探讨一个宝宝 训练睡眠的问题，大家都是什么时候开始训练宝宝独立睡眠？这个书上说是两个月？！# NextGeneration - 我爱宝宝
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孩子的的大夫是Tribeca， 他们有一本书叫The Bew Basics
刚看到一个部分是关于训练孩子睡眠的。
简单说
一般是从四个月开始，但他们发现其实从两个月开始更加有效。这时间训练孩子独立睡
眠只需要三天。
晚上喂饱孩子时候把孩子扔床上，然后离开不要再打搅孩子，第二天早上再来看孩子。
孩子大概第一天和第二天会哭的比较厉害，第三天第四天就没事了。
具体文章参见下面。因为我对这便不熟悉，觉得有点夸张。他们说的是否真的这么简单
有效。当然，我逻辑上同意他们的说法，越早训练，孩子依赖性越容易摆脱，有可能事
半功倍。但不知道大家看法如何？
The First Couple of Months
This period is your best opportunity to make your baby a night sleeper. Here
’s how.
After a couple of weeks, anna is sleeping more at night than during the day.
Each waking period ends with a feeding, and nursing is as much about
soothing as it is about nutrition. This is more pronounced in breast fed
children, thanks to the physical intimacy of nursing. As time goes on, you’
ve become more accustomed to anna’s temperament and needs, and she is
getting used to the fact that when she has a need you will tend to her.
In the first couple of months, I suggest that you not jump up at her
slightest peep and that you ignore her minor whining so she can soothe
herself back to sleep. That means letting her wiggle, fuss, or suck on her
fist for a while. If she manages to fall back to sleep without your help
even once, she’s learned the basis of self-soothing, and it will happen
more naturally the second time. Of course, if her requests become more
persistent, you’ll have to feed her.
You can practice this laissez-faire method even if you’re cosleeping [See:
Cosleeping]. While the average parent naturally reaches this point of
adjustment around two months after birth, others come to it earlier, and
some are still jumping up at every whim, long past the first birthday.
Wherever you stand is fine, as long as you understand the implications.
In observing family dynamics, I was puzzled as to why some babies would
sleep through the night and others wouldn’t. I learned that the parents who
were a little less responsive to late-night fussing always had kids who
were good sleepers, while the jumpy folks had kids who would wake up
repeatedly at night until it became unbearable. For example, when a mother
has three kids, it is rarely a question whether or not her third will sleep
through the night early on. The family has learned when to react to a fussy
baby and when to let her soothe herself back to sleep.
Over the years, I’ve come to recommend this somewhat laissez-faire attitude
regarding nighttime behavior as soon as the shock of birth has passed. This
approach is validated by the hundreds of families I see whose babies sleep
effortlessly through the night. These parents never have to resort to the
ugly “let the baby cry it out” approach described below, and many of them
don’t even know they’ve missed out on one of infancy’s most nerve-
wracking problems. As they say: An ounce of prevention . . .
Between Two and Four Months
In 1994, when Tribeca Pediatrics first opened its doors, we recommended that
parents begin sleep-training their babies at around the age of four months.
However, to the universal comfort and sanity of our patients, we have
discovered that sleep-training is even more effective if begun at two months
. Of course, it’s your decision when this process begins and how you choose
to tackle it. But our years of experience, and the testimonials of our well
-rested patients and their parents, have convinced us that this is the most
effective, healthy time to begin sleep-training.
By now, if anna isn’t sleeping through the night, I am sorry to report that
she’s very unlikely to do so on her own. Sooner or later, there’s going
to be a struggle. You probably already sense that although anna eats at
night, she’s less interested in the food than in the soothing experience it
provides.
If you enjoy the cuddling or at least don’t mind the fact that anna wakes
up at night, please skip to the next age group below. If, on the other hand,
you feel sleep-deprived and want to handle the situation, I’ve broken the
process down into three simple steps:
1 | Put anna in her crib at a reasonable hour (while she’s still awake, if
possible). The best time is when both of you have had a chance to interact
with her for a while after work.
2 | After the bath and the songs, kiss her good night.
3 | Come back the next morning at 7:00 A.M.
I have just heard the collective gasp of thousands of parents: “Are you out
of your mind?!” Bear with me. I know this sounds drastic, but it’s the
only way to get anna into the habit of soothing herself rather than relying
on you. It’s true that the first few days she’ll soothe herself to sleep
by crying, but eventually she’ll sleep just like, well, a baby. The first
night she’ll cry two to three times, for twenty to thirty minutes (you’ll
feel like crying too); the second night she’ll cry less; and the third even
less. By the fourth night, you’re home free. Done.
REAL QUESTIONS FROM REAL PARENTS
What if I can’t do it?
Again, if you don’t mind waking up, then you don’t have a problem, and
anna doesn’t either. But as much as I’d like to tell you her sleep
patterns will get better, trust me and trust my experience, they won’t
change on their own.
How long can I let her cry?
Until she falls asleep. It can take an awfully long time. If you last only
twenty minutes, you’re teaching her to cry for twenty minutes before she
gets her soothing.
Can I at least go touch the baby or kiss her, even if I don’t feed her?
If you do, she’ll see it as a tease, become more upset, and cry even longer
because she won’t understand why you won’t feed her. Babies know nothing
of moderation.
How do I know the baby isn’t hungry?
She is hungry. But she does not need to eat. After any three- or four-hour
fasting period, she’ll be hungry. You’re hungry in the middle of the night
, too; it’s just that you learn not to eat because it’s good for your
belly to take a rest. Well, it’s good for hers too.
What about a little water at least?
Only if you want to wake up every couple of hours to give her water.
What about a pacifier?
Same thing.
Would it help if I gave her cereal before bed?
It’s a myth that porridge before bedtime helps a baby sleep, since it will
be digested in the few hours to come. The same goes for topping off a
feeding with a bottle of formula.
Can I feed the baby to sleep?
You can, but it’s better not to. Consistency is important, so why would you
nurse anna to the edge of sleep at 8:00 P.M. but not, say, at 2:00 A.M.? It
’s a habit you’ll have to struggle to overcome, and since you’re doing so
much struggling as it is, you might as well struggle completely and be done
with it. Also, if you’re going to struggle, I assure you that things will
look much more dramatic to you at 2:00 A.M. than they will at 8:00 P.M. And
most of the crying is done early on.
How long will anna sleep at this age?
Ten to twelve hours. Straight.
Without eating?
Without eating.
Can I go to her early in the morning?
Again, if you’re going to struggle, struggle all the way. Babies are
notorious believers in the take-a-mile-if-given-an-inch philosophy. If you
give anna attention at five-thirty, she’ll start looking for you at five.
If you slide back to five, she’ll test you at four. And so forth. Hold to
the schedule, on the other hand, and she’ll learn to put herself back to
sleep in the morning hours.
Aren’t I traumatizing the baby?
At seven in the morning, you’ll be surprised to find a happy, smiling baby
who loves you and loves to see you. And you’ll be rested and happy too.
More to the point, your own smiles during the day won’t be as forced when
you are no longer a zombie.
How about nap time?
Don’t worry about nap time. Once anna learns to sleep at night, daytime
napping will be a breeze.
Is it really this easy?
As I said, after a few days of this, anna will sleep through the night. And
if you wake up, it will only be because you’re surprised that you’re
sleeping so well. But make no mistake: Be prepared for three or four
brutally hard nights. It is never easy to let your baby cry. But once you
start, stick to your guns; if you give in halfway through the process, you’
ll only make it worse.
How do you know all of this?
I learned the hard way. With Abeline, our first daughter, my wife and I took
turns on 2:00 A.M. Lullaby duty. I spent many nights walking around the
loft with Abeline in my arms, singing any French lullaby that my sleep-
starved brain could conjure. I wasn’t sleeping well at home and even less
at work when I was on call. And I was probably just like you, thinking that
if she woke up, she was calling us. At ten months, we were so exhausted from
soothing her that we finally let her cry it out. Within a couple of days
she was sleeping through the night. You’d think we’d have learned our
lesson, but we hadn’t. With our second daughter, Nora, we made the same
mistakes (tending to her every nighttime peep) and later resolved it the
same way. It only took us six months to wise up that time. With Fanny, our
third one, we let her cry herself to sleep early, just like I told you, and
it worked like a charm. She’s a perfectly secure little kid who can fall
asleep fine on her own. By contrast, Abeline, who got the most soothing
before sleeping, still needs her head rubbed every once in a while to get to
sleep, just like in the good old days.
I’ve also learned from the hundreds of sleepless parents to whom I’ve
suggested this method. They initially look at me like I have two heads, but
at the next month’s visit, they show up with broad smiles and tell me, “
That was torture for a few days, but we’re so happy we did it!”
刚看到一个部分是关于训练孩子睡眠的。
简单说
一般是从四个月开始，但他们发现其实从两个月开始更加有效。这时间训练孩子独立睡
眠只需要三天。
晚上喂饱孩子时候把孩子扔床上，然后离开不要再打搅孩子，第二天早上再来看孩子。
孩子大概第一天和第二天会哭的比较厉害，第三天第四天就没事了。
具体文章参见下面。因为我对这便不熟悉，觉得有点夸张。他们说的是否真的这么简单
有效。当然，我逻辑上同意他们的说法，越早训练，孩子依赖性越容易摆脱，有可能事
半功倍。但不知道大家看法如何？
The First Couple of Months
This period is your best opportunity to make your baby a night sleeper. Here
’s how.
After a couple of weeks, anna is sleeping more at night than during the day.
Each waking period ends with a feeding, and nursing is as much about
soothing as it is about nutrition. This is more pronounced in breast fed
children, thanks to the physical intimacy of nursing. As time goes on, you’
ve become more accustomed to anna’s temperament and needs, and she is
getting used to the fact that when she has a need you will tend to her.
In the first couple of months, I suggest that you not jump up at her
slightest peep and that you ignore her minor whining so she can soothe
herself back to sleep. That means letting her wiggle, fuss, or suck on her
fist for a while. If she manages to fall back to sleep without your help
even once, she’s learned the basis of self-soothing, and it will happen
more naturally the second time. Of course, if her requests become more
persistent, you’ll have to feed her.
You can practice this laissez-faire method even if you’re cosleeping [See:
Cosleeping]. While the average parent naturally reaches this point of
adjustment around two months after birth, others come to it earlier, and
some are still jumping up at every whim, long past the first birthday.
Wherever you stand is fine, as long as you understand the implications.
In observing family dynamics, I was puzzled as to why some babies would
sleep through the night and others wouldn’t. I learned that the parents who
were a little less responsive to late-night fussing always had kids who
were good sleepers, while the jumpy folks had kids who would wake up
repeatedly at night until it became unbearable. For example, when a mother
has three kids, it is rarely a question whether or not her third will sleep
through the night early on. The family has learned when to react to a fussy
baby and when to let her soothe herself back to sleep.
Over the years, I’ve come to recommend this somewhat laissez-faire attitude
regarding nighttime behavior as soon as the shock of birth has passed. This
approach is validated by the hundreds of families I see whose babies sleep
effortlessly through the night. These parents never have to resort to the
ugly “let the baby cry it out” approach described below, and many of them
don’t even know they’ve missed out on one of infancy’s most nerve-
wracking problems. As they say: An ounce of prevention . . .
Between Two and Four Months
In 1994, when Tribeca Pediatrics first opened its doors, we recommended that
parents begin sleep-training their babies at around the age of four months.
However, to the universal comfort and sanity of our patients, we have
discovered that sleep-training is even more effective if begun at two months
. Of course, it’s your decision when this process begins and how you choose
to tackle it. But our years of experience, and the testimonials of our well
-rested patients and their parents, have convinced us that this is the most
effective, healthy time to begin sleep-training.
By now, if anna isn’t sleeping through the night, I am sorry to report that
she’s very unlikely to do so on her own. Sooner or later, there’s going
to be a struggle. You probably already sense that although anna eats at
night, she’s less interested in the food than in the soothing experience it
provides.
If you enjoy the cuddling or at least don’t mind the fact that anna wakes
up at night, please skip to the next age group below. If, on the other hand,
you feel sleep-deprived and want to handle the situation, I’ve broken the
process down into three simple steps:
1 | Put anna in her crib at a reasonable hour (while she’s still awake, if
possible). The best time is when both of you have had a chance to interact
with her for a while after work.
2 | After the bath and the songs, kiss her good night.
3 | Come back the next morning at 7:00 A.M.
I have just heard the collective gasp of thousands of parents: “Are you out
of your mind?!” Bear with me. I know this sounds drastic, but it’s the
only way to get anna into the habit of soothing herself rather than relying
on you. It’s true that the first few days she’ll soothe herself to sleep
by crying, but eventually she’ll sleep just like, well, a baby. The first
night she’ll cry two to three times, for twenty to thirty minutes (you’ll
feel like crying too); the second night she’ll cry less; and the third even
less. By the fourth night, you’re home free. Done.
REAL QUESTIONS FROM REAL PARENTS
What if I can’t do it?
Again, if you don’t mind waking up, then you don’t have a problem, and
anna doesn’t either. But as much as I’d like to tell you her sleep
patterns will get better, trust me and trust my experience, they won’t
change on their own.
How long can I let her cry?
Until she falls asleep. It can take an awfully long time. If you last only
twenty minutes, you’re teaching her to cry for twenty minutes before she
gets her soothing.
Can I at least go touch the baby or kiss her, even if I don’t feed her?
If you do, she’ll see it as a tease, become more upset, and cry even longer
because she won’t understand why you won’t feed her. Babies know nothing
of moderation.
How do I know the baby isn’t hungry?
She is hungry. But she does not need to eat. After any three- or four-hour
fasting period, she’ll be hungry. You’re hungry in the middle of the night
, too; it’s just that you learn not to eat because it’s good for your
belly to take a rest. Well, it’s good for hers too.
What about a little water at least?
Only if you want to wake up every couple of hours to give her water.
What about a pacifier?
Same thing.
Would it help if I gave her cereal before bed?
It’s a myth that porridge before bedtime helps a baby sleep, since it will
be digested in the few hours to come. The same goes for topping off a
feeding with a bottle of formula.
Can I feed the baby to sleep?
You can, but it’s better not to. Consistency is important, so why would you
nurse anna to the edge of sleep at 8:00 P.M. but not, say, at 2:00 A.M.? It
’s a habit you’ll have to struggle to overcome, and since you’re doing so
much struggling as it is, you might as well struggle completely and be done
with it. Also, if you’re going to struggle, I assure you that things will
look much more dramatic to you at 2:00 A.M. than they will at 8:00 P.M. And
most of the crying is done early on.
How long will anna sleep at this age?
Ten to twelve hours. Straight.
Without eating?
Without eating.
Can I go to her early in the morning?
Again, if you’re going to struggle, struggle all the way. Babies are
notorious believers in the take-a-mile-if-given-an-inch philosophy. If you
give anna attention at five-thirty, she’ll start looking for you at five.
If you slide back to five, she’ll test you at four. And so forth. Hold to
the schedule, on the other hand, and she’ll learn to put herself back to
sleep in the morning hours.
Aren’t I traumatizing the baby?
At seven in the morning, you’ll be surprised to find a happy, smiling baby
who loves you and loves to see you. And you’ll be rested and happy too.
More to the point, your own smiles during the day won’t be as forced when
you are no longer a zombie.
How about nap time?
Don’t worry about nap time. Once anna learns to sleep at night, daytime
napping will be a breeze.
Is it really this easy?
As I said, after a few days of this, anna will sleep through the night. And
if you wake up, it will only be because you’re surprised that you’re
sleeping so well. But make no mistake: Be prepared for three or four
brutally hard nights. It is never easy to let your baby cry. But once you
start, stick to your guns; if you give in halfway through the process, you’
ll only make it worse.
How do you know all of this?
I learned the hard way. With Abeline, our first daughter, my wife and I took
turns on 2:00 A.M. Lullaby duty. I spent many nights walking around the
loft with Abeline in my arms, singing any French lullaby that my sleep-
starved brain could conjure. I wasn’t sleeping well at home and even less
at work when I was on call. And I was probably just like you, thinking that
if she woke up, she was calling us. At ten months, we were so exhausted from
soothing her that we finally let her cry it out. Within a couple of days
she was sleeping through the night. You’d think we’d have learned our
lesson, but we hadn’t. With our second daughter, Nora, we made the same
mistakes (tending to her every nighttime peep) and later resolved it the
same way. It only took us six months to wise up that time. With Fanny, our
third one, we let her cry herself to sleep early, just like I told you, and
it worked like a charm. She’s a perfectly secure little kid who can fall
asleep fine on her own. By contrast, Abeline, who got the most soothing
before sleeping, still needs her head rubbed every once in a while to get to
sleep, just like in the good old days.
I’ve also learned from the hundreds of sleepless parents to whom I’ve
suggested this method. They initially look at me like I have two heads, but
at the next month’s visit, they show up with broad smiles and tell me, “
That was torture for a few days, but we’re so happy we did it!”
