APAD: "True friend stabs you in the front."

"A true friend will always stab you in the front." - Oscar Widle

You’d think a friend would be someone that doesn’t stab you.  Oscar Wilde, a playwright from the last generation, disagrees.  True, a friend does not stab you in the back. But a friend is not indifferent towards you, either.  You know your true friends, Wilde says, because they care enough to stab you in the front.

"Being Nice can be selfishness"

Being nice can be code for being insincere.  In other words, “nice” can be a pleasantry, a superficial covering over what we really think.  We take our thoughts and say them “nicely.”  When this characterizes a group of people, you don’t have a community that is attractive because of its depth and honesty.  You have a community that is attractive because it is shiny and happy.  Most people have grown to be wary of communities that are too “nice” in this way.

- Source: http://https://cornerstonewla.org/blog/2016/04/12/a-true-friend-stabs-you-in-the-front
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I found the statement interesting and with truth in it, as least to me.  I like to "speak my mind" and appreciate the same from others. IMHO, when saying something nice, it should be true feeling, not fake praise; when seeing a mistake done by a close friend, better to "stab" him/her in front and in time.  In real life, this is "easy said than done", of course.  And one shouldn't be judgmental as no one is perfect and we may not know the whole truth.

So I practice this daily with Maowi the cat when he is around .

Have a good weekend everyone !

Maowi in deep thought (pic taken by my son who is a much better photographer then me)

Maowi'd put down his guard, let u scratch his belly, ... ...

animal's emotion is simple & endure.  As for human, no forever friend no forever enemy, enemy won't get the chance to stab u in the front, only friends can.

Yes, friends can if one let them.;-) & I've a 4ever human

friend from age 4.& most cats I met let me 撸 belly. ;-))

So this stab is a good one:-) Thks for sharing!

U got it! Stabbing fromFriends with good intention&heart :-)

“True friends will speak truth to you

even if it’s hard to hear.“

“A healthy friend is one where you share your true feelings

without fear.” ——Here are some other good quotes. ：）

+ secrets & ain’t b afraid 2 do so.

Maowi is a handsome Philosopher ～～

agreed. advice from friends can b 良药苦口 忠言逆耳.

200% agreed. :-))

Some friends show me how they'd break my neck/limbs :-))

hahaha, in doing so, they made sure you'd never be broken.

They should be counted as true friends :-)

based on their intention, YES! ;-))

You've got a few proverbs about "true friend".

Maowi is a thinker.

U r right 白云, he is a very logical thinker;-))

Yes: they ain’t YesMen following U around, but watching U

&standing by U &stabbing U @front when in need :-)

I’d be wary if someone keeps giving fake praise 2 me