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How to overcome IAD?# PsychoAnalysis - 心理分析

r*m2004-07-05 07:07

1 楼

Help please. I've been suffered a lot from it.
Anyone could give me some suggestion about it?
I can sit in front of the computer almost overnight, feel extremely bored,but
can not stop, (mitbbs, some movie sites, rockmusic sites are the websites I
usually go to ) it indeed affect my study,my work and my health. I went back
to China this summer for 3 weeks, and the IAD was temporarily cured. But
after 3 days I came back, it appeared again. What could I do to overcome it?
Is it necessary to go t

T*s2004-07-05 07:07

2 楼

Your life may be boring. You may feel restrained by something. Try to make
some friedns, do something other than web surfing, make yourself busy as hell.
It would cure itself. Otherwise, go to see a doctor, but I suggest you use it
as the last resort.

bored,but

【在 r******m 的大作中提到】

: Help please. I've been suffered a lot from it.
: Anyone could give me some suggestion about it?
: I can sit in front of the computer almost overnight, feel extremely bored,but
: can not stop, (mitbbs, some movie sites, rockmusic sites are the websites I
: usually go to ) it indeed affect my study,my work and my health. I went back
: to China this summer for 3 weeks, and the IAD was temporarily cured. But
: after 3 days I came back, it appeared again. What could I do to overcome it?
: Is it necessary to go t

h*r2004-07-05 07:07

3 楼

首先感谢你愿意与我们交流。
IAD只是症状，是“标”，不是问题的根源。
你应该感谢互连网为你提供了一个非常好的HIDDING PLACE。
因为有了互联网，你没有取酗酒，没有去迷恋其它不健康的东西。
用其它任何一种习惯来取代互联网，尽管那种习惯可能看起来非常好，都是
治标不治本的方法。只是让你从一个HIDDING PLACE 转移到另外一个。
这种建议也是不解决实际问题的，最终也就是不负责任的。比如说回国
旅行，你会感觉到你已经不再迷恋网络了，其实IAD发生的本源还在，
所以你回来后它还会反复。因为你不能一辈子旅行。
网络IAD看起来很可怕的另外一个原因是中国学生，技术工人的生活
依赖网络：你总要检查电子邮件，上网查资料，甚至上网交作业。
如果你工作了，你要上网找工作，找房子。等等。
我认为治疗所谓IAD的最佳办法是把“本”找出来。一旦解决了
你为什么会有IAD的症状，我们也就有相应的技术手段来调整自己的心态。
所谓的IAD症状本身应该是不知不觉的就能痊愈了。
如何把这个“病”（我必须声明，我不认为IAD本身是心理疾病，它
只是一个症状。我们在美国的中国人的IAD绝大部分并不是IAD

【在 r******m 的大作中提到】

r*m2004-07-05 07:07

4 楼

谢谢!我得生活就是有点boring,5555555
我也有好朋友的说.可是我只要一坐在电脑面前,最好的朋友都很难把我拉出来....
我想大概我对自己的专业缺乏足够的热情吧...但是其实已经下了决心先把学位拿到再说
别的了....

hell.
it
I
back
it?

【在 T******s 的大作中提到】

: Your life may be boring. You may feel restrained by something. Try to make
: some friedns, do something other than web surfing, make yourself busy as hell.
: It would cure itself. Otherwise, go to see a doctor, but I suggest you use it
: as the last resort.
:
: bored,but

r*m2004-07-05 07:07

5 楼

谢谢回帖,感激ing.....
说起来,似乎偶本科的时候,宿舍还没有通互联网的时候,偶习惯于hide在图书馆的期刊报
纸阅览室,翻遍所有的电影音乐八卦杂志(比如从架子上找5.6年前的环球银幕的合订本...
)无论几点进去的,不到晚上关门绝对不出来....
越到考试复习就越想去....
仔仔细细想想,这个问题大概存在好多好多年了....'
很愿意和大家交流呢,呵呵呵呵,大家不要笑我就好 :(
自己觉得,大概是对自己的专业兴趣不够导致的,但是现在已经下定决心要好好做几年,发
点不错的paper,证明一下自己了...
请问你说的书是这一本么:
Managing Your Mind: The Mental Fitness Guide (Oxford Paperbacks)
by Gillian Butler, Tony Hope
再一次表示感谢!

【在 h******r 的大作中提到】

: 首先感谢你愿意与我们交流。
: IAD只是症状，是“标”，不是问题的根源。
: 你应该感谢互连网为你提供了一个非常好的HIDDING PLACE。
: 因为有了互联网，你没有取酗酒，没有去迷恋其它不健康的东西。
: 用其它任何一种习惯来取代互联网，尽管那种习惯可能看起来非常好，都是
: 治标不治本的方法。只是让你从一个HIDDING PLACE 转移到另外一个。
: 这种建议也是不解决实际问题的，最终也就是不负责任的。比如说回国
: 旅行，你会感觉到你已经不再迷恋网络了，其实IAD发生的本源还在，
: 所以你回来后它还会反复。因为你不能一辈子旅行。
: 网络IAD看起来很可怕的另外一个原因是中国学生，技术工人的生活

r*m2004-07-05 07:07

6 楼

另外,觉得自己没有上进心好多年了 :(
不知道偶的保险能不能管去看mental disease的钱, 偶学生的说,而且觉得和美国人说不
清楚,说清楚了他们也不见得理解....

报
纸阅览室,翻遍所有的电影音乐八卦杂志(比如从架子上找5.6年前的环球银幕的合订本...
发

【在 r******m 的大作中提到】

: 谢谢回帖,感激ing.....
: 说起来,似乎偶本科的时候,宿舍还没有通互联网的时候,偶习惯于hide在图书馆的期刊报
: 纸阅览室,翻遍所有的电影音乐八卦杂志(比如从架子上找5.6年前的环球银幕的合订本...
: )无论几点进去的,不到晚上关门绝对不出来....
: 越到考试复习就越想去....
: 仔仔细细想想,这个问题大概存在好多好多年了....'
: 很愿意和大家交流呢,呵呵呵呵,大家不要笑我就好 :(
: 自己觉得,大概是对自己的专业兴趣不够导致的,但是现在已经下定决心要好好做几年,发
: 点不错的paper,证明一下自己了...
: 请问你说的书是这一本么:

T*s2004-07-05 07:07

7 楼

I think i can understand your situation because i went through the same thing
about 1.5 years ago. At that time, my future was not clear and I was very
depressed (see if you have depression). But later when I went to another
school and became very busy, there is simply just no time to spend wandering
in the internet except doing my homework. When I was free, I borrowed movie
videos from public library (fortunately we have a very good one here).
Eventually I made several good friends and we have

【在 r******m 的大作中提到】

: 谢谢!我得生活就是有点boring,5555555
: 我也有好朋友的说.可是我只要一坐在电脑面前,最好的朋友都很难把我拉出来....
: 我想大概我对自己的专业缺乏足够的热情吧...但是其实已经下了决心先把学位拿到再说
: 别的了....
:
: hell.
: it
: I
: back
: it?

h*r2004-07-05 07:07

8 楼

You are welcome.
报
纸阅览室,翻遍所有的电影音乐八卦杂志(比如从架子上找5.6年前的环球银幕的合订本...
See. you really can not blame internet.
发
Well. This may be the problem. :)
Why aren't you interested in your major? Was it your advisor?
You don't have to 证明一下自己. You got to do whatever you really like.
You have to make sure you, I really mean you, are happy. Not to prove
you are smart, strong, capable to OTHERS! Frankly speaking, not so many
others care about how many papers you can publish, how will you do your
research. The only

【在 r******m 的大作中提到】

t*u2004-07-05 07:07

9 楼

I think Harbiner is right, IAD itself is only a symptom, you need to
find out the root of the problem. I find many factors at work when
you are addicted to the internet, including depression, low self-esteem,
loss of direction, etc. I myself find all of of the above applies to me.
I think it would be useful to start treating it the way of breaking a
bad habit, like smoking. I read somewhere a particularly awakening
sentence: Every time you repeat the habit (in your case, internet browsing),
you

【在 r******m 的大作中提到】

r*m2004-07-05 07:07

10 楼

是有一点呢,但是从来不知道原来这也是心理不健康的一种呀...
我还纳闷我从前挺勤快的,怎么越来越不像话了呢.

刊
纸阅览室,翻遍所有的电影音乐八卦杂志(比如从架子上找5.6年前的环球银幕的合订本...
,

r*m2004-07-05 07:07

11 楼

多谢了! 我前一段时间depressed的要死,这段时间稍微好一点,只是偶尔depressed一下..
我觉得我现在最担心的就是我的future了,因为我们学生物的将来工作不太好找,而且自己
又不是非常喜欢科研,老板对偶也不满意,现在看来又没有别的选择,因此挺迷茫的....
今天尝试着运动了一下, 感觉心情不错....:)
也许买辆车,生活能多些fun?

thing
is,
have
exercises
computers
got
再
make
use

【在 T******s 的大作中提到】

: I think i can understand your situation because i went through the same thing
: about 1.5 years ago. At that time, my future was not clear and I was very
: depressed (see if you have depression). But later when I went to another
: school and became very busy, there is simply just no time to spend wandering
: in the internet except doing my homework. When I was free, I borrowed movie
: videos from public library (fortunately we have a very good one here).
: Eventually I made several good friends and we have

r*m2004-07-05 07:07

12 楼

再一次表示感谢!
去amazon订这本书了,呵呵
我也说不清为什么不喜欢自己的major,以前只想着前辈牛人都学这个,那我也学吧.可能是
繁重的bench
work,模糊的将来和比较push的老板让偶不舒服吧.不过说实在,老板虽然很push,但是她说
的话似乎还是有道理的.anyway,现在也不知道自己到底喜欢做什么,而且总觉得条件所限
制吧,也没有什么别的选择.
sigh......

T*s2004-07-05 07:07

13 楼

Yes! 运动 is the best way to get rid of depression! If you have a car, you can
diversify your life and go see more fun places and do more fun stuff. But it
cannot gurantee happiness. I guess we have to go through dard times from time
to time just to get more mature. ;)

..
己
wandering
movie
eating
the
several
a
到

【在 r******m 的大作中提到】

: 多谢了! 我前一段时间depressed的要死,这段时间稍微好一点,只是偶尔depressed一下..
: 我觉得我现在最担心的就是我的future了,因为我们学生物的将来工作不太好找,而且自己
: 又不是非常喜欢科研,老板对偶也不满意,现在看来又没有别的选择,因此挺迷茫的....
: 今天尝试着运动了一下, 感觉心情不错....:)
: 也许买辆车,生活能多些fun?
:
: thing
: is,
: have
: exercises

r*m2004-07-05 07:07

14 楼

谢谢!也把这本书订了 :)
我觉得我现在的状态和你说的一模一样呢,depression (sometimes bipolar), low
self-esteem (除了做蹩脚试验其他的都不行), totally loss of direction!
谢谢你教的方法!我试试一想上网就去读paper的习惯吧,但是通常我会在开始读paper的5m
in以内陷入睡眠,并且百试不爽....

this
I
back
it?

【在 t**u 的大作中提到】

: I think Harbiner is right, IAD itself is only a symptom, you need to
: find out the root of the problem. I find many factors at work when
: you are addicted to the internet, including depression, low self-esteem,
: loss of direction, etc. I myself find all of of the above applies to me.
: I think it would be useful to start treating it the way of breaking a
: bad habit, like smoking. I read somewhere a particularly awakening
: sentence: Every time you repeat the habit (in your case, internet browsing),
: you

r*m2004-07-05 07:07

15 楼

谢谢!我的师姐也说其实像我们这样的人一直都太顺,没有面临过什么艰难的抉择,觉得只
要念念书,什么都是顺理成章按部就班的...也许别人早就经历过的hard time,我们要现在
经历了,老天爷要balance一下子的..

can
time
下
自
又不是非常喜欢科研,老板对偶也不满意,现在看来又没有别的选择,因此挺迷茫的....
very
point
and
had
I
permits,

【在 T******s 的大作中提到】

: Yes! 运动 is the best way to get rid of depression! If you have a car, you can
: diversify your life and go see more fun places and do more fun stuff. But it
: cannot gurantee happiness. I guess we have to go through dard times from time
: to time just to get more mature. ;)
:
: ..
: 己
: wandering
: movie
: eating