Signs of emotionally abusive relation# Parenting - 为人父母
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1, Isolates you Emotionally abusive spouses want you all to themselves. They
do not understand that you have a life outside of the relationship - one
that includes family and friends. It is healthy and normal for you to hang
out with other people as well, so if your partner prevents you from doing so
, this may be a sign of an emotionally abusive relationship.
2, Verbally abusive
If someone calls you derogatory names, even if they say they are joking,
they mean to hurt you and keep you in line. Abusers sometimes cover
themselves by blaming you, saying that you need to lighten up or that you
are too sensitive. You are not too sensitive; you are feeling in your gut
that this is not the way you should be treated.
3, Blames Others
If your significant other always blames everything on someone else, namely
you, this may be a bad sign. If he or she throws a tantrum or attacks you
verbally, he or she will say it was because of you. It is not a sign of a
healthy relationship if your partner never takes responsibility and never
admits to being at fault.
4, Instills fear If you feel fear around your partner or spouse, there is
something very wrong. Abusers may try to intimidate you with violence,
dominance or power tactics. For example, intentionally putting you in
possibly harmful situations, or showing you their gun collection and stating
they are not afraid to use them.
5,Punishes you for time away This goes along with the isolation technique,
where abusers want you all to themselves. If you do go somewhere or do
something without your partner, or even if he or she goes along but others
are also there, an emotional abuser will punish you later. An abuser may
shout, insult, threaten or worse, all because you were not exclusively
hanging out with him or her.
6,Expects You to Be a Servant
An emotional abuser goes through life feeling entitled to be treated like
royalty, and wants you to be a willing servant. He or she expects you to do
everything and will not help at all.
7, Is extremely jealous
A prominent trait of abusers is their jealousy. An abusive partner or spouse
is often jealous of you, other people and even your dreams and goals. Their
jealousy and rage over intangible things like your aspirations stem from
the lack of control they feel over those aspects of your life.
8, Control you through emotion
An abuser is a grand manipulator and will sulk, threaten to leave, and
emotionally punish you for not following their idea of how things should be.
An abuser will try to make you feel guilty any time you exert your will
and assert what is right for you. At times the abuser may appear to be
apologetic and loving; the abuse begins again when the abuser feels he or
she has your forgiveness.
9, Gets physical
If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, there is a good chance
that eventually things may get physical. At first, the abuser might pull
your hair, push you, or grab you so hard that you bruise; these may only be
warning signs that things can escalate further
do not understand that you have a life outside of the relationship - one
that includes family and friends. It is healthy and normal for you to hang
out with other people as well, so if your partner prevents you from doing so
, this may be a sign of an emotionally abusive relationship.
2, Verbally abusive
If someone calls you derogatory names, even if they say they are joking,
they mean to hurt you and keep you in line. Abusers sometimes cover
themselves by blaming you, saying that you need to lighten up or that you
are too sensitive. You are not too sensitive; you are feeling in your gut
that this is not the way you should be treated.
3, Blames Others
If your significant other always blames everything on someone else, namely
you, this may be a bad sign. If he or she throws a tantrum or attacks you
verbally, he or she will say it was because of you. It is not a sign of a
healthy relationship if your partner never takes responsibility and never
admits to being at fault.
4, Instills fear If you feel fear around your partner or spouse, there is
something very wrong. Abusers may try to intimidate you with violence,
dominance or power tactics. For example, intentionally putting you in
possibly harmful situations, or showing you their gun collection and stating
they are not afraid to use them.
5,Punishes you for time away This goes along with the isolation technique,
where abusers want you all to themselves. If you do go somewhere or do
something without your partner, or even if he or she goes along but others
are also there, an emotional abuser will punish you later. An abuser may
shout, insult, threaten or worse, all because you were not exclusively
hanging out with him or her.
6,Expects You to Be a Servant
An emotional abuser goes through life feeling entitled to be treated like
royalty, and wants you to be a willing servant. He or she expects you to do
everything and will not help at all.
7, Is extremely jealous
A prominent trait of abusers is their jealousy. An abusive partner or spouse
is often jealous of you, other people and even your dreams and goals. Their
jealousy and rage over intangible things like your aspirations stem from
the lack of control they feel over those aspects of your life.
8, Control you through emotion
An abuser is a grand manipulator and will sulk, threaten to leave, and
emotionally punish you for not following their idea of how things should be.
An abuser will try to make you feel guilty any time you exert your will
and assert what is right for you. At times the abuser may appear to be
apologetic and loving; the abuse begins again when the abuser feels he or
she has your forgiveness.
9, Gets physical
If you are in an emotionally abusive relationship, there is a good chance
that eventually things may get physical. At first, the abuser might pull
your hair, push you, or grab you so hard that you bruise; these may only be
warning signs that things can escalate further