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不少的朋友问关于Assertiveness的培训，这个是公司培训。这也是沟通技巧的一个重
要方面，有很多的书，网上也有资料。
这里我摘抄一些原则给大家怎么develop assertiveness，希望对小孩和大人都有帮助。
Some people are naturally more assertive than others. If your disposition
tends more towards being either passive or aggressive, you need to work on
the following skills to develop your assertiveness.
１。Value yourself and your rights
Understand that your rights, thoughts, feelings, needs and desires are
just as important as everyone else's.
But remember they are not more important than anyone else's, either.
Recognise your rights and protect them.
Believe you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity at all times.
Stop apologizing for everything.
２。Identify your needs and wants, and ask for them to be satisfied
Don't wait for someone to recognize what you need (you might wait
forever!)
Understand that to perform to your full potential, your needs must be
met.
Find ways to get your needs met without sacrificing others' needs in the
process.
３。Acknowledge that people are responsible for their own behavior
Don't make the mistake of accepting responsibility for the how people
react to your assertive statements (e.g. anger, resentment). You can only
control yourself.
As long as you are not violating someone else's needs, then you have the
right to say or do what you want.
４。Express negative thoughts and feelings in a healthy and positive manner
Allow yourself to be angry, but always be respectful.
Do say what's on your mind, but do it in a way that protects the other
person's feelings.
Control your emotions.
Stand up for yourself and confront people who challenge you and/or your
rights.
５。Receive criticism and compliments positively
Accept compliments graciously.
Allow yourself to make mistakes and ask for help.
Accept feedback positively – be prepared to say you don't agree but do
not get defensive or angry.
６。Learn to say "No" when you need to. This is the granddaddy of
assertiveness!
Know your limits and what will cause you to feel taken advantage of.
Know that you can't do everything or please everyone and learn to be OK
with that.
Go with what is right for you.
Suggest an alternative for a win-win solution.
要方面，有很多的书，网上也有资料。
这里我摘抄一些原则给大家怎么develop assertiveness，希望对小孩和大人都有帮助。
Some people are naturally more assertive than others. If your disposition
tends more towards being either passive or aggressive, you need to work on
the following skills to develop your assertiveness.
１。Value yourself and your rights
Understand that your rights, thoughts, feelings, needs and desires are
just as important as everyone else's.
But remember they are not more important than anyone else's, either.
Recognise your rights and protect them.
Believe you deserve to be treated with respect and dignity at all times.
Stop apologizing for everything.
２。Identify your needs and wants, and ask for them to be satisfied
Don't wait for someone to recognize what you need (you might wait
forever!)
Understand that to perform to your full potential, your needs must be
met.
Find ways to get your needs met without sacrificing others' needs in the
process.
３。Acknowledge that people are responsible for their own behavior
Don't make the mistake of accepting responsibility for the how people
react to your assertive statements (e.g. anger, resentment). You can only
control yourself.
As long as you are not violating someone else's needs, then you have the
right to say or do what you want.
４。Express negative thoughts and feelings in a healthy and positive manner
Allow yourself to be angry, but always be respectful.
Do say what's on your mind, but do it in a way that protects the other
person's feelings.
Control your emotions.
Stand up for yourself and confront people who challenge you and/or your
rights.
５。Receive criticism and compliments positively
Accept compliments graciously.
Allow yourself to make mistakes and ask for help.
Accept feedback positively – be prepared to say you don't agree but do
not get defensive or angry.
６。Learn to say "No" when you need to. This is the granddaddy of
assertiveness!
Know your limits and what will cause you to feel taken advantage of.
Know that you can't do everything or please everyone and learn to be OK
with that.
Go with what is right for you.
Suggest an alternative for a win-win solution.