最近临时被一个学生放鸽子了 (转载)# JobHunting - 待字闺中
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http://www.mitbbs.com/article_t/Faculty/31711327.html
引出高妹写得真好。
还有很多别的人，也很中肯。
老中真心希望注意守信和尊重。否则
会全军覆没的。
http://www.mitbbs.com/article_t/JobHunting/32795111.html
【 以下文字转载自 Faculty 讨论区 】
发信人: MrPresident (总统先生), 信区: Faculty
标 题: 最近临时被一个学生放鸽子了
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Thu Jun 18 13:41:50 2015, 美东)
谢谢各位回复，受益匪浅。看到有些言辞越来越激烈，所以出来说明一下。
学生不是中国的，我也通过其它渠道知道他收到我的信了。今天带着点情绪写了此信，
也觉有些不妥，于是上来听听大家的意见，信并没有发出。
看到有说我气量小的，中国老板怎样的。说我的我都认了，以后会注意加强修养。希望
不要扩大到群体，我见过的大多数中国教授都是雅量高致的。
我想说社会形成的基础是相互信任，有原则有底线的人不会为了利益而破坏这种信任感
。我一直比较尊重有底线的人并且也是以此来要求自己的。希望大家生活中碰到没底线
的人少一些。
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不发邮件问都不知道他不会来了。准备写一封信给对方的推荐人，也是他们的系主任，
大家帮看看得体不
Dear Prof. X:
I am writing to communicate my recent recruiting incident with one of your
students -- Mr. XX.
Mr. XX applied to our PhD program for Fall 2015. With the endorsements from
you, Prof. A, and Prof. S, I was convinced Mr. XX would be a talented and
trustworthy person to work with. So, I made an offer in April for him to
join my research group in Fall 2015. He accepted our offer with his
signature as attached. The offer comes with full financial support and this
financial commitment precludes me from recruiting other applicants once he
accepted our offer. And I expected the same commitment from him to join us
in the fall.
Last week, I started preparing the lab space, computers, and other resources
for his arrival in the fall. So I reached out to him to find out what his
plan was so that I can prepare accordingly. I didn't receive a response.
After my second email to him and not receiving any response, it became clear
to me that he would not join us. I was shocked by his dishonesty, lack of
commitment, and lack of professional courtesy. It is my belief that your
institute does not encourage this kind of behavior. This incident will have
profound impact on my colleague's and my consideration for future applicants
from your institute. Therefore, I am writing to communicate the details of
this incident to you and hope you can take necessary actions/measures to
prevent this from happening again.
Sincerely,
Prof. Z
引出高妹写得真好。
还有很多别的人，也很中肯。
老中真心希望注意守信和尊重。否则
会全军覆没的。
http://www.mitbbs.com/article_t/JobHunting/32795111.html
【 以下文字转载自 Faculty 讨论区 】
发信人: MrPresident (总统先生), 信区: Faculty
标 题: 最近临时被一个学生放鸽子了
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Thu Jun 18 13:41:50 2015, 美东)
谢谢各位回复，受益匪浅。看到有些言辞越来越激烈，所以出来说明一下。
学生不是中国的，我也通过其它渠道知道他收到我的信了。今天带着点情绪写了此信，
也觉有些不妥，于是上来听听大家的意见，信并没有发出。
看到有说我气量小的，中国老板怎样的。说我的我都认了，以后会注意加强修养。希望
不要扩大到群体，我见过的大多数中国教授都是雅量高致的。
我想说社会形成的基础是相互信任，有原则有底线的人不会为了利益而破坏这种信任感
。我一直比较尊重有底线的人并且也是以此来要求自己的。希望大家生活中碰到没底线
的人少一些。
=============================original post==================================
==
不发邮件问都不知道他不会来了。准备写一封信给对方的推荐人，也是他们的系主任，
大家帮看看得体不
Dear Prof. X:
I am writing to communicate my recent recruiting incident with one of your
students -- Mr. XX.
Mr. XX applied to our PhD program for Fall 2015. With the endorsements from
you, Prof. A, and Prof. S, I was convinced Mr. XX would be a talented and
trustworthy person to work with. So, I made an offer in April for him to
join my research group in Fall 2015. He accepted our offer with his
signature as attached. The offer comes with full financial support and this
financial commitment precludes me from recruiting other applicants once he
accepted our offer. And I expected the same commitment from him to join us
in the fall.
Last week, I started preparing the lab space, computers, and other resources
for his arrival in the fall. So I reached out to him to find out what his
plan was so that I can prepare accordingly. I didn't receive a response.
After my second email to him and not receiving any response, it became clear
to me that he would not join us. I was shocked by his dishonesty, lack of
commitment, and lack of professional courtesy. It is my belief that your
institute does not encourage this kind of behavior. This incident will have
profound impact on my colleague's and my consideration for future applicants
from your institute. Therefore, I am writing to communicate the details of
this incident to you and hope you can take necessary actions/measures to
prevent this from happening again.
Sincerely,
Prof. Z