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发信人: lovefreedom (happy), 信区: WaterWorld
标 题: an american single mother and her daughter
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Fri Mar 22 14:11:06 2013, 美东)
By Allison Linn, Staff Writer, NBC News
WEST HARTFORD, Conn. – Like many Americans who move to the suburbs, Tara
Simons came to West Hartford because she wanted her daughter to grow up in a
nice, safe place with good schools.
Her fall from a more financially secure suburban life to one among the
working poor also happened for the same reason it’s happened to so many
others. She had a bout of unemployment and couldn’t find a new job that
paid very well.
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As a single mother, that’s made it hard to hold on to the suburban life
that is, in her mind, key to making sure her daughter gets off to the right
start.
“I’m basically paying to say I live in West Hartford,” she said. “It is
worth it.”
It’s a struggle that many Americans bruised by the weak economy can relate
to.
The number of suburban residents living in poverty rose by nearly 64 percent
between 2000 and 2011, to about 16.4 million people, according to a
Brookings Institution analysis of 95 of the nation’s largest metropolitan
areas. That’s more than double the rate of growth for urban poverty in
those areas.
“I think we have an outdated perception of where poverty is and who it is
affecting,” said Elizabeth Kneebone, a fellow at the Brookings Institution
and co-author of the research. “We tend to think of it as a very urban and
a very rural phenomenon, but it is increasingly suburban.”
Simons’ situation is complicated by the fact she’s a single mom. Poverty
and financial insecurity among single moms is far higher than for households
headed by single dads or two parents.
The rate of poverty among single mothers actually improved dramatically
through the 1990s, thanks to a strong economy, more favorable tax breaks and
the success of so-called welfare-to-work programs. But two recessions and
years of high unemployment erased many of those gains.
Moving for a better life
Simons and her daughter Alexis moved from Massachusetts to West Hartford
eight years ago because Simons had a job with a local rug retailer.
Alexis, now 14, made friends, became an avid lacrosse player and is now a
high school freshman.
The picturesque suburb, with its well-kept homes and an upscale town center,
has a median household income of $80,061, more than double that of Hartford
itself, which is $29,107 according to the Census Bureau.
And yet the number of people needing help has skyrocketed in recent years,
said Susan Huleatt, the human services manager for West Hartford.
About five years ago, Huleatt said a mobile van began coming to town once a
month to distribute fresh produce to people in need. Now, four vans come
each month, and more than 200 people sometimes line up for the food. That’s
in addition to the city’s own food pantry.
David Friedman / NBC News
Simons chooses an outfit for a job interview.
Simons expected to work for the rug retailer until retirement, but about a
year ago she quit after disputes with one of the two owners. She had never
had trouble finding a new job and was unprepared for how hard it would be.
“I know that part of it is my fault and I absolutely take responsibility
for that, but I never in a million years thought that I would (be in this
position),” she said.
Simons went without work or unemployment benefits for five months before she
got her current job about six months ago. The position, as a customer
service representative for a local health products company, pays $14 an hour
. That leaves her with take-home pay of about $460 to $480 a week, plus
about $127 a week in child support. Simons has full custody of her daughter.
She is behind on her electric and gas bills and owes nearly $400 to her
daughter’s club lacrosse team, which has her worried that her daughter won
’t be able to play this spring.
Like many working poor people, she has fallen into a debt spiral. She took
out an $800 payday loan, and she estimates that it will end up costing her $
1,600 to pay it back. She also has several hundred dollars in credit card
debt and has worked to pay off hundreds of dollars in bank overdraft fees.
She’s sold jewelry for cash.
She and Alexis had to leave the house they were renting after she lost her
job and a roommate. She got one-time aid from the city’s crisis fund to
help with the down payment for her new, cheaper apartment. Still, the $1125
rent eats up more than half of her monthly take-home pay.
She went on Medicaid after being unable to afford health insurance.
Simons said it’s been hard, and sometimes embarrassing, to accept help.
“The thing is, I don’t want it,” she said. “I want to pay my bills.”
Hoping for a break
Simons has continued to apply for jobs daily, hoping to land a higher-paying
position with health insurance she can afford.
One morning in early March, she got a break. A rug retailer about 40 miles
from West Hartford offered her a job interview.
Excited and anxious, Simons carefully picked out her clothes and fretted
about her hair. She was too nervous to eat.
A few hours before the interview, her boyfriend Phil Volonis stopped by to
give Simons some gas money. Her 2005 Chevrolet Cavalier had broken down the
day before, so he had lent her a car.
David Friedman / NBC News
Simons takes cover from the rain as she heads into a job interview.
Later that evening, Simons walked out of the interview confident that she
had done well, but still not sure if she had gotten the job.
Driving home in the pouring rain, Simons said that while living in West
Hartford has been good for her and her daughter, she dreams of moving
somewhere warmer.
She mused that perhaps Alexis will go to University of Florida – which has
a good women’s lacrosse team - and she could move down there, too.
But for now, she said, she would do almost anything to keep her daughter in
this town.
“The kid’s been through enough,” Simons said. “So, I just want her to
feel as safe and settled as possible, and I want her to know that she can
count on her mom to keep her where she is and keep promises.”
发信人: lovefreedom (happy), 信区: WaterWorld
标 题: an american single mother and her daughter
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Fri Mar 22 14:11:06 2013, 美东)
By Allison Linn, Staff Writer, NBC News
WEST HARTFORD, Conn. – Like many Americans who move to the suburbs, Tara
Simons came to West Hartford because she wanted her daughter to grow up in a
nice, safe place with good schools.
Her fall from a more financially secure suburban life to one among the
working poor also happened for the same reason it’s happened to so many
others. She had a bout of unemployment and couldn’t find a new job that
paid very well.
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----
As a single mother, that’s made it hard to hold on to the suburban life
that is, in her mind, key to making sure her daughter gets off to the right
start.
“I’m basically paying to say I live in West Hartford,” she said. “It is
worth it.”
It’s a struggle that many Americans bruised by the weak economy can relate
to.
The number of suburban residents living in poverty rose by nearly 64 percent
between 2000 and 2011, to about 16.4 million people, according to a
Brookings Institution analysis of 95 of the nation’s largest metropolitan
areas. That’s more than double the rate of growth for urban poverty in
those areas.
“I think we have an outdated perception of where poverty is and who it is
affecting,” said Elizabeth Kneebone, a fellow at the Brookings Institution
and co-author of the research. “We tend to think of it as a very urban and
a very rural phenomenon, but it is increasingly suburban.”
Simons’ situation is complicated by the fact she’s a single mom. Poverty
and financial insecurity among single moms is far higher than for households
headed by single dads or two parents.
The rate of poverty among single mothers actually improved dramatically
through the 1990s, thanks to a strong economy, more favorable tax breaks and
the success of so-called welfare-to-work programs. But two recessions and
years of high unemployment erased many of those gains.
Moving for a better life
Simons and her daughter Alexis moved from Massachusetts to West Hartford
eight years ago because Simons had a job with a local rug retailer.
Alexis, now 14, made friends, became an avid lacrosse player and is now a
high school freshman.
The picturesque suburb, with its well-kept homes and an upscale town center,
has a median household income of $80,061, more than double that of Hartford
itself, which is $29,107 according to the Census Bureau.
And yet the number of people needing help has skyrocketed in recent years,
said Susan Huleatt, the human services manager for West Hartford.
About five years ago, Huleatt said a mobile van began coming to town once a
month to distribute fresh produce to people in need. Now, four vans come
each month, and more than 200 people sometimes line up for the food. That’s
in addition to the city’s own food pantry.
David Friedman / NBC News
Simons chooses an outfit for a job interview.
Simons expected to work for the rug retailer until retirement, but about a
year ago she quit after disputes with one of the two owners. She had never
had trouble finding a new job and was unprepared for how hard it would be.
“I know that part of it is my fault and I absolutely take responsibility
for that, but I never in a million years thought that I would (be in this
position),” she said.
Simons went without work or unemployment benefits for five months before she
got her current job about six months ago. The position, as a customer
service representative for a local health products company, pays $14 an hour
. That leaves her with take-home pay of about $460 to $480 a week, plus
about $127 a week in child support. Simons has full custody of her daughter.
She is behind on her electric and gas bills and owes nearly $400 to her
daughter’s club lacrosse team, which has her worried that her daughter won
’t be able to play this spring.
Like many working poor people, she has fallen into a debt spiral. She took
out an $800 payday loan, and she estimates that it will end up costing her $
1,600 to pay it back. She also has several hundred dollars in credit card
debt and has worked to pay off hundreds of dollars in bank overdraft fees.
She’s sold jewelry for cash.
She and Alexis had to leave the house they were renting after she lost her
job and a roommate. She got one-time aid from the city’s crisis fund to
help with the down payment for her new, cheaper apartment. Still, the $1125
rent eats up more than half of her monthly take-home pay.
She went on Medicaid after being unable to afford health insurance.
Simons said it’s been hard, and sometimes embarrassing, to accept help.
“The thing is, I don’t want it,” she said. “I want to pay my bills.”
Hoping for a break
Simons has continued to apply for jobs daily, hoping to land a higher-paying
position with health insurance she can afford.
One morning in early March, she got a break. A rug retailer about 40 miles
from West Hartford offered her a job interview.
Excited and anxious, Simons carefully picked out her clothes and fretted
about her hair. She was too nervous to eat.
A few hours before the interview, her boyfriend Phil Volonis stopped by to
give Simons some gas money. Her 2005 Chevrolet Cavalier had broken down the
day before, so he had lent her a car.
David Friedman / NBC News
Simons takes cover from the rain as she heads into a job interview.
Later that evening, Simons walked out of the interview confident that she
had done well, but still not sure if she had gotten the job.
Driving home in the pouring rain, Simons said that while living in West
Hartford has been good for her and her daughter, she dreams of moving
somewhere warmer.
She mused that perhaps Alexis will go to University of Florida – which has
a good women’s lacrosse team - and she could move down there, too.
But for now, she said, she would do almost anything to keep her daughter in
this town.
“The kid’s been through enough,” Simons said. “So, I just want her to
feel as safe and settled as possible, and I want her to know that she can
count on her mom to keep her where she is and keep promises.”