cut loose with the girl Sort out your marriage relationship first( be it reunion or divorce) have a plan to raise your kids, either you or your wife needs to take care of them, but not their grandparents. when you think too much for yourself, no one will do that to help you. I am in the same Divoce ship, wife is a housewife, but the long period of staying at home has got her a depression and boy ..., in short, she insists divorce and want the custodyship for the kids, kids want to stay with me,