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flyincloud (flyincloud) 于 (Mon Jul 19 18:51:35 2010, 美东) 提到:
大家有没有什么英文工作中的金句？
就是那种不要太多，但是在工作中一说，就立即能够收服人心的那种。
一是对老板：
１。对老板拍马屁。
２。老板不同意我的某个想法的时候用来对他做说服工作。
３。增加老板对我的信任，让他多教教我东西。
二是对同事：
（我老板暂时只有我一个手下，这里的同事主要是指老板叫我搭建的系统中，需要合作
的IT和数据分析师等）。
１。在开会等时候恭胃对方，给足面子。
２。在开会时剧理力争，维护老板和我的最大利益。
３。私下里收服人心，让他们给我多干活。把我们的项目放在第一位。
还请大家来指点小弟我一下，非常感谢。
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Tanshuiwen (贪睡文) 于 (Mon Jul 19 21:20:12 2010, 美东) 提到:
老板篇
（注：拍马屁可能有反效果）
对老板拍马屁：
他讲出一个你请教他的问题的答案时：
“And that's why you're the boss!"
或
"No wonder they pay you the big bucks!"
他指示你一个方案的方向：
“Ahhh... I get you. This will work... This will work! This is an awesome
idea."讲这的时候加一些手式会加强效果。
或
看起来像低头认真思考～5秒（或眼睛从左到右一下），看着老板的眼睛，慢慢的点头
，然后展开一个小的笑容。这个sequence本身就拍够马屁了。（saying something is
optional).
不同意你的想法：
“You're right, but hear me out here... I'm just thinking out loud..."(让你
有个机会表达意见）。
“You're right, but let me play the devil's advocate. What if..." (意思是来
逆向思考，从另外一个角度来考虑问题，当然，这就是你的角度）
重点是先同意老板是对的！！在慢慢把你的想法温和的说出来。很少有老板喜欢发现自
己错了。假如忠言不逆耳，你本来就不用考虑这些手法。
增加老板对自己的信任：
当你作出老板喜欢的事，而他表示表示的时候（眼神也算）
"Your goals are my goals. My job is to make you look good"
"You're the brains here. I'm just here to support you and execute your
vision."
"You say jump I say how high" [注：老实人不要try这个]
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Tanshuiwen (贪睡文) 于 (Mon Jul 19 21:49:23 2010, 美东) 提到:
同事篇
开会时给同事面子：
当对方花时间解释或总结一个并不是特难的concept时候可说：
"Thank you, I think we(I) knew bits and pieces of this, but it's much easier
to understand when you quantify all these thoughts together". 记得讲这的时
候要看起来有点佩服对方的样子。
或
"Hah, life is easy for the rest of us when we got 同事名字 on our team!"
当对方给Presentation，事后：
多人有present："Great presentation, honestly, it was the only one I didn't
fall asleep in" [or honestly, it was the only one I paid full attention to].
绝对不要在别的presenter面前说这种话！
只有他present：“Great presentation. So rare that someone actually knows
their stuff and can present it well"
暂停一下。想了一下后，其实这个还是看人本身。你要收服人心，你要可以见人说人话
，见鬼说鬼话。Profiling, psychology, behavioral, 这些不是一朝一日就练好的。
不过。。。一些generic的话常常可以用，所以就继续把！
维护你跟老板的利益 (太broad了啦！）：
"Ok, let's be fair (reasonable) here."
或
“Look, we both want the same thing. We want this done. Let's not talk
about the past. Let's talk about how to get this done moving forward. I'm
here to help you. Help me help you."
实际上有的时候这里有用“give and take"或高等技巧的让别人自己认为他的主意是自
己想出来的，其实是你plant some seeds,而conclusion就是你的利益维护了。这太难
一次写出来。Again, it depends on the situation.
私下收服人心不难，可我没时间了。
Hope this helps.
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floorlamp (落地灯) 于 (Tue Jul 20 12:13:39 2010, 美东) 提到:
if you have time later, please go on. That's very helpful!
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stlstl (射天狼) 于 (Tue Jul 20 12:26:45 2010, 美东) 提到:
zan
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stlstl (射天狼) 于 (Tue Jul 20 12:27:06 2010, 美东) 提到:
zan
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yangyi (羊乙) 于 (Tue Jul 20 12:29:08 2010, 美东) 提到:
收服人心...一是对老板
who is the boss?
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windmaple (wind) 于 (Wed Jul 21 02:41:10 2010, 美东) 提到:
man, you are good ....
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b07995 (xiaoxiao) 于 (Fri Jul 23 14:31:24 2010, 美东) 提到:
zan~~~~~~~~~
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ywforever (honeybee) 于 (Sun Jul 25 14:05:35 2010, 美东) 提到:
ass kisser
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Tanshuiwen (贪睡文) 于 (Mon Jul 26 22:50:57 2010, 美东) 提到:
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bearJhonson (鸟叫六棵齐) 于 (Mon Jul 26 23:15:18 2010, 美东) 提到:
文化背景不一样，
常见例子：
麻将 vs.桥牌
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cloudfoot (湖水) 于 (Fri Jul 30 17:12:53 2010, 美东) 提到:
I think this is a very good replying.It is like a brain storm.Admire not
only think about that, able to jump out and see the big picture, and try
to make effort to change that. If more chinese can think in that way and
change something on our own, that will be a fundamental change.If u want
change,change from the root.why cannot we?what are the good necessary
merits we can learn from others?Maybe that is the question we can ask
ourselves,instead of feeling sorry for ourselves and arguing on the
nonsense
every day.
especially like this"我只是想看到多一点同胞，黄面孔，让这个世界真的国际化，而不是员工来
自全世界，高层来自少数地方。"
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ywforever (honeybee) 于 (Tue Aug 10 00:45:48 2010, 美东) 提到:
我今天第一天到新公司上班。
和小组第一次开会，互相介绍。
小组里6、7个人。大多都是白人，唯一一亚裔，介绍自己说"I am nobody"。接着一直
皱着眉头开会，也没怎么发言。
我都无语了。。。
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terrific (terrific) 于 (Tue Aug 10 01:20:40 2010, 美东) 提到:
wow, you are the man!
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Tanshuiwen (贪睡文) 于 (Tue Aug 10 03:15:12 2010, 美东) 提到:
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ywforever (honeybee) 于 (Tue Aug 10 19:54:52 2010, 美东) 提到:
you are probably good in affective communication. However, you don't seem to
be a good listener.
You are very good at express your thoughts and teach other lessons, but you
keep going on and on and on. you probably like to show off here, don't you?
wow, this makes you an Indian. lol
the whole point with my last reply is to describe a situtation I encountered
with chinese/asian employee, since the previous replies were talking about
chinese in work place. To me, this isn't a racist thing, but if your
attitude is like that guy I met yesterday, then you are probably not going
to suceed in workplace.
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WAUF (天灵灵地灵灵) 于 (Tue Aug 10 21:05:59 2010, 美东) 提到:
you say jump i say how high, hehe
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Tanshuiwen (贪睡文) 于 (Tue Aug 10 21:46:12 2010, 美东) 提到:
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ywforever (honeybee) 于 (Wed Aug 11 02:42:05 2010, 美东) 提到:
lol. You over analyzed it.
Same as you, my Chinese isn't that well. Let's just stay at this side of the
road.
I just watched couple movies like inception and fight club. Please don't
think of me having split personality. It's kinda
of creepy.
One leak on your anlysis. If I'm the only Asian, why should I introduce
myself to myself? Or were you assuming on
my first day of work, I introduced myself as "nobody"? Well, you shouldn't
even try to help such kin of person then.
