 是不是有人有同感？

j*i2011-02-07 08:02

19 楼

爱情就像喜欢一个小狗，喜欢一本书，喜欢打球喜欢旅游，因为喜欢对方所以两个人在
一起。
结婚应该只因为：想永远这么拥有喜欢的对方，所以才会去结婚。

j*i2011-02-07 08:02

20 楼

楼主太理性，太冷静了，是个感情很淡泊的女生。

l*m2011-02-07 08:02

21 楼

我前两天着急来着，这两天不急了。可能过几天又会着急。。。。
保持一个状态多无聊，适当改变一下情绪可以调剂生活。 :P

【在 S******t 的大作中提到】

: 我23，4岁的时候特别急，过了之后就没感觉了，哈哈

e*s2011-02-07 08:02

22 楼

我觉得,年龄不是问题,开心就好. 婚姻是个人问题. 没有好坏和对错..

e*s2011-02-07 08:02

23 楼

我觉得,年龄不是问题,开心就好. 婚姻是个人问题. 没有好坏和对错..

e*s2011-02-07 08:02

24 楼

我觉得,年龄不是问题,开心就好. 婚姻是个人问题. 没有好坏和对错..

e*s2011-02-07 08:02

25 楼

我觉得,年龄不是问题,开心就好. 婚姻是个人问题. 没有好坏和对错..

w*n2011-02-07 08:02

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你想要孩子不? 或者换个角度：你介意一辈子没孩子吗？如果不介意就无所谓啦，怎么
活都是一辈子。自己开心就好

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【在 a*******n 的大作中提到】

: 我的回答：
: I do not even have the plan for marriage.
: Self independence is the most important. After I become financially
: independent, I could think of marriage. I guess by that time it is already
: too late. Also, marriage means responsibility. I think that I am not able to
: take up all the resonsibilities by marriage.
: I guess 23 - 28 is the best age for marriage. After that, love will become
: complicated. There are also various kind of pressure from work. You know
: family life is not as sweet as one can imagine.
: 是不是有人有同感？

v*s2011-02-07 08:02

27 楼

对我来说太简单的决定了，至少要3个娃，数数工资不够，就结吧。。。

【在 w******n 的大作中提到】

: 你想要孩子不? 或者换个角度：你介意一辈子没孩子吗？如果不介意就无所谓啦，怎么
: 活都是一辈子。自己开心就好
:
: to

w*n2011-02-07 08:02

28 楼

现在完成几个啦？

【在 v******s 的大作中提到】

: 对我来说太简单的决定了，至少要3个娃，数数工资不够，就结吧。。。

l*o2011-02-07 08:02

29 楼

楼主想太多！

B*d2011-02-07 08:02

30 楼

You need a plan before it's too late, if you still want to get married.
Family life is truly not all sweet, but a life without family is even
bitterer someday when you eventually realize.

to

【在 a*******n 的大作中提到】

: 我的回答：
: I do not even have the plan for marriage.
: Self independence is the most important. After I become financially
: independent, I could think of marriage. I guess by that time it is already
: too late. Also, marriage means responsibility. I think that I am not able to
: take up all the resonsibilities by marriage.
: I guess 23 - 28 is the best age for marriage. After that, love will become
: complicated. There are also various kind of pressure from work. You know
: family life is not as sweet as one can imagine.
: 是不是有人有同感？

z*e2011-02-07 08:02

31 楼

不结婚就不结婚，还要同感？你是不是吃饱了就琢磨这些事玩？

a*c2011-02-07 08:02

32 楼

bad english is bad

b*e2011-02-07 08:02

33 楼

我怎么就注意那糟糕的英文语法了.楼主闲得慌的话看看书,陶冶情操也不错的.恩...

h*l2011-02-07 08:02

34 楼

我在去年thanksgiving的时候，和我做同一project的ABC（不是我们group的，但是我
们老板和他们老板有很多合作项目）带着他女朋友去我们老板家吃饭，因为他女朋友（
这个是地地道道的中国人）告诉我他们在一起三年多了，我就问他俩为啥不结婚，结果
把人家问尴尬了。。。

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【在 a*******n 的大作中提到】

: 我的回答：
: I do not even have the plan for marriage.
: Self independence is the most important. After I become financially
: independent, I could think of marriage. I guess by that time it is already
: too late. Also, marriage means responsibility. I think that I am not able to
: take up all the resonsibilities by marriage.
: I guess 23 - 28 is the best age for marriage. After that, love will become
: complicated. There are also various kind of pressure from work. You know
: family life is not as sweet as one can imagine.
: 是不是有人有同感？

y*x2011-02-07 08:02

35 楼

none of his business.

A*62011-02-07 08:02

36 楼

I heard this before, then she got married.
The implication is that the subject is keeping you thinking.
Keep in mind that boys tend to reach decision quickly then get tired of it,
often when the girl realizes she wants marriage the boy is no longer
interested.

s*r2011-02-07 08:02

37 楼

就是，人家就随便一问，至于回答这么一大堆？还上未明来琢磨一番~~

【在 z****e 的大作中提到】

: 不结婚就不结婚，还要同感？你是不是吃饱了就琢磨这些事玩？

b*m2011-02-07 08:02

38 楼

hi,lz baby~
I can't agree with you any more. We are in the same situation and we share
the same thought. I think it need passion to get married.
Mentally speaking, I don't want marriage too, too much responsibilities.
What's more, independent is the only thing we should have in America,
Nothing is more important than this. It's
easy for a woman to find a fuck body but not easy to find real love here.
Just make our life easier and enjoyable. That's all. Best wishes!

n*y2011-02-07 08:02

39 楼

哎，我就去年有一点想找人结婚的冲动。。。今年就淡了，我男的，25

n*y2011-02-07 08:02

40 楼

公司同事中国人很多，加上美国人老印也基本就我一个单身，不过现在觉得自己真的定
不下来，以后
去哪工作，有更好的机会什么的，不会被任何事情掣肘的。。。
二十多岁的男人可能更需要一个玩伴，兄弟，过命的交情，至于爱情神马的，都是浮云
，上天给你是
福分，不给就好好享受孤独自在的青春

already
able to
become
know

【在 a*******n 的大作中提到】

: 我的回答：
: I do not even have the plan for marriage.
: Self independence is the most important. After I become financially
: independent, I could think of marriage. I guess by that time it is already
: too late. Also, marriage means responsibility. I think that I am not able to
: take up all the resonsibilities by marriage.
: I guess 23 - 28 is the best age for marriage. After that, love will become
: complicated. There are also various kind of pressure from work. You know
: family life is not as sweet as one can imagine.
: 是不是有人有同感？

W*l2011-02-07 08:02

41 楼

希望能找到Mr.Right
有时候觉得
结婚是爱情的幸福结局的话，
离婚又是怎么样的结局。
我个人还是寻找答案。

h*h2011-02-07 08:02

42 楼

不就是高不成低不就嘛

f*k2011-02-07 08:02

43 楼

是啊，都听烦了

【在 v******s 的大作中提到】

: 春节听到次数最多的一句问候是：“有对象儿了吗？”听到次数最多的一句祝福是：“
: 祝你明年过年领回来个对象儿。”听到次数最多的关于亲友的消息是：“你看XXX都有
: 对象儿了。”

s*f2011-02-07 08:02

44 楼

我以前看过一本书，有一句话很有意思：winners think about 'both', losers think
about 'either'。
当然，感情的世界很难说winner/loser。但是很多时候，我们容易陷入非此即彼的窠臼
。Financially independent固然重要，但是不是追求这个独立的同时，就不能追求婚
姻呢？

to

【在 a*******n 的大作中提到】

: 我的回答：
: I do not even have the plan for marriage.
: Self independence is the most important. After I become financially
: independent, I could think of marriage. I guess by that time it is already
: too late. Also, marriage means responsibility. I think that I am not able to
: take up all the resonsibilities by marriage.
: I guess 23 - 28 is the best age for marriage. After that, love will become
: complicated. There are also various kind of pressure from work. You know
: family life is not as sweet as one can imagine.
: 是不是有人有同感？

d*32011-02-07 08:02

45 楼

错
恋爱是一种错误，
结婚是将错就错，
生崽便是错中之错。
一个朋友对我说。
活着是一种错误，
健康是将错就错，
长寿便是错中之错。
我对朋友说。
“什么意思？”朋友说。
“什么什么意思？”我说。
说话是一种错误，
行为是将错就错，
认真便是错中之错。

C*d2011-02-07 08:02

46 楼

But life without marriage and all its benefits, including kids, are mostly
miserable and hard. There is no one you can fully trust and rely when you
are in most need, and the joy from child(ren) is just so wonderful.
Since you are so 理性, let's do some calculation: Say one person has 90% of
successful rate to keep a job. If you have a working spouse with reasonable
salary, you two will have a 99% change to keep at least one job to maintain
the family. This is a huge benefit with marriage: financially much more
stable.

g*y2011-02-07 08:02

47 楼

你就继续自己骗自己吧。如果这样你会好受一些。等你40,50以后容颜不在从编造的
谎言中醒来才会体会到孤独有多么的
凄凉.

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【在 a*******n 的大作中提到】

: 我的回答：
: I do not even have the plan for marriage.
: Self independence is the most important. After I become financially
: independent, I could think of marriage. I guess by that time it is already
: too late. Also, marriage means responsibility. I think that I am not able to
: take up all the resonsibilities by marriage.
: I guess 23 - 28 is the best age for marriage. After that, love will become
: complicated. There are also various kind of pressure from work. You know
: family life is not as sweet as one can imagine.
: 是不是有人有同感？

y*82011-02-07 08:02

48 楼

恩，同意，一个人过久了根本没法适应再多一个会喘气的同种动物。

n*y2011-02-07 08:02

49 楼

其实就是没遇到想结婚的人。

y*g2011-02-07 08:02

50 楼

还有异地 (long distant )
现在特别怕一不小心就当小三了

【在 a*******n 的大作中提到】

: 哈哈。
: 都是闹着玩的。

s*h2011-02-07 08:02

51 楼

结婚是一件特别水到渠成自然的事儿，没那么多利弊选择。就是想和一个人在一起。
LZMM是还没遇到想结婚的人。
正因为工作各方面压力大，温暖的家庭是放松的最佳港湾。

b*m2011-02-07 08:02

52 楼

too simple,too naive

【在 s****h 的大作中提到】

: 结婚是一件特别水到渠成自然的事儿，没那么多利弊选择。就是想和一个人在一起。
: LZMM是还没遇到想结婚的人。
: 正因为工作各方面压力大，温暖的家庭是放松的最佳港湾。

l*s2011-02-07 08:02

53 楼

说得好。“世上无难事，只怕有心人”。把事业和婚姻对立起来只能选一的人说到底是
缺乏自信，缺乏生
活的勇气。

think

【在 s*f 的大作中提到】

: 我以前看过一本书，有一句话很有意思：winners think about 'both', losers think
: about 'either'。
: 当然，感情的世界很难说winner/loser。但是很多时候，我们容易陷入非此即彼的窠臼
: 。Financially independent固然重要，但是不是追求这个独立的同时，就不能追求婚
: 姻呢？
:
: to

v*62011-02-07 08:02

54 楼

我和你感觉一样汗不知道我觉得我过了这年龄也就不想了。可能多数国内同学都是这
个时候结婚，导致
自己也想吧

【在 S******t 的大作中提到】

: 我23，4岁的时候特别急，过了之后就没感觉了，哈哈

H*r2011-02-07 08:02

55 楼

估计男的不愿意，她也无奈

【在 h**********l 的大作中提到】

: 我在去年thanksgiving的时候，和我做同一project的ABC（不是我们group的，但是我
: 们老板和他们老板有很多合作项目）带着他女朋友去我们老板家吃饭，因为他女朋友（
: 这个是地地道道的中国人）告诉我他们在一起三年多了，我就问他俩为啥不结婚，结果
: 把人家问尴尬了。。。
:
: to

b*l2011-02-07 08:02

56 楼

Independence is overrated, kid.

to

【在 a*******n 的大作中提到】

: 我的回答：
: I do not even have the plan for marriage.
: Self independence is the most important. After I become financially
: independent, I could think of marriage. I guess by that time it is already
: too late. Also, marriage means responsibility. I think that I am not able to
: take up all the resonsibilities by marriage.
: I guess 23 - 28 is the best age for marriage. After that, love will become
: complicated. There are also various kind of pressure from work. You know
: family life is not as sweet as one can imagine.
: 是不是有人有同感？

b*l2011-02-07 08:02

57 楼

DDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDDIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIINNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNGGGGGGGGGGGG!

think

【在 s*f 的大作中提到】

: 我以前看过一本书，有一句话很有意思：winners think about 'both', losers think
: about 'either'。
: 当然，感情的世界很难说winner/loser。但是很多时候，我们容易陷入非此即彼的窠臼
: 。Financially independent固然重要，但是不是追求这个独立的同时，就不能追求婚
: 姻呢？
:
: to

b*l2011-02-07 08:02

58 楼

其实借个也只是个借口21。结婚其实就是俩人儿搭火过日子生孩子然后一起老一起死。
不带那么多琼瑶的。

【在 n***y 的大作中提到】

: 其实就是没遇到想结婚的人。

c*a2011-02-07 08:02

59 楼

总结得好！

【在 v******s 的大作中提到】

: 春节听到次数最多的一句问候是：“有对象儿了吗？”听到次数最多的一句祝福是：“
: 祝你明年过年领回来个对象儿。”听到次数最多的关于亲友的消息是：“你看XXX都有
: 对象儿了。”