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最烦中国老人把小孩当阿猫阿狗养了，
当阿猫阿狗养的小孩，最终就只能变成阿猫阿狗，盲目顺从或者恃宠而骄、脾气暴躁。
不能否认老人在小孩子baby时期还是能帮上很大忙的，
可是小孩子一旦进入trouble two,terrible three的能带好小孩的中国老人真的不多。
1.惩罚方式不当
在playground看到农村来的中国老人，小孙女顽皮，就往手臂皮肤上狠狠扭下去的，从
不讲道理。
2.不能控制情绪，要求绝对服从“听话”
我妈就是，要是孙女洗澡的水撒得到处都是，就乱吼--你为什么要这样做？为什么啊？
很吓人。
还有一次，小孩子要穿红大衣，外婆觉得白大衣更好看，就硬是要小孩脱下已经穿好的
红大衣，否则就是不听话、不懂事。
3.不能公平处理sibling rivalry
每次老大跟老二强玩具很凶的时候，都要求老大让老二，在旁边急得直跳脚。而不知道
小孩子应该按需要来分配，或者take turns。反正现在老大已经很讨厌外婆了，说她总
是偏心。
Anyway我已经自己全权负责带老大老二了，我妈走后，现在她们的脾气都好了很多，也
相亲相爱了。
中国的老人就是把小孩当做私有财产，不懂得尊重孩子，不懂小孩子也是有血有肉、有
自尊有独立人格的人了。希望下面一首诗能够对大家有所启发。
On Children
Kahlil Gibran
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
当阿猫阿狗养的小孩，最终就只能变成阿猫阿狗，盲目顺从或者恃宠而骄、脾气暴躁。
不能否认老人在小孩子baby时期还是能帮上很大忙的，
可是小孩子一旦进入trouble two,terrible three的能带好小孩的中国老人真的不多。
1.惩罚方式不当
在playground看到农村来的中国老人，小孙女顽皮，就往手臂皮肤上狠狠扭下去的，从
不讲道理。
2.不能控制情绪，要求绝对服从“听话”
我妈就是，要是孙女洗澡的水撒得到处都是，就乱吼--你为什么要这样做？为什么啊？
很吓人。
还有一次，小孩子要穿红大衣，外婆觉得白大衣更好看，就硬是要小孩脱下已经穿好的
红大衣，否则就是不听话、不懂事。
3.不能公平处理sibling rivalry
每次老大跟老二强玩具很凶的时候，都要求老大让老二，在旁边急得直跳脚。而不知道
小孩子应该按需要来分配，或者take turns。反正现在老大已经很讨厌外婆了，说她总
是偏心。
Anyway我已经自己全权负责带老大老二了，我妈走后，现在她们的脾气都好了很多，也
相亲相爱了。
中国的老人就是把小孩当做私有财产，不懂得尊重孩子，不懂小孩子也是有血有肉、有
自尊有独立人格的人了。希望下面一首诗能够对大家有所启发。
On Children
Kahlil Gibran
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
