一直以为美国女孩都穿的很性感的样子很好,老公也喜欢自己打扮的漂亮些。结果招来
不少烦恼。今天看到一篇文章,教人
醍醐灌顶。摘录几段如下,和所有喜欢漂亮的职场女生共享。
If a woman dresses sexy at work, her male colleague’s reaction may be, “
She is acting seductive to me,”
followed by, “Which woman is she?” Also, if a woman acts feminine, her
colleagues accuse her of playing the
sex manipulation game. On the other hand, if a woman keeps to herself, she
is too reclusive and sexually
unassertive. There is no winning card that the businesswoman can play.
Women who are unaware of this psychology at work, who dress trendy and
borderline sexy, hinder themselves
from promotions unconsciously. Their male managers will assume that these
women are not serious about
their careers or the business that they conduct. Given that the majority of
the managerial and executive
positions remain in the hands of men, these men will naturally avoid
promoting women who may appear to be
in pursuit of men, yet they are more tolerant of men who maybe in the same
situation.
The managerial woman has to understand her business image in the workplace.
There is no room in the
workplace for adjectives like “sexy,” “hot,” or anything in between. All
interactions that this woman has with
her superiors, subordinates, and coworkers have to be weighed against her
advancement in her business
career. If her interactions appear borderline playful, she should know that
she just traded some costly equality
dollars for fun. If she is dating a co-worker, her relationship should be
kept private and confidential. If she
unconsciously or consciously selects a sexy dress code since it make her
feel wanted, she should know that
she just paid costly equality dollars for her high sexual index. This doesn
’t mean that she can’t dress sexy and
feminine on her personal time, but in the workplace, she should look and act
like the next manager if she
wants to make it to an executive level. Always memorizing her image in the
mirror, this woman should ask
herself before leaving to work in the morning and as she decides what to
wear for the day, “What does this
outfit say to the people around me? What messages does it convey?” If the
response to her questions is
anything other than a business-oriented, managerial woman whose sexuality is
private, then she should
reconsider changing her attire.