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trouble in mind# Midlife - 人到中年

o*82010-03-03 08:03

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Every once in a while I have such strong urge to avoid reality. My life and
work seem mundane but stable, no big upset, no trouble, and no the
unexpected. I have loved ones, and they are as healthy and happy as ever,
which truly the purpose I am still living in this world. But I want to not
be around with people a lot of time. They always say that men have their
caves. I feel like women have their caves too, where I feel I can completely
emotionally disconnect with everything and everyone. I am

a*y2010-03-03 08:03

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normal

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completely

【在 o*******8 的大作中提到】

: Every once in a while I have such strong urge to avoid reality. My life and
: work seem mundane but stable, no big upset, no trouble, and no the
: unexpected. I have loved ones, and they are as healthy and happy as ever,
: which truly the purpose I am still living in this world. But I want to not
: be around with people a lot of time. They always say that men have their
: caves. I feel like women have their caves too, where I feel I can completely
: emotionally disconnect with everything and everyone. I am

m*m2010-03-03 08:03

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这么长的英文你都读了？
admire

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: normal
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: and
: completely

K*l2010-03-03 08:03

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consult with family doctor?

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r*y2010-03-03 08:03

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nod;
unless she experiences such feeling rather frequently.

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: normal
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o*82010-03-03 08:03

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About once a week or two weeks.

【在 r****y 的大作中提到】

: nod;
: unless she experiences such feeling rather frequently.

o*82010-03-03 08:03

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Actually I am thinking about talking to a shrink.

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: consult with family doctor?
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: and
: completely

r*y2010-03-03 08:03

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how long does it usually last?
besides preferring to be left alone, do you have any other symptoms, say
feeling meaningless, worthless, etc?
I figure it is just minor runs of depression; if it does not affect your
normal life and relationship, better leave it there than to take anti-
depressants that will most likely be prescribed by your doctors if you
seek help from them.

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: About once a week or two weeks.

o*82010-03-03 08:03

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Several hours. I haven't told my husband and my parents yet, and don't even
plan to. I don't feel meaningless nor worthless. It's just that I don't
want to interact with others. My husband doesn't know about it because most
of time it happens during work. Plus, I work in academia and face computer
all the time. So there isn't really someone I can interact to. It's probably
just mild depression, but when it hits, it drives me nuts.

【在 r****y 的大作中提到】

: how long does it usually last?
: besides preferring to be left alone, do you have any other symptoms, say
: feeling meaningless, worthless, etc?
: I figure it is just minor runs of depression; if it does not affect your
: normal life and relationship, better leave it there than to take anti-
: depressants that will most likely be prescribed by your doctors if you
: seek help from them.

b*r2010-03-03 08:03

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I might have learned a little bit,in a pretty hard way. just my two cheap
cents to teach myself,absolutely not intending to teach you ( i wish
somebody can teach me forever):
1. Reality, no matter how unpleasant,ugly,harsh,or whatever you may label it
, is still "batter" than the imaginary, because at least it has life in it.
Retreating, occasionally, is absolutely okay and no need to feel guilty for
it.
Facing the reality,doing sth about it, or even better, doing sth "may" be
right, however, i

【在 o*******8 的大作中提到】

: Several hours. I haven't told my husband and my parents yet, and don't even
: plan to. I don't feel meaningless nor worthless. It's just that I don't
: want to interact with others. My husband doesn't know about it because most
: of time it happens during work. Plus, I work in academia and face computer
: all the time. So there isn't really someone I can interact to. It's probably
: just mild depression, but when it hits, it drives me nuts.

b*r2010-03-03 08:03

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poor man like me even don't have a family doctor...
I realized that my capability to be happy and MAKE MY FAMILY HAPPY seems
losing, when I read an e-mail from a high-school friend.

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: consult with family doctor?
:
: and
: completely

b*r2010-03-03 08:03

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yea, it's very natural. but, maybe, it can be more "normal", or whatever.
have a nice weekend.

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: normal
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b*r2010-03-03 08:03

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I just drink coffee, don't want to eat lunch. Where is my appetite??
want make some small cou-you-bing for sharing at tonight's party. hope not
too bad!
happy weekends~

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: 这么长的英文你都读了？
: admire

l*r2010-03-03 08:03

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我已经ditch coffee了

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: I just drink coffee, don't want to eat lunch. Where is my appetite??
: want make some small cou-you-bing for sharing at tonight's party. hope not
: too bad!
: happy weekends~

m*m2010-03-03 08:03

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cong you bing

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: I just drink coffee, don't want to eat lunch. Where is my appetite??
: want make some small cou-you-bing for sharing at tonight's party. hope not
: too bad!
: happy weekends~

t*d2010-03-03 08:03

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典型的症状，这儿的人或多或少或长或久都会遇到这种状态。该度假了吧。

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x*r2010-03-03 08:03

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It is ok as long as you do engage in any harmful behaviors while alone.
Maybe life to much for you. you need sometime to take rest. Everyone need
such a time. Don't force your self, you will be ok.

i*e2010-03-03 08:03

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how are you doing now?

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s*y2010-03-03 08:03

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take a break, get a vacation something.