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自己带娃能搞定吗?# NextGeneration - 我爱宝宝
S*P
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和老公异地, 生完做月子的时候他可以请三四个礼拜的假, 之后只能每个周末过来。
我自己产假完了以后得去上班, 估计平时只能白天送daycare, 晚上自己带。
第一个娃木有经验, 不知道这样计划可行不可行啊?
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c*3
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会很很很辛苦,如果不找人帮忙的话。祈祷生个天使娃吧。

★ 发自iPhone App: ChineseWeb 7.8

【在 S**P 的大作中提到】
: 和老公异地, 生完做月子的时候他可以请三四个礼拜的假, 之后只能每个周末过来。
: 我自己产假完了以后得去上班, 估计平时只能白天送daycare, 晚上自己带。
: 第一个娃木有经验, 不知道这样计划可行不可行啊?

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n*t
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建议找个帮手。孩子生病或者临时有事的时候会需要。如果可以送family daycare比较
好,孩子不爱病,而且时间会灵活些。Bright Horizons有back up care program,临时
着急可以用。

★ 发自iPhone App: ChineseWeb 7.8

【在 S**P 的大作中提到】
: 和老公异地, 生完做月子的时候他可以请三四个礼拜的假, 之后只能每个周末过来。
: 我自己产假完了以后得去上班, 估计平时只能白天送daycare, 晚上自己带。
: 第一个娃木有经验, 不知道这样计划可行不可行啊?

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S*P
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发现我这边有bright horizons, 很有用的信息, 谢谢!

【在 n*********t 的大作中提到】
: 建议找个帮手。孩子生病或者临时有事的时候会需要。如果可以送family daycare比较
: 好,孩子不爱病,而且时间会灵活些。Bright Horizons有back up care program,临时
: 着急可以用。
:
: ★ 发自iPhone App: ChineseWeb 7.8

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S*P
5
不知道要不要让父母过来帮忙, 担心吵架弄的还不如自己带。
而且他们过来也只能待六个月, 之后也还是得自己来。。。

【在 c*********3 的大作中提到】
: 会很很很辛苦,如果不找人帮忙的话。祈祷生个天使娃吧。
:
: ★ 发自iPhone App: ChineseWeb 7.8

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c*3
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我们家小娃快三周了,觉得如果只有我和老公的话肯定搞不定。如果不想父母过来的话
,考虑找个月嫂,或者找朋友帮忙买菜做饭啊什么的。我也是觉得如果父母不太好相处
的话不如自己辛苦一点。

★ 发自iPhone App: ChineseWeb 7.8

【在 S**P 的大作中提到】
: 不知道要不要让父母过来帮忙, 担心吵架弄的还不如自己带。
: 而且他们过来也只能待六个月, 之后也还是得自己来。。。

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S*P
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en, 主要是上班以后不知道会不会很困难

【在 c*********3 的大作中提到】
: 我们家小娃快三周了,觉得如果只有我和老公的话肯定搞不定。如果不想父母过来的话
: ,考虑找个月嫂,或者找朋友帮忙买菜做饭啊什么的。我也是觉得如果父母不太好相处
: 的话不如自己辛苦一点。
:
: ★ 发自iPhone App: ChineseWeb 7.8

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B*H
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上班以后肯定更辛苦,一方面还要泵奶什么的,保证自己营养才能保证娃吃得好,就算
全奶粉,回来以后伺候娃也是挺累的,尤其不指望娃几个月就能睡整觉。我觉得生娃后
不能睡整觉是最累人的。所以建立楼主开始找住家保姆之类,比送daycare好,早点找
能找到合适的可靠的。
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x*0
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异地自己一个人带小孩,这个我想都不敢想。
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S*P
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哎,那住家保姆的话要请到什么时候呢?

【在 B*H 的大作中提到】
: 上班以后肯定更辛苦,一方面还要泵奶什么的,保证自己营养才能保证娃吃得好,就算
: 全奶粉,回来以后伺候娃也是挺累的,尤其不指望娃几个月就能睡整觉。我觉得生娃后
: 不能睡整觉是最累人的。所以建立楼主开始找住家保姆之类,比送daycare好,早点找
: 能找到合适的可靠的。

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m*n
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re

【在 n*********t 的大作中提到】
: 建议找个帮手。孩子生病或者临时有事的时候会需要。如果可以送family daycare比较
: 好,孩子不爱病,而且时间会灵活些。Bright Horizons有back up care program,临时
: 着急可以用。
:
: ★ 发自iPhone App: ChineseWeb 7.8

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s*c
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我觉得在娃会走路说话前,至少你晚上洗澡的时候,家里需要有个人能帮着看个娃。其
他都好说,大不了自己辛苦,人有多大胆,地有多大产。。。
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f*i
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你一个人肯定搞不定的。让父母来吧
我当时也是有你这想法没让父母来,现在和老公两个人带,老公一个人上班,累得跟狗
一样。多想有个人帮个忙。每天觉都睡不够,头都是晕的,背,小腿 酸了痛痛了酸。
你一个人给娃洗澡都没法弄,小娃身体软得很,又爱扭来扭去,至少得一个人扶着,另
一个人洗。还有从daycare 接回来到第二天送出去还得喂奶几次,拍隔,哄睡,很大的
工作量,你根本都没时间吃饭和休息。
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s*1
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Re

【在 c*********3 的大作中提到】
: 我们家小娃快三周了,觉得如果只有我和老公的话肯定搞不定。如果不想父母过来的话
: ,考虑找个月嫂,或者找朋友帮忙买菜做饭啊什么的。我也是觉得如果父母不太好相处
: 的话不如自己辛苦一点。
:
: ★ 发自iPhone App: ChineseWeb 7.8

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S*P
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When I have a bath, can I leave the baby by herself in the crib?
I plan to put the crib in her own room and feel it's impossible for me to
stare at her for every second.

【在 s**c 的大作中提到】
: 我觉得在娃会走路说话前,至少你晚上洗澡的时候,家里需要有个人能帮着看个娃。其
: 他都好说,大不了自己辛苦,人有多大胆,地有多大产。。。

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S*P
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I don't know if my parents can get the visa. My colleague's parents couldn'
t come because of that.
I feel I need to prepare for the worst situation...

【在 f********i 的大作中提到】
: 你一个人肯定搞不定的。让父母来吧
: 我当时也是有你这想法没让父母来,现在和老公两个人带,老公一个人上班,累得跟狗
: 一样。多想有个人帮个忙。每天觉都睡不够,头都是晕的,背,小腿 酸了痛痛了酸。
: 你一个人给娃洗澡都没法弄,小娃身体软得很,又爱扭来扭去,至少得一个人扶着,另
: 一个人洗。还有从daycare 接回来到第二天送出去还得喂奶几次,拍隔,哄睡,很大的
: 工作量,你根本都没时间吃饭和休息。

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c*3
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如果你心理够强大,不介意他一个人哭闹的话,可以。

★ 发自iPhone App: ChineseWeb 7.8

【在 S**P 的大作中提到】
: When I have a bath, can I leave the baby by herself in the crib?
: I plan to put the crib in her own room and feel it's impossible for me to
: stare at her for every second.

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c*3
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可以先和父母聊聊,如果他们不能接受你的育儿方式,不如辛苦点你一个人带。

couldn'
★ 发自iPhone App: ChineseWeb 7.8

【在 S**P 的大作中提到】
: I don't know if my parents can get the visa. My colleague's parents couldn'
: t come because of that.
: I feel I need to prepare for the worst situation...

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G*X
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理论上never leave your baby alone,实践中趁宝宝睡觉的时候也许可以,不过我家
宝宝要是一觉醒来看不见大人哭得那个伤心啊,就像被抛弃了似的。

【在 S**P 的大作中提到】
: When I have a bath, can I leave the baby by herself in the crib?
: I plan to put the crib in her own room and feel it's impossible for me to
: stare at her for every second.

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r*y
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真的会很辛苦的。如果大人或者小孩任何一个生了病,都是很吃不消的。。。
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f*d
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bless!

【在 S**P 的大作中提到】
: 和老公异地, 生完做月子的时候他可以请三四个礼拜的假, 之后只能每个周末过来。
: 我自己产假完了以后得去上班, 估计平时只能白天送daycare, 晚上自己带。
: 第一个娃木有经验, 不知道这样计划可行不可行啊?

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S*P
22
It's not just about baby. It's about everything...
My parents are very traditional Chinese parents. They love me, save money
and spend for me, not for themselves. They do whatever they think is good
for me. The problem is what they think is good to me is not what I think...
I want them to be happy, to be healthy, but they just don't care about
that. They don't do exercise, don't eat healthy food and always have bad
mood, complaining how miserable the life is. And the end is always:" We do
all those for you" That's a lot of pressure.
Also they still can't accept that I am an independent adult now and I have
my own life. They still think of me as a kid and they are in charge of
everything. For example, I can't play video games because they think it'
s a bad thing, only wasting time. And can't watch tv too long because it's
bad for eyes. Can't go to bed after 10 because it's too late, etc, etc...
Well, to be honest, I think these three things are theoretically right, but
it's just too many small things, which make me feel no freedom or personal
space at home. When I don't want to do what they ask, they are very upset,
feel hurt. They would say:" OK, do whatever you want. ", but apparently
they are angry and sad, which makes me also feel very bad.
I've heard it's easy to get depressed after giving birth. And I already
feel depressed when I think I have to live with them. It's just too
challenging.

【在 c*********3 的大作中提到】
: 可以先和父母聊聊,如果他们不能接受你的育儿方式,不如辛苦点你一个人带。
:
: couldn'
: ★ 发自iPhone App: ChineseWeb 7.8

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c*3
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I totally totally understand -- if I were you, I'd rather do it myself. Or,
you can get some help if money is not the problem.
I have a 3 weeks old now and my parents are here to help, and I already feel
the pressure, especially with my husband in the house too.

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★ 发自iPhone App: ChineseWeb 7.8

【在 S**P 的大作中提到】
: It's not just about baby. It's about everything...
: My parents are very traditional Chinese parents. They love me, save money
: and spend for me, not for themselves. They do whatever they think is good
: for me. The problem is what they think is good to me is not what I think...
: I want them to be happy, to be healthy, but they just don't care about
: that. They don't do exercise, don't eat healthy food and always have bad
: mood, complaining how miserable the life is. And the end is always:" We do
: all those for you" That's a lot of pressure.
: Also they still can't accept that I am an independent adult now and I have
: my own life. They still think of me as a kid and they are in charge of

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B*H
24
看样子,父母来了,估计矛盾不会少,还有个娃,尽量避免吧。不过有帮手和没有是完
全两样的。想想给娃洗澡,要先准备澡盆,衣服,小孩很软,月子里可以擦洗,出月子
就要用温水洗,一个人绝对够呛。而且小娃喝奶都不喜欢平躺,你让他在crib里,真不
太显示,他哭闹10多分钟你能受了?像我家娃哭喊不比噪音低。所以建议父母不来,老
公帮不了,一定找个可靠的住家保姆,真的不会后悔的。你想想,一辈子第一次当妈,
好多东西都不懂,自己身体还在回复,为何要累得半死?孩子不断长大,更需要健康的
父母陪伴到至少独立吧。钱又不是一切,不要为难自己。我这边公园里有一个女的就是
父母老公都不在,请了月嫂,然后1个月后请了住家保姆,现在娃1岁了。不过她还有个
3岁的老大上幼儿园了。她恢复就很快,保姆基本带娃和做简单饭菜。她的房租还2600
一个月呢。MM为自己和孩子考虑,好好找保姆,以及看看what to expect for the
first year这个育儿书,真有帮助。

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【在 S**P 的大作中提到】
: It's not just about baby. It's about everything...
: My parents are very traditional Chinese parents. They love me, save money
: and spend for me, not for themselves. They do whatever they think is good
: for me. The problem is what they think is good to me is not what I think...
: I want them to be happy, to be healthy, but they just don't care about
: that. They don't do exercise, don't eat healthy food and always have bad
: mood, complaining how miserable the life is. And the end is always:" We do
: all those for you" That's a lot of pressure.
: Also they still can't accept that I am an independent adult now and I have
: my own life. They still think of me as a kid and they are in charge of

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S*P
25
Thanks.
Definitely the baby and my own health is the most important. It would also
be good to save some money though, so that my husband and I can buy a
bigger house and move together. :D
I need to find the balance there.
Any one can give some suggestions about finding a good live-in nanny and the
cost? I live in a small town in New England, probably I can look for ones
in NYC?

2600

【在 B*H 的大作中提到】
: 看样子,父母来了,估计矛盾不会少,还有个娃,尽量避免吧。不过有帮手和没有是完
: 全两样的。想想给娃洗澡,要先准备澡盆,衣服,小孩很软,月子里可以擦洗,出月子
: 就要用温水洗,一个人绝对够呛。而且小娃喝奶都不喜欢平躺,你让他在crib里,真不
: 太显示,他哭闹10多分钟你能受了?像我家娃哭喊不比噪音低。所以建议父母不来,老
: 公帮不了,一定找个可靠的住家保姆,真的不会后悔的。你想想,一辈子第一次当妈,
: 好多东西都不懂,自己身体还在回复,为何要累得半死?孩子不断长大,更需要健康的
: 父母陪伴到至少独立吧。钱又不是一切,不要为难自己。我这边公园里有一个女的就是
: 父母老公都不在,请了月嫂,然后1个月后请了住家保姆,现在娃1岁了。不过她还有个
: 3岁的老大上幼儿园了。她恢复就很快,保姆基本带娃和做简单饭菜。她的房租还2600
: 一个月呢。MM为自己和孩子考虑,好好找保姆,以及看看what to expect for the

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