I believe that what you said is not totally right: "cpr培训时,老师说如果家长说不要救,我们是不可以救的。" If it is end stage disease, it is OK, otherwise, hospital should save the kids. It is all about " best interest of kids" . If the school believe going to special class is in"best interest of kids", I am afraid that mom will be engaged in long child welfare war.