觉得下面的很有道理 http://www2.ed.gov/parents/academic/help/adolescence/part8.html “Most psychologists now believe that self-esteem and self-confidence represent a range of feelings that a child has about himself in many different situations. Psychologist Susan Harter has developed a theory of self-esteem that considers both a child's sense of confidence in an area of activity and how important that area is to the child. For example, adolescents may think about a number of situations: competing on the track team, studying math, dating, taking care of younger brothers or sisters and so on. An adolescent is likely to feel more confident doing some of these things than others. She may feel very good about her athletic ability and skill at math, but feel bad about her dating life. She may also have mixed feelings about how good a sister she is to her baby brother. How good this teenager feels about herself ties to how important each of these area is to her. If having a very active dating life is the most important area of her life, this girl will feel bad about herself. If being a scholar-athlete is most important area, then she will feel very good about herself. Based on this theory, the best ways to help your child to develop confidence include the following:” 要让孩子感觉她擅长的方面很重要,强化孩子的优点。 Part of confidence is knowing what to do when you don't know what to do."
Self confidence has nothing to do with being social. Some people like to social with others, some do not. It is personality. Self confidence has to do with mental and inner strength. How strong is your mind and heart, if you are so easy to be influenced by others, Then You do not have confidence with yourself, you are always lead by others and others' opinions.
Confidence comes from ability. For example, a 13 year old girl will be very confident in front of 8, 9 year old children. She is comfortable and confident in that situation. Improving her ability will help, inner strength is not easy to be built. Some people do not have confidence for their whole life. Usually, people do not like highly confident girls, People like lovely girls, so girls not confident but lovely will be more acceptable by society.
wow please define "lovely" a greedy big-ma asks: can girls have both? :) highly confident is good maybe you meant overly confident?
【在 l**a 的大作中提到】 : : Confidence comes from ability. : For example, a 13 year old girl will be very confident in front of 8, 9 : year old children. : She is comfortable and confident in that situation. : Improving her ability will help, inner strength is not easy to be built. : Some people do not have confidence for their whole life. : Usually, people do not like highly confident girls, : People like lovely girls, so girls not confident but lovely will be more : acceptable by society.
【在 i**e 的大作中提到】 : wow : please define "lovely" : a greedy big-ma asks: can girls have both? :) : highly confident is good : maybe you meant overly confident?
This is inner strength. The stronger you are, the more tolerant you are. You tolerate others, it is not because you are weak. It is because you are strong. When nobody can push your button, you are very strong inside. A young girl needs to learn the good and the bad of society, The society will send all kinds of message to her. She has to draw her own conclusion.
【在 s**********1 的大作中提到】 : 嗯。我觉得自己需要学会接受自己和他人。
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I think a father's attitude towards his daughter is the key point.