I just quit my job. Same here, both my husband and i are very busy. The
combined income was quite high, but we never were able to enjoy life. It was
like a huge spinning bike, never stopped.
My son just turned two. We were very lucky, had a great nanny. But it is
time for him to have more interaction with outside,a nanny is not enough.
Daycare is not an option for us, both of our jobs are demanding: mine
travels a lot, his is long commute plus long hours. Someone has to make
sacrifice. Another reason that makes me quit is our parents: none of them
can help us due to health reason, actually, we need to take care of them,
back in China. They never saw my son, desperate to see him. Tell me, how can
we say no?
My husband and I brought home almost the same. His slightly higher. We had
long debate who should stay home, then decided me first. Several reasons:
one was he is a manager now and is willing to climb up, i have no interest
in management; my parents are older; the last reason is due to my own health
reason, i could't take care of my son before I went back to work, now he is
suddenly here, I want to make up the lost time.
I don't know why I said so much about my own case, everyone has different
situation, it may not be helpful. Anyway, back to topic, what's rhe life
like after instay home? First, the life is not that stressful, to all three
of us,anymore. I even feel i am more energetic. Second, my son finally be
able to go out. Third, more immediate, the income is much less. I told my
parents immediately don't expect i can help them like before. Overall, it
seems OK.
But i have to point out I am not quite happy. I love working, my dream is to
die onmy office desk(silly, right?). Although logically my staying home
now seems the only option could work, I am already planning to go back
workmsome day. But i know it cleally i can not go back to my old job. I have
to find another one with lower pay and less stress level. I have no idea
howmto achieve that yet.
Another very important factor I didn't point out above is my huaband is very
appreciative. He maybe the best husband you cannimagine in this world, very
loving and supportive. Hemis always saying i can do whatever i want but he
need to make sure himself can support the whole family. He still put my son
to sleep ecery day after i quit my job. He gave me enough security and
respect, otherwise i wouldn't consider stayingmhome for a while. Even though
, i still have to say, it is tough. So think carefully. Good luck.
