今天觉得心情真是糟透了。 两个多月前,好不容易到手的offer因为对方不是e verify,不能延期我的opt(opt明 年四月前过期)结果在所有手续办完之后取消了offer,对我算是个不小的打击。 现在有一个很相似的公司对我感兴趣,也是everify,可是从phone interview之后,他 们就一直说需要确认我的身份与办工作签证的可行性,等了一两周,上个周五突然收到 hr电话说要onsite。可是然后这星期以来又再没有动静了,昨天写邮件问了一下hiring manager,他回信说,we are still trying to absolutely make sure there will be no visa issues before we commit any further... 这意思是不是又没戏了?觉得 心情很糟糕,为什么总是这样的结果?真的很郁闷,很难过。 我现在是stem opt, 明年四月前过期,但是可以延期。这家公司是支持h1b的,又是 everify,真的不理解他们为什么还在审查我的visa status,不知道会怎样。心情很烦 。请大家说说看这个公司到底是什么意思吧,多谢了。
【在 f********y 的大作中提到】 : 我回到家后,他紧跟着来了一个电话,记得他说;You are a very beautiful , : charming ,sweet lady . I really ,really want to see you again. Can I? : 我于是答应他第二天lunch.
之后,当然他来了电话,说他很serious , XX , I want to tell you clearly : This is not a game. I would like to build long term realtionship with you towards marriage. You are my dream lady. 我承认我动了凡心。 我比较喜欢高大挺拔,穿戴整洁,极具绅士风度的男士。 他在这方面,无可挑剔。 除了他的工作,他还是一个Certified pilot。
【在 f********y 的大作中提到】 : 之后,当然他来了电话,说他很serious , XX , I want to tell you clearly : : This is not a game. I would like to build long term realtionship with you : towards marriage. You are my dream lady. : 我承认我动了凡心。 : 我比较喜欢高大挺拔,穿戴整洁,极具绅士风度的男士。 : 他在这方面,无可挑剔。 : 除了他的工作,他还是一个Certified pilot。
s*0
17 楼
可以要求store credit的,店里还巴不得你要store credit呢
f*y
18 楼
在这三次见面中,我对他产生了attachment. 虽然我当时学校的事情很忙,但是星期一的时候,我expect 他的电话。 但是没有。 我在星期二早上的时候,给他打了一个电话,但是直接转入留言。 我下午的时候,又给他打了两个电话,还是留言。 我心眼比较小,老往坏处想,难道他出了什么意外,车祸丧生? 当天晚上他还没有给我回电话,我确实有点焦虑。 到星期三早上10点多的时候,他先给我一个Text Message ,说他前两天非常忙, sorry missed your phone calls. 紧接着一个voice mail, 说我能不能call back. 在接到他的那个text message 的时候,我对他的所有感情已经荡然无存。 于是他后面就每隔10分钟给我一个电话,完后一个text message. 我不想接,也不原意接,我唯一比较在意的就是text message 我要单独付钱,我没有 boundle service. 结果他message 一个接着一个。 “Call me back ,please . It is important."
【在 f********y 的大作中提到】 : 之后,当然他来了电话,说他很serious , XX , I want to tell you clearly : : This is not a game. I would like to build long term realtionship with you : towards marriage. You are my dream lady. : 我承认我动了凡心。 : 我比较喜欢高大挺拔,穿戴整洁,极具绅士风度的男士。 : 他在这方面,无可挑剔。 : 除了他的工作,他还是一个Certified pilot。
【在 w****h 的大作中提到】 : sams is so stupid...they are turning a win-win game into a lose-lose game... : well, we'll lose just little more time, sams will lose much much more
【在 w****h 的大作中提到】 : sams is so stupid...they are turning a win-win game into a lose-lose game... : well, we'll lose just little more time, sams will lose much much more
我9点多回家了。 白人男性确实比较擅长甜言蜜语,treat you as a princess 对他们来说是习惯。 周末过去,周一周二还好,我周三主动给他打了个电话,转入留言。 当天晚上没有给我回电话,星期四的时候,他给我回电话。我没有接。 因为星期三12 pm 一过,我认为已经彻底over 了。 之后,他有电话狂轰乱炸,我给他回了封email 说 Do not contact me again. 我的判断是如果我真的如他嘴里说的对他那么重要的话,at least mean something to him 他不会给我隔夜回电话. 有的人经历了不幸的恋爱,不幸的婚姻。其实在最开始得时候,都是有苗头的, 有信 号的。 谁也不傻,都会做出最起码的判断,但是人性的弱点往往影响你去 act on your judegment. 我做了这样的judgement 后,很痛苦,在接不接他的电话,犹豫很久,但是最后决定不 接。 后来几次想给他打电话,忍住没有打。 痛苦了一个星期,过去了。 好在马上工作了,换了电话。
【在 f********y 的大作中提到】 : 我9点多回家了。 : 白人男性确实比较擅长甜言蜜语,treat you as a princess 对他们来说是习惯。 : 周末过去,周一周二还好,我周三主动给他打了个电话,转入留言。 : 当天晚上没有给我回电话,星期四的时候,他给我回电话。我没有接。 : 因为星期三12 pm 一过,我认为已经彻底over 了。 : 之后,他有电话狂轰乱炸,我给他回了封email : 说 Do not contact me again. : 我的判断是如果我真的如他嘴里说的对他那么重要的话,at least mean something to : him 他不会给我隔夜回电话. : 有的人经历了不幸的恋爱,不幸的婚姻。其实在最开始得时候,都是有苗头的, 有信
【在 f********y 的大作中提到】 : 我9点多回家了。 : 白人男性确实比较擅长甜言蜜语,treat you as a princess 对他们来说是习惯。 : 周末过去,周一周二还好,我周三主动给他打了个电话,转入留言。 : 当天晚上没有给我回电话,星期四的时候,他给我回电话。我没有接。 : 因为星期三12 pm 一过,我认为已经彻底over 了。 : 之后,他有电话狂轰乱炸,我给他回了封email : 说 Do not contact me again. : 我的判断是如果我真的如他嘴里说的对他那么重要的话,at least mean something to : him 他不会给我隔夜回电话. : 有的人经历了不幸的恋爱,不幸的婚姻。其实在最开始得时候,都是有苗头的, 有信
f*y
33 楼
就是差点外嫁的意思,你别满嘴胡吣, 以禽兽之心度他人之腹. 你老婆和你见了3次 面就上床了么?
【在 w*******g 的大作中提到】 : ft. 这个差点外F是什么意思? : 我猜是F完了之后, 人家不給打电话. LZ气死了. : : to
【在 f********y 的大作中提到】 : 我9点多回家了。 : 白人男性确实比较擅长甜言蜜语,treat you as a princess 对他们来说是习惯。 : 周末过去,周一周二还好,我周三主动给他打了个电话,转入留言。 : 当天晚上没有给我回电话,星期四的时候,他给我回电话。我没有接。 : 因为星期三12 pm 一过,我认为已经彻底over 了。 : 之后,他有电话狂轰乱炸,我给他回了封email : 说 Do not contact me again. : 我的判断是如果我真的如他嘴里说的对他那么重要的话,at least mean something to : him 他不会给我隔夜回电话. : 有的人经历了不幸的恋爱,不幸的婚姻。其实在最开始得时候,都是有苗头的, 有信
【在 w*******g 的大作中提到】 : ft. 这个差点外F是什么意思? : 我猜是F完了之后, 人家不給打电话. LZ气死了. : : to
l*a
56 楼
Believe your feeling. I always ignore it, actually my feeling is correct. If you want marriage in this WF case, you seem do the right thing. If you want some expensive gift, you may could have it from him. This is my guess.
I really have seen an ugly Taiwan girl successfully ask a guy to buy real estate and give a lot of money to her, because she hints or otherwise she will not marry him. Since she is so ugly and she is successful, no wonder so many girls want this luck.
我回答。No , 拒绝了。 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ I admire you can do this, it is so hard to say no for us Chinese, and I figure out those cheap white bastard knows that, and trying to take advantage of it.
【在 f********y 的大作中提到】 : 我9点多回家了。 : 白人男性确实比较擅长甜言蜜语,treat you as a princess 对他们来说是习惯。 : 周末过去,周一周二还好,我周三主动给他打了个电话,转入留言。 : 当天晚上没有给我回电话,星期四的时候,他给我回电话。我没有接。 : 因为星期三12 pm 一过,我认为已经彻底over 了。 : 之后,他有电话狂轰乱炸,我给他回了封email : 说 Do not contact me again. : 我的判断是如果我真的如他嘴里说的对他那么重要的话,at least mean something to : him 他不会给我隔夜回电话. : 有的人经历了不幸的恋爱,不幸的婚姻。其实在最开始得时候,都是有苗头的, 有信
a*t
81 楼
Agree. If you two didn't agree to start an official date, there is no reason that he SHOULD call you everyday And there WAS a chance that after three dates, you still didn't make clear to him that you wanted to accept his "official date" offer, so he thought you were not that into him and lost interest more or less
【在 l*****a 的大作中提到】 : I really have seen an ugly Taiwan girl successfully ask a guy to buy real : estate and give a lot of money to her, : because she hints or otherwise she will not marry him. Since she is so ugly : and she is successful, no wonder : so many girls want this luck.
a*t
83 楼
To be honest, unless you are doing some job with extreme pressure (IBers or traders?), otherwise it's still possible to return calls or send your significant other a greeting call in the evening And even IBers and traders get married and have kids How will you handle that after you have a family?
【在 a*****s 的大作中提到】 : 我发现楼主。。还真的是非常非常非常的任性和强悍 : 请问楼主mm上过班么??? : 说实话,我上班,礼拜一到礼拜五,no talk no sex : 我甚至不想两个人碰到,又不是小孩子玩什么热恋 : 上班很忙很累的,如果有男人对我这么纠缠 : 我肯定立刻甩掉,可见那个老外对你不错了,对我来说,楼主这种类型就是jp。。
a*t
84 楼
"于是电话那端的那个人就热情地介绍了一下自己,大概说他们是一起穿diaper 长大的 好朋友。他是个very good guy" I don't think American people have such slangs like 一起穿diaper 长大的好朋友 Sounds like you made these up
【在 a**********t 的大作中提到】 : "于是电话那端的那个人就热情地介绍了一下自己,大概说他们是一起穿diaper 长大的 : 好朋友。他是个very good guy" : I don't think American people have such slangs like 一起穿diaper 长大的好朋友 : Sounds like you made these up
u*l
86 楼
呃~~~
to
【在 f********y 的大作中提到】 : 我9点多回家了。 : 白人男性确实比较擅长甜言蜜语,treat you as a princess 对他们来说是习惯。 : 周末过去,周一周二还好,我周三主动给他打了个电话,转入留言。 : 当天晚上没有给我回电话,星期四的时候,他给我回电话。我没有接。 : 因为星期三12 pm 一过,我认为已经彻底over 了。 : 之后,他有电话狂轰乱炸,我给他回了封email : 说 Do not contact me again. : 我的判断是如果我真的如他嘴里说的对他那么重要的话,at least mean something to : him 他不会给我隔夜回电话. : 有的人经历了不幸的恋爱,不幸的婚姻。其实在最开始得时候,都是有苗头的, 有信
a*t
87 楼
LOL The guy LZ talked about seems to be Caucasian though
this is also a sign of player.... -_-" ... talk sweet~
【在 f********y 的大作中提到】 : 我回到家后,他紧跟着来了一个电话,记得他说;You are a very beautiful , : charming ,sweet lady . I really ,really want to see you again. Can I? : 我于是答应他第二天lunch.
You did a right thing. This dude is a fucker. He definitely framed this because no business executive will likely to take phone with speaker on without knowing who it is or what about, nor he will tell the caller that he is having diner with a lady because it is not professional. He just planned this, asking his friend to cheat you that you should sleep him because "he is a good guy since I grew up with him". "吃饭的时候,他有一个电话进来,他按了speaker , 我可以听到。他问对方是 business 还是pleasure.对方说是公事,他说他现在没有心情谈公事。他说他现在正
不管你的结论对不对, 你的推论过程不对吧? 为什么"no business executive will likely to take phone with speaker on ..."? 难道对方不能既是他的朋友又是公事上的伙伴?
take you
【在 d*********n 的大作中提到】 : You did a right thing. : This dude is a fucker. : He definitely framed this because no business executive will likely to take : phone with speaker on without knowing who it is or what about, nor he will : tell the caller that he is having diner with a lady because it is not : professional. He just planned this, asking his friend to cheat you that you : should sleep him because "he is a good guy since I grew up with him". : "吃饭的时候,他有一个电话进来,他按了speaker , 我可以听到。他问对方是 : business 还是pleasure.对方说是公事,他说他现在没有心情谈公事。他说他现在正
d*n
94 楼
but he picked a call during an important diner with her, with speaker on, talking about "business", which turned out turned out a made-up conservation from "his childhood buddy" to tell her that "he is a good guy". What the fuck?
【在 d*********n 的大作中提到】 : but he picked a call during an important diner with her, with speaker on, : talking about "business", which turned out turned out a made-up conservation : from "his childhood buddy" to tell her that "he is a good guy". : What the fuck?
e*a
96 楼
大家把白男怎么想得那么坏啊?很多白男比中男还要loyal的。
d*n
97 楼
apparently he knew the caller because he turned the speaker on right away, just pretending not knowing.
Yes to some, but only after they confirmed that they are officially dating you Before then when still during a blind date or ONS stage (most likely in LZ's case), there isn't any loyalty to be considered
"他的教育在任何情况下还从来没有让女人付过帐" This is mostly about American dating rules in the first couple of dates After official dating for a while, no guy will pay for the girl forever They will just buy a diamond ring when they propose, and then the wedding is even left for the girl and her family
【在 c*******h 的大作中提到】 : 在挪威待了四年,也没听他们说有这个教育呀 :
a*t
104 楼
Totally agree
take you
【在 d*********n 的大作中提到】 : You did a right thing. : This dude is a fucker. : He definitely framed this because no business executive will likely to take : phone with speaker on without knowing who it is or what about, nor he will : tell the caller that he is having diner with a lady because it is not : professional. He just planned this, asking his friend to cheat you that you : should sleep him because "he is a good guy since I grew up with him". : "吃饭的时候,他有一个电话进来,他按了speaker , 我可以听到。他问对方是 : business 还是pleasure.对方说是公事,他说他现在没有心情谈公事。他说他现在正
不过这人不算pick up artist,PUA不会在一个人身上花那么多时间。 lz的故事应该是Dating out of your league的case
w*r
114 楼
这个故事让我看得哈哈大笑
l*a
115 楼
在美国,筹办一个一般的婚礼要多少钱?好奇问问.
is
【在 a**********t 的大作中提到】 : "他的教育在任何情况下还从来没有让女人付过帐" : This is mostly about American dating rules in the first couple of dates : After official dating for a while, no guy will pay for the girl forever : They will just buy a diamond ring when they propose, and then the wedding is : even left for the girl and her family
【在 a**********t 的大作中提到】 : To be honest, unless you are doing some job with extreme pressure (IBers or : traders?), otherwise it's still possible to return calls or send your : significant other a greeting call in the evening : And even IBers and traders get married and have kids : How will you handle that after you have a family?
【在 f********y 的大作中提到】 : 我9点多回家了。 : 白人男性确实比较擅长甜言蜜语,treat you as a princess 对他们来说是习惯。 : 周末过去,周一周二还好,我周三主动给他打了个电话,转入留言。 : 当天晚上没有给我回电话,星期四的时候,他给我回电话。我没有接。 : 因为星期三12 pm 一过,我认为已经彻底over 了。 : 之后,他有电话狂轰乱炸,我给他回了封email : 说 Do not contact me again. : 我的判断是如果我真的如他嘴里说的对他那么重要的话,at least mean something to : him 他不会给我隔夜回电话. : 有的人经历了不幸的恋爱,不幸的婚姻。其实在最开始得时候,都是有苗头的, 有信
【在 f********y 的大作中提到】 : 我9点多回家了。 : 白人男性确实比较擅长甜言蜜语,treat you as a princess 对他们来说是习惯。 : 周末过去,周一周二还好,我周三主动给他打了个电话,转入留言。 : 当天晚上没有给我回电话,星期四的时候,他给我回电话。我没有接。 : 因为星期三12 pm 一过,我认为已经彻底over 了。 : 之后,他有电话狂轰乱炸,我给他回了封email : 说 Do not contact me again. : 我的判断是如果我真的如他嘴里说的对他那么重要的话,at least mean something to : him 他不会给我隔夜回电话. : 有的人经历了不幸的恋爱,不幸的婚姻。其实在最开始得时候,都是有苗头的, 有信