PSA: Here's a list of hints a girl likes you. Disclaimer: every girl is
different.
Observe her "baseline behavior" and see if she has deviations from that
behavior. Example: She doesn't touch anyone, but hugs you a lot.
Girls prefer to "create opportunities" for the guy to make a move, rather
than make a move herself. These are clues, not confirmation. Real answer is
to ask her out.
She says compliments like, "Hey, I like your shirt." If she keeps walking,
no go. If she stays to chat? Stop, talk to her and get her phone number. It'
s a common piece of dating advice in women's magazines to say something like
that to guys. The problem is, men assume the girl likes their clothes, not
likes them.
She asks what kind of girls you like, who you have a crush on, your
relationship status, says you could get any girl you want, etc.
She asks what clothes you think look sexy, hairstyles, etc. Sends you photos
of herself in outfits to get your opinion. Green flag: you tell her, and
she dresses that way. Or she changes her hairstyle based on your preference.
If she doesn't change fashion but her friend does, she was a wingwoman to
gather info for her friend to date you.
"Friendly Inquisition" - her friend(s) ask, "What do you think of [girl's
name]?" "Is she your type?" "Would you go out with her?" She sent them as
spies. Variation: her friend calls and asks. The girl is on the line too,
listening to what you'll say.
She creates excuses to hang out alone, e.g. studying together, watching a
movie, show a talent. But she spends more time flirting with you and asking
personal questions. Green flag if you're not even in the same classes or she
does not need help studying.
She asks you to help her with easy stuff. Key is she's over-the-top grateful
and doesn't want you to leave.
She's always "around." When you arrive at class, when you leave class, at
the coffee shop you like, when you're at an event, etc.
She's gotten off work and has no reason to stay. You're the reason she wants
to stay. If she's at work but says when she gets off work--she wants to
hang out with you after.
She preemptively mentions being single. Or that she's broken up with her
boyfriend.
She gives you her phone number without you even asking for it. Or she gets
your number from someone else.
She texts you cute/sexy pictures and invites you to hang out.
She shows interest in your hobbies even though she didn't before. "Come to
my house to play video games."
She brings up a movie she wants to see, a bar or restaurant she wants to
check out, a party that's happening, etc. Especially if she says, "But I
have no one to go with." She wants you to ask her out.
She casually bring up events, and gauges your reaction. If you show interest
, she pounces and says you should go together. [4 hours later that night] "
Wait, did she ask me out on a date?"
"Self-invite" date, e.g. you tell her about a cool bar you went to, and she
says, "You should take me there!"
"Reminder" date, e.g. "When are you gonna take me for a spin in your car?" "
When are we going to watch that TV show at your place?"
She asks if you have plans for the night or weekend. Ask her out for drinks.
Calls, texts (especially when it's late), likes all your Facebook posts, etc
. Key thing: when you do invite her to hang out in person, she does, and she
's eager to. If she constantly flakes, she just enjoys your attention and
doesn't want to escalate further. If she acts like this with you while in a
relationship with someone else, stay away.
She shares songs, photos, quotes, videos, stories etc. with you related to
love. It's a "test" to see if you think about her in those ways.
Writes big long messages in your yearbook, her phone number and an invite to
hang out.
"Third Party Endorsement." When she expresses what she wants as if it was
the opinion of other people. Saying things like: "My friends think we would
make a cute couple." "My Mom asked if you're my boyfriend yet 'cuz we hang
out together so much." "Since we're alone together in your room, the other
people at the party probably think we're hooking up right now."
Touching, hugging, sitting on your lap, holds your hand, puts your arm
around her, dances close, etc. Asks "Have you been working out?" and feeling
your biceps or abs. Massages and back rubs (takes off top). Play fighting.
Clumsiness or acting drunk as an excuse to lean on you, for you to hold her,
and get your faces in kissing range.
She complains about being cold. If you're outside, put your arms around her.
If you're lying down watching TV together, cuddle closer. If she says her
hands are cold, hold her hands.
She shows off her body. Bends forward to show you her chest or butt, shows
off her legs, answers the door wearing little clothing (or a towel). She's
really trying if she tells you to look at her dress, legs, etc. "Look how
short my skirt is!" Or she invites you to touch. "I just used a new razor to
shave my legs and they're so smooth. Come and feel!"
She finds excuses to remove clothes. Too hot, has to take a shower, change
clothes, etc. Key is she doesn't change rooms or close the door or kick you
out.
She "steals" something from you--like a hat. You're supposed to chase her
into a room and make out. Or takes a small item from you and drops it down
her top.
She "borrows" things (she doesn't need) to make up a reason to talk to you.
She "forgets" things at your place so she has a reason to come back--and
hook up.
"The Friend Fadeaway." You go out on a group outing with her and friends.
They gradually leave until you're alone with the girl, maybe even her house
or room. Variation: you show up thinking it's a group outing or a party, but
she's the only one there.
"Party of Two." She invites you to a party or event, but sticks to you the
whole night.
If you get sick or injured, she gets more worried and concerned beyond what
you think a normal friend would. If she comes over with food and other
supplies and plays nurse, it's a big hint.
After a night out at a bar, nightclub, or party, when she's ready to leave
she asks to split a taxi with you back to her place. And she doesn't
mentions sharing a cab with the whole group of friends, just you.
If she has a party at her place, at the end of the night she shoos out all
the other guests but wants you to stay. Or she'll come with some excuse that
you're too drunk, your home is too far, weather is too bad for you to drive
home now, and she insists you sleep over.
If she's dropping people off after a party, night out, event, etc. she drops
off everyone first and you last, even passing by your home to do it. To get
you alone.
She "misses" the last train, bus, etc. so she can sleep over. Or makes
excuses not to leave your car.
She brings up sleeping arrangements. She doesn't want you to sleep on the
couch (or floor), and insists you share a bed with her.
She mentions how she's home alone tonight, roommate is away, her parents out
of town, etc. She wants you to invite yourself over to fool around. Or for
you to ask her to come over to your place. Hot tip: text her "coming over"
or "come over" and see how she reacts.
If she comes over to your place, she confirms repeatedly that you're alone (
no roommates or parents).
Thirst: "I'm so horny!" "I need to get laid tonight" "I've never fucked in [
location you're both in now]."
She brags about her sexual skills. "I give great blowjobs."
She implies that the current circumstances are ideal for sex. "We're the
only ones here." "We could fool around no one would know. "No one can hear
us with these walls." "This bed is really comfortable, you know." "I'm not
wearing panties." "I'm on birth control." "I've got condoms in that drawer."
Those aren't random facts she just brought up.
She kisses another girl in front of you--and wants you to watch. Or invites
you into a room to fool around more. How threesomes start.
She asks you out. She's tired of hinting. Straight talk is the last resort.
She says she used to have a crush on you. If she's single, she could be
hinting she still has a crush and you should ask her out. He gets hung up on
how she used the past tense, and treats it as her saying, "I'm not
interested in you now."
Negative tactics. Some girls do these things to attract guys, but they
actually repel guys.
She tries to make you jealous. She brags about guys asking her out, flirts
with guys in front of you but always looks at you to make sure you see it,
etc. She wants to let you know she's "in demand" so you'll want her. The
problem is girls are turned on by competition in relationships, while most
guys are turned off.
Complain about guys hitting on her. What she means is, "I don't like it when
other guys do it, but it's okay for you because I like you." This backfires
, because the guy will assume the girl doesn't want him to make a move too.
She bad-mouths any girl you date, because she's jealous of them getting to
be intimate with you.
She opens the conversation by insulting you. house_robot explained this
really well in another thread.
Quote:
When a girl says, "Oh you're a player aren't you?" its similar to when they
say shit like, "Oh you want me to go home with you? You sure you don't have
other girls there already?"
Its the female approach to giving a man a compliment: passive aggressively,
and couched as an insult. Shes letting you know you have desirable qualities.
When girls say this type of nonsense to you, never confirm or deny it.
It took me a while to realize this was a thing. I'd meet a new girl, she'd
break my balls, and I'd be turned off. Hear later she liked me. WTF?
Let's end on a positive note.
Food (+1 if she cooked or baked it herself), gifts, handmade greeting cards,
mixtapes, poems or stories she wrote, etc.
Good luck!
