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这本是出名的书，很多人知道，也有很多人读过。几年前读过，很多忘记了，但是也有
很多记得。读书的目的，其实不是为了读书而读书，为了高深莫测的知识而读书。读书
其实是为了自己的兴趣，自己能从书中学到什么，可以帮助自己一点什么，最后，自己
从书里学的可不可以应用到现实生活上去。这才是读书的目地。
好的书不是教会读者什么知识，而是读的人究竟能不能领会这书里要表达的。小说是怡
情，情色令人脸红，可是读这些书的感觉如何，自己才知道。读新闻使人知道窗外发生
什么事情。人与人，与世界，之间的关系是“知识”的中心，快乐的源泉。孤立是人最
大的敌人。。大方面的有国与国之间关系差，就会被对方孤立，一个国家与大多数国家
为敌，这个国家被孤立。。小方面的是两个朋友成为敌人就会想尽办法使对方和自己的
一切孤立。。牢房的囚犯犯错最重的惩罚是孤立关黑房。。
还记得这书里有说，那些离家出走的家庭主妇最大的原因是因为在家里得不到对方的赞
赏而走的。。这也就是说两人自己的关系从热恋的只会赞赏道只会数落的时候，也就是
分道扬镳的时候了。
这书名《How to Win Friends and Influence People》 翻译成《人性弱点》就是说这
种人与人之间的关系。不明白为什么会翻译成这个题目。。
这些是大意，还是原文好过译本，意思更加好接受。
Part I: Fundamental techniques in handling people
1. don’t criticize, condemn or complain
2. give honest and sincere appreciation
3. arouse in the other person an eager want
Part II: Six ways to make people like you
1. become genuinely interested in other people
2. smile
3. remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most
important sound in any language
4. be a good listener, encourage others to talk about themselves
5. talk in terms of the other person’s interests
6. make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely
Part III: How to win people to your way of thinking
1. the only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it
2. show respect for the other person’s opinions, never say “you’re wrong”
3. if you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically
4. begin in a friendly way
5. get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately
6. let the other person do a great deal of the talking
7. let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers
8. try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view
9. be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires
10 appeal to the nobler motives
11. dramatize your ideas
12. throw down a challenge
Part IV: Be a leader: how to change people without giving offense or
arousing resentment
1. begin with praise and honest appreciation
2. call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly
3. talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person
4. ask questions instead of giving direct orders
5. let the other person save face
6. praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement, be
7. hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise
8. give the other person a fine reputation to live up to
9. use encouragement, make the fault seem easy to correct
10. make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest
很多记得。读书的目的，其实不是为了读书而读书，为了高深莫测的知识而读书。读书
其实是为了自己的兴趣，自己能从书中学到什么，可以帮助自己一点什么，最后，自己
从书里学的可不可以应用到现实生活上去。这才是读书的目地。
好的书不是教会读者什么知识，而是读的人究竟能不能领会这书里要表达的。小说是怡
情，情色令人脸红，可是读这些书的感觉如何，自己才知道。读新闻使人知道窗外发生
什么事情。人与人，与世界，之间的关系是“知识”的中心，快乐的源泉。孤立是人最
大的敌人。。大方面的有国与国之间关系差，就会被对方孤立，一个国家与大多数国家
为敌，这个国家被孤立。。小方面的是两个朋友成为敌人就会想尽办法使对方和自己的
一切孤立。。牢房的囚犯犯错最重的惩罚是孤立关黑房。。
还记得这书里有说，那些离家出走的家庭主妇最大的原因是因为在家里得不到对方的赞
赏而走的。。这也就是说两人自己的关系从热恋的只会赞赏道只会数落的时候，也就是
分道扬镳的时候了。
这书名《How to Win Friends and Influence People》 翻译成《人性弱点》就是说这
种人与人之间的关系。不明白为什么会翻译成这个题目。。
这些是大意，还是原文好过译本，意思更加好接受。
Part I: Fundamental techniques in handling people
1. don’t criticize, condemn or complain
2. give honest and sincere appreciation
3. arouse in the other person an eager want
Part II: Six ways to make people like you
1. become genuinely interested in other people
2. smile
3. remember that a person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most
important sound in any language
4. be a good listener, encourage others to talk about themselves
5. talk in terms of the other person’s interests
6. make the other person feel important – and do it sincerely
Part III: How to win people to your way of thinking
1. the only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it
2. show respect for the other person’s opinions, never say “you’re wrong”
3. if you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically
4. begin in a friendly way
5. get the other person saying “yes, yes” immediately
6. let the other person do a great deal of the talking
7. let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers
8. try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view
9. be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires
10 appeal to the nobler motives
11. dramatize your ideas
12. throw down a challenge
Part IV: Be a leader: how to change people without giving offense or
arousing resentment
1. begin with praise and honest appreciation
2. call attention to people’s mistakes indirectly
3. talk about your own mistakes before criticizing the other person
4. ask questions instead of giving direct orders
5. let the other person save face
6. praise the slightest improvement and praise every improvement, be
7. hearty in your approbation and lavish in your praise
8. give the other person a fine reputation to live up to
9. use encouragement, make the fault seem easy to correct
10. make the other person happy about doing the thing you suggest
