ask yourself some questions: what is communication? what is happiness? what is truth? why do I want to be a person with stories? why do I expect people to agree with me? concentrate and try to answer these questions :P now pay attention to your body, heart beating faster? any uncomfortable feeling in your stomach? .... at the same time, watch what's happening in your mind......any anger coming up? do you feel vulnerable as well? .......Do You Want To Control Other People? Are You Satisfied With
talk with other people happiness, satisfaction, there is hope that things will get better fact? because i want to be impressive because i believe those things. I usually do not expect people to agree with me. your no, i feel sleepy any uncomfortable feeling in your stomach? .... no, why? coming no do you feel vulnerable as well? ....... m... i don't know. i usually feel this way Do You Want To Control Other no. but i don't want to be controlled. Are You Satisfied With What You Are? no
【在 D**N 的大作中提到】 : ask yourself some questions: : what is communication? : what is happiness? : what is truth? : why do I want to be a person with stories? : why do I expect people to agree with me? : concentrate and try to answer these questions :P now pay attention to your : body, heart beating faster? any uncomfortable feeling in your stomach? .... : at the same time, watch what's happening in your mind......any anger coming : up? do you feel vulnerable as well? .......Do You Want To Control Other
s*e
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why would these questions make me angry and uneasy?
with
【在 s*********e 的大作中提到】 : : talk with other people : happiness, satisfaction, there is hope that things will get better : fact? : because i want to be impressive : because i believe those things. I usually do not expect people to agree with : me. : your : no, i feel sleepy : any uncomfortable feeling in your stomach? ....
s*e
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everyone has some ridiculous thoughts. I don't want them to come true. I cannot help being jealous, angry, but i don't want others suffer because of this.
【在 s*********e 的大作中提到】 : why would these questions make me angry and uneasy? : : with
D*N
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if you don't mind reading some more, i will continue...... communication means more than talk. in family, communication means to get intimacy. in outer world, it means getting mutual understanding, forgiveness and willing to help. the means includes talk and body language. talking only takes about 10%, but that's enough to provoke people online without actually listening. so choose not the harsh, unfriendly words. and if you have love and gentleness in your heart, you won't use unfriendly attitu
【在 s*********e 的大作中提到】 : everyone has some ridiculous thoughts. I don't want them to come true. I : cannot help being jealous, angry, but i don't want others suffer because of : this.
the observation i asked you to do is a practice that can be used in our daily life. every uneasy state of mind causes physical reactions. anger brings faster heart beating and some stomachache. and interestingly, feeling of being vulnerable proceeds anger. very often, feeling vulnerable is a result of a unrealistic willing to control. no, neither my faster heart beating nor my feeling of being vulnerable come from anger. my feeling of being vulnerable is not a result of willing to control. It i
【在 D**N 的大作中提到】 : if you don't mind reading some more, i will continue...... : communication means more than talk. in family, communication means to get : intimacy. in outer world, it means getting mutual understanding, forgiveness : and willing to help. the means includes talk and body language. talking : only takes about 10%, but that's enough to provoke people online without : actually listening. so choose not the harsh, unfriendly words. and if you : have love and gentleness in your heart, you won't use unfriendly attitu
【在 D**N 的大作中提到】 : if you don't mind reading some more, i will continue...... : communication means more than talk. in family, communication means to get : intimacy. in outer world, it means getting mutual understanding, forgiveness : and willing to help. the means includes talk and body language. talking : only takes about 10%, but that's enough to provoke people online without : actually listening. so choose not the harsh, unfriendly words. and if you : have love and gentleness in your heart, you won't use unfriendly attitu
s*e
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我没有抬扛阿,也不觉得有什么很值得思考的地方,有点high,也不是太high
【在 A****e 的大作中提到】 : 我不觉得你跟她说这么多有用。她现在处于一个比较混乱的阶段,你说这些,她的条件 : 反射是跟你抬杠,而不是思考。你这样跟她问答,只会让她越来越high,搞不好就bi了 : 。当年ruoyang就是一个很好的例子。可能我比较冷血吧,一般不做徒劳无用工。 : : forgiveness : or : later