Relax# Memory - 如烟网事
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IF we are feeling the feelings, they are coming from inside us.
Nobody can make us feel something that is not already within us.
Saying somebody makes us feel angry or hurts us is like saying that someone
can unscrew the top of our head, climb down inside us, and grab our anger
throttle or push our hurt button.This is simply not true. We have the choice
about what we are feeling. It is a split-second choice because most of us
are reactive to outside situations. If there is pain inside us, situations
arise that naturally trigger it forth.
If we try to make someone else responsible for our feelings, we belittle and
victimize ourselves. They are our feelings, therefore we are responsible
for them. As we take responsibility for them, we no longer have to
manipulate others to do things differently so we can feel good. In taking
responsibility for our feelings, we recognize that we are the ones who can
change them.
Nobody can make us feel something that is not already within us.
Saying somebody makes us feel angry or hurts us is like saying that someone
can unscrew the top of our head, climb down inside us, and grab our anger
throttle or push our hurt button.This is simply not true. We have the choice
about what we are feeling. It is a split-second choice because most of us
are reactive to outside situations. If there is pain inside us, situations
arise that naturally trigger it forth.
If we try to make someone else responsible for our feelings, we belittle and
victimize ourselves. They are our feelings, therefore we are responsible
for them. As we take responsibility for them, we no longer have to
manipulate others to do things differently so we can feel good. In taking
responsibility for our feelings, we recognize that we are the ones who can
change them.
