赞这个attitude。 该想办法的,想不出办法来也得继续想 -- 这是responsibility as a parent, 国 人所缺失的。 国人更容易出现的价值观,是那种认为自己急了就有资格瞎JB整的---参见本版名人 小布他爹的各种瞎BB。 面对现实,do your best, 否则就是自欺欺人的傻X。
完全不宅,最好是24小时养在外面的一个孩子. 如果可以出去玩的话,他是不要看电视的 .问题是我们下了班,做完菜都很累了,他9点半到10点才睡,除去吃饭有三个多小时,没人 有精力可以Intensive的陪他玩那么长. 大概我带出去大半小时,或陪puzzle, 老公陪大 半小时,playdoh,火车桌,打篮球, 看电视半小时,其他时间,我们希望他能自己玩玩,我 们在旁边passive的陪着,人家就不乐意了. 三岁多点的娃,我们这样期待不过分吧. 我娃是一个非常demanding的娃, 出个门都能提10个要求,大家出门要按一定次序,有人 没按他的次序必须重来,garage door必须交给他开关,我出门衣服他要帮挑,睡衣睡裤也 要挑.人家娃睡前要求妈妈讲一个故事,妈妈可以读书的.我娃什么书都不爱听,就是要让 我命题作文: 讲一个小朋友死掉的故事 讲一个小朋友死不掉的故事. 讲一个小朋友吵架的故事. 讲一个哭了又不哭的故事. 我每天都要在保证趣味性的同时加点教育的东西在里面,绞尽脑汁啊! 最令人嫉妒的是那种天使娃的父母,娃娃从来就一说就听,没有这么许多怪要求,还能学 点中文什么的. 说到最后,我觉得strong willed child也会有他的好处,这是我看来的 http://www.ahaparenting.com/parenting-tools/positive-discipline some paragragh that really impressed me. 1)Have a strong-willed child? You're lucky! Strong willed children can be a challenge to parent when they’re young, but if sensitively parented, they become terrific teens and young adults. Self-motivated and inner-directed, they go after what they want and are almost impervious to peer pressure. As long as parents resist the impulse to "break their will," strong-willed kids often become leaders. 2)strong-willed kids are prone to power-struggles with their parents. However, it takes two to have a power struggle. You don't have to attend every argument to which you're invited! If you can take a deep breath when your buttons get pushed, and remind yourself that you can let your child save face and still get what you want, you can learn to sidestep those power struggles. (Don't let your four year old make you act like a four year old yourself!) (3)Morality is doing what's right, no matter what you're told. Obedience is doing what you're told, no matter what's right.