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s*g2012-08-06 07:08

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妞两岁半了觉得越来越不听话
跟她讲不许做的事情不许碰的东西根本就不听
比如她看到相机放在桌子上绳子掉出来她就要去抓来玩
跟她说不要动她也不听很调皮的非要拿来玩被我凶了一下就开始哭
还有早晨跟她说过来穿衣服穿袜子或者换尿布
人家大喊一声No 就跑掉了怎么叫都不回来强行抓回来就倒在地上打滚哭
走在停车场上跟她说要拉手走人家还是No 怎么都不肯给拉手
如果手被拉住就马上倒在地上哭
很多事情耐心的跟她讲这样做不对人家不听就是一个字No
听得我真是非常的火大简直威逼利诱软硬兼施妞就是不听
这种terrible 2的小娃要怎么带啊求高招
顺便奔个满脸stikcer的小妞她外婆说照片太骗人
看着以为是个小乖乖其实赖皮的很

l*92012-08-06 07:08

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好漂亮的小妞！

p*02012-08-06 07:08

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time out～～？

s*g2012-08-06 07:08

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唉试过啊关小黑屋人家根本不怕啊
而且关进去哭转身出来就不记得了完全没有威慑作用
问题是不能啥事都timeout吧让她穿衣服喊一句no就timeout么？

【在 p********0 的大作中提到】

: time out～～？

b*d2012-08-06 07:08

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穿衣服这种非原则性问题，你就让娃自己挑她喜欢的，自然愿意穿。
停车场这种原则性问题，唐，一直唐，一直告诉她如何如何危险，并紧紧地抓住手。如
果赖在地上，就抱起来走。应该会有她明白过来那一天。小孩子撒泼力气再大，也大不
过铁了心的大人。她撒泼几次发现完全没有商量余地，慢慢就接受了。

c*e2012-08-06 07:08

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挺典型的，看下面的文章，希望有帮助。
http://www.cpnonline.org/CRS/CRS/pa_bnegativ_hhg.htm
Negative, Stubborn Toddler
Why is my child so negative?
Negativism is a normal phase most children go through between 18 months and
3 years of age. It begins when children discover they have the power to
refuse other people's requests. During this time, children respond
negatively to many requests, including pleasant ones. In general, they are
stubborn rather than cooperative. They delight in refusing a suggestion,
whether it's about getting dressed or taking off their clothes, taking a
bath or getting out of the bathtub, going to bed or getting up.
How do I deal with a negative, stubborn toddler?
Consider the following guidelines for helping you and your child through
this phase.
Don't take this normal phase too personally.
By saying no your child means, "Do I have to?" or "Do you mean it?" This
response should not be confused with disrespect. This phase is important to
the development of independence and identity. Try to look at it with a
sense of humor and amazement.
Don't punish your child for saying no.
Punish your child for what he does, not what he says. Since you can't
eliminate the no, ignore it. Arguing with your child about saying no will
prolong this behavior.
Give your child extra choices.
This is the best way to increase your child's sense of freedom and
control, so that she will become more cooperative. Examples of choices are
letting your child choose between a shower or a bath; which book to read;
which toys to take into the tub; which fruit to eat for a snack; which
clothes or shoes to wear; which breakfast cereal to eat; which game to play,
whether inside or outside, in the park or in the yard; and so forth. For
tasks your child doesn't like, give her a say in the matter by asking, "Do
you want to do it slowly or fast?" or "Do you want me to do it, or you?" The
more quickly your child gains a feeling that she is a decision-maker, the
sooner this phase will be over.
Don't give your child a choice when there is none.
Safety rules, such as sitting in the car safety seat, are not open to
discussion, although you can explain why the rule must be followed. Going to
bed or to day care also is not negotiable. Don't ask a question when there'
s only one acceptable answer, but direct your child in as kind a manner as
possible (for example, "I'm sorry, but now you have to go to bed"). Commands
such as "Do this or else" should be avoided.
Give transition time when your child's activity must change.
If your child is having fun and must change to another activity, he
probably needs a transition time. For example, if your child is playing with
trucks as dinnertime approaches, give him a 5-minute warning. A kitchen
timer sometimes helps a child accept the change more readily.
Eliminate excessive rules.
The more rules you have, the less likely it is that your child will be
agreeable about following them. Eliminate unnecessary expectations and
arguments about wearing socks or cleaning her plate. Help your child feel
less controlled by having more positive interactions than negative contacts
each day.
Avoid responding to your child's requests with excessive no's.
Be for your child a model of agreeableness. When your child asks for
something and you are unsure, try to say yes, or postpone your decision by
saying, "Let me think about it." If you are going to grant a request, do so
right away, before your child whines or begs for it. When you must say no,
say you're sorry and give your child a reason.
When should I call my child's healthcare provider?
Call during office hours if:
You or your spouse can't accept your child's need to say no.
You or your spouse have trouble controlling your temper.
Your child has several other discipline problems.
This approach doesn't bring improvement within one month.
You have other questions or concerns.

【在 s*********g 的大作中提到】

: 妞两岁半了觉得越来越不听话
: 跟她讲不许做的事情不许碰的东西根本就不听
: 比如她看到相机放在桌子上绳子掉出来她就要去抓来玩
: 跟她说不要动她也不听很调皮的非要拿来玩被我凶了一下就开始哭
: 还有早晨跟她说过来穿衣服穿袜子或者换尿布
: 人家大喊一声No 就跑掉了怎么叫都不回来强行抓回来就倒在地上打滚哭
: 走在停车场上跟她说要拉手走人家还是No 怎么都不肯给拉手
: 如果手被拉住就马上倒在地上哭
: 很多事情耐心的跟她讲这样做不对人家不听就是一个字No
: 听得我真是非常的火大简直威逼利诱软硬兼施妞就是不听

h*b2012-08-06 07:08

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Thanks!!

and

【在 c******e 的大作中提到】

: 挺典型的，看下面的文章，希望有帮助。
: http://www.cpnonline.org/CRS/CRS/pa_bnegativ_hhg.htm
: Negative, Stubborn Toddler
: Why is my child so negative?
: Negativism is a normal phase most children go through between 18 months and
: 3 years of age. It begins when children discover they have the power to
: refuse other people's requests. During this time, children respond
: negatively to many requests, including pleasant ones. In general, they are
: stubborn rather than cooperative. They delight in refusing a suggestion,
: whether it's about getting dressed or taking off their clothes, taking a

S*62012-08-06 07:08

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为什么说是 Terrible 2, 我们小孩刚满一岁, 就是这样了.

【在 s*********g 的大作中提到】

: 妞两岁半了觉得越来越不听话
: 跟她讲不许做的事情不许碰的东西根本就不听
: 比如她看到相机放在桌子上绳子掉出来她就要去抓来玩
: 跟她说不要动她也不听很调皮的非要拿来玩被我凶了一下就开始哭
: 还有早晨跟她说过来穿衣服穿袜子或者换尿布
: 人家大喊一声No 就跑掉了怎么叫都不回来强行抓回来就倒在地上打滚哭
: 走在停车场上跟她说要拉手走人家还是No 怎么都不肯给拉手
: 如果手被拉住就马上倒在地上哭
: 很多事情耐心的跟她讲这样做不对人家不听就是一个字No
: 听得我真是非常的火大简直威逼利诱软硬兼施妞就是不听

k*g2012-08-06 07:08

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谢谢，身边很多爸爸妈妈都是这么做的。
但是看了文章以后，就跟清楚自己应该怎么做了。

and

【在 c******e 的大作中提到】

: 挺典型的，看下面的文章，希望有帮助。
: http://www.cpnonline.org/CRS/CRS/pa_bnegativ_hhg.htm
: Negative, Stubborn Toddler
: Why is my child so negative?
: Negativism is a normal phase most children go through between 18 months and
: 3 years of age. It begins when children discover they have the power to
: refuse other people's requests. During this time, children respond
: negatively to many requests, including pleasant ones. In general, they are
: stubborn rather than cooperative. They delight in refusing a suggestion,
: whether it's about getting dressed or taking off their clothes, taking a

s*g2012-08-06 07:08

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一岁的时候还属于"胳膊拧不过大腿"
两岁的时候已经到了"到底打滚鱼死网破"的地步
所以叫做terrible 2 因为一岁不过terrible...

【在 S******6 的大作中提到】

: 为什么说是 Terrible 2, 我们小孩刚满一岁, 就是这样了.

n*i2012-08-06 07:08

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同问这个time out的问题。我家铭铭也是快两岁半了，也经常有T2的表现。让他在角落
里timeout，他要不就是完全不怕，还呵呵笑，要不就是非要离开，我也不能一直在那
里拉着他吧。要是关某间屋子里，开灯还是不开灯呢？开灯的话，他干脆就在那屋里玩
起来了，不开灯的话怕他吓着，而且他实际上每间屋子的灯都会自己开。伤脑筋啊。

【在 s*********g 的大作中提到】

: 唉试过啊关小黑屋人家根本不怕啊
: 而且关进去哭转身出来就不记得了完全没有威慑作用
: 问题是不能啥事都timeout吧让她穿衣服喊一句no就timeout么？

s*62012-08-06 07:08

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同意beotherband mm的意见，原则性问题竟量唐到她自己想通，费原则性问题就随她，
还能锻炼她的独立性

s*62012-08-06 07:08

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好像关小黑屋这种做法对孩子不好吧？我们的time话out就是叫她站旁边而已

s*62012-08-06 07:08

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mark 这个t2的文章，等下慢慢学习下，谢谢分享

s*g2012-08-06 07:08

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谢谢上面share的T2文章非常有用
我今天试了一下小丫头对我给的选择题也一样是no
但是重整了信心决定战胜她并且增加自己的耐心

s*g2012-08-06 07:08

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一定要起到惩罚的作用
我是跟她一起关小黑屋堵着门不让出直到不哭或者知错为止
比如她打人就跟她说no hitting 教育她如果哭就去小黑屋
怎么哭都没用直到她自己讲no hitting 我才跟她一起出来
效果还是有的她再打人我一脸严肃的说no hitting 她就不打了
你可以不用小黑屋一个空房间放杂物的或者壁橱也行
总之里面不能玩才能有惩罚的作用

【在 n*****i 的大作中提到】

: 同问这个time out的问题。我家铭铭也是快两岁半了，也经常有T2的表现。让他在角落
: 里timeout，他要不就是完全不怕，还呵呵笑，要不就是非要离开，我也不能一直在那
: 里拉着他吧。要是关某间屋子里，开灯还是不开灯呢？开灯的话，他干脆就在那屋里玩
: 起来了，不开灯的话怕他吓着，而且他实际上每间屋子的灯都会自己开。伤脑筋啊。

y*i2012-08-06 07:08

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Thanks for sharing. We've been through the same problem for a while and
still seeking a good way~

g*n2012-08-06 07:08

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呵呵，我儿子也是，27个月了，越来越不听话，动不动就哭给你看。也正在找治理他的
方法。
不过有时候也很sweet，昨天摸着我的大肚子，说“真漂亮”，和我一起躺着睡觉，也
会捧着我的脸，说“真漂亮”，哈哈，我都不知道小子怎么会这么说。话说我长这么大
，还没人说过我漂亮，呵呵。

B*n2012-08-06 07:08

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斗胆kidding一句，他可能不知道“真漂亮”是什么意思。//run

【在 g*******n 的大作中提到】

: 呵呵，我儿子也是，27个月了，越来越不听话，动不动就哭给你看。也正在找治理他的
: 方法。
: 不过有时候也很sweet，昨天摸着我的大肚子，说“真漂亮”，和我一起躺着睡觉，也
: 会捧着我的脸，说“真漂亮”，哈哈，我都不知道小子怎么会这么说。话说我长这么大
: ，还没人说过我漂亮，呵呵。

k*x2012-08-06 07:08

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跟我儿子有的一拼

az2012-08-06 07:08

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两个字，耐心
never never跟小人动气

【在 s*********g 的大作中提到】

: 妞两岁半了觉得越来越不听话
: 跟她讲不许做的事情不许碰的东西根本就不听
: 比如她看到相机放在桌子上绳子掉出来她就要去抓来玩
: 跟她说不要动她也不听很调皮的非要拿来玩被我凶了一下就开始哭
: 还有早晨跟她说过来穿衣服穿袜子或者换尿布
: 人家大喊一声No 就跑掉了怎么叫都不回来强行抓回来就倒在地上打滚哭
: 走在停车场上跟她说要拉手走人家还是No 怎么都不肯给拉手
: 如果手被拉住就马上倒在地上哭
: 很多事情耐心的跟她讲这样做不对人家不听就是一个字No
: 听得我真是非常的火大简直威逼利诱软硬兼施妞就是不听

P*a2012-08-06 07:08

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你讲话不好玩他就不愿意听了
不听话的时候，我都是指着天空，你看，那是什么？？？
然后拉着手走，将好玩的故事。。。
睡觉，我就说，哄哄我睡觉好不好？
可乖了。。。
╮(╯▽╰)╭
不要对着干
四两拨千斤

k*r2012-08-06 07:08

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我觉得看着就像挺有主意不太乖的:)

【在 s*********g 的大作中提到】

: 妞两岁半了觉得越来越不听话
: 跟她讲不许做的事情不许碰的东西根本就不听
: 比如她看到相机放在桌子上绳子掉出来她就要去抓来玩
: 跟她说不要动她也不听很调皮的非要拿来玩被我凶了一下就开始哭
: 还有早晨跟她说过来穿衣服穿袜子或者换尿布
: 人家大喊一声No 就跑掉了怎么叫都不回来强行抓回来就倒在地上打滚哭
: 走在停车场上跟她说要拉手走人家还是No 怎么都不肯给拉手
: 如果手被拉住就马上倒在地上哭
: 很多事情耐心的跟她讲这样做不对人家不听就是一个字No
: 听得我真是非常的火大简直威逼利诱软硬兼施妞就是不听

p*c2012-08-06 07:08

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i guess she was spoiled too much..
a good lesson to learn for me...

【在 s*********g 的大作中提到】

: 妞两岁半了觉得越来越不听话
: 跟她讲不许做的事情不许碰的东西根本就不听
: 比如她看到相机放在桌子上绳子掉出来她就要去抓来玩
: 跟她说不要动她也不听很调皮的非要拿来玩被我凶了一下就开始哭
: 还有早晨跟她说过来穿衣服穿袜子或者换尿布
: 人家大喊一声No 就跑掉了怎么叫都不回来强行抓回来就倒在地上打滚哭
: 走在停车场上跟她说要拉手走人家还是No 怎么都不肯给拉手
: 如果手被拉住就马上倒在地上哭
: 很多事情耐心的跟她讲这样做不对人家不听就是一个字No
: 听得我真是非常的火大简直威逼利诱软硬兼施妞就是不听