I think this is the best suggestion: 小孩子可塑性很大,你教他一些方法,然后遇事让他自己解决,信心慢慢的就有了。 比如抢玩具,可以跟孩子说,如果下次某某抢你正在玩的玩具,你怎么办啊?咱们一起 试试看,眼睛看着小朋友,手把玩具抓紧了,说我再玩一分钟,过一会儿再把玩具主动 share给小朋友。 这个排练的过程很重要,得排练很多次。
pat pat 别人怎么想,我们是没有什么责任去改变的; 关键的是,我们自己怎么想,然后怎么行动; 用我们的行动让对方知道我们的底线,原则 不能怕得罪人,要舍得失去所谓的朋友 同时要知道什么样的人才是我们真正值得去交往的 万事开头难,习惯了就成自然了 我没养仔,说话底气不是很足;闺女家家不能接受的行为,小男子汉们可能觉着无所谓 所以,我的rule of thumb 就是 孩子觉着吃不消的时候,要知道大声喊NO,STOP! 对方喊NO,STOP的时候,自己的孩子要学会get the cues and STOP 我个人认为,孩子很小的时候(3岁之前,或者孩子能够比较清楚地表达NO但是对方不 能get it) 大人是可以进行适当地参与地,还可以教孩子walk away 如果自己的孩子性子比较弱,那就只能在家多练习了
NOOOOOOO. You are totally wrong. If you son does not like it, Step up and protect your son please.... what you need to say (and do) is: "Stop, he does not like it." You could say it gently or firmly, according to its first time offend or not.
1. 跟这个小哥哥说,“You might want to stop that. He could get hurt. And I don't think he likes it." 2. 对于你自己孩子喜欢的东西,可以对别人的小孩子说:"I know you like it, but its xxx's toys. So I'll have to ask xxx first." 和你自己小孩沟通以后, 如果你 的小孩子不愿借,就告诉这个小孩子说“I'm sorry but xx couldn't lend it to you . But you could always play with it next time when you come to our house."
其实家长的态度很重要。 我儿子有次回家跟我说,有个小朋友往他头上撒沙子。我和老公就教育他,要向那孩子 说Stop. If he does not, tell him you will tell yard duty or teacher. Even we will talk with his parents. My son did it。 That boy does not do it any more now. 还有一次,一个班里的小孩,无意中用玩具盒子拍桌子,可是拍在了我儿子胳膊上,拍 青了,我儿子哭了。我立刻对那个小孩说,我知道那是Accident,但是你也应该在拍桌 子看看有没有人才拍。老师也要求那个孩子道歉。后来我儿子还是和那个孩子很要好。
Concur. 我家孩子Pre-K老师在Social Study 教他们说 "Please stop it. I don't like it." 还发Email让父母在家里问孩子,帮孩子练习。 去年班上有个孩子老打人,打很多人。当时的老师不好,没什么措施。今年,那个孩子 再也没打过我儿子。 另外,可以教孩子说“That's mine.”之类的。中国的儒家思想在这儿行不通。
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【在 g*********9 的大作中提到】 : NOOOOOOO. : You are totally wrong. : If you son does not like it, : Step up and protect your son please.... : what you need to say (and do) is: : "Stop, he does not like it." : You could say it gently or firmly, according to its first time offend or not.