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Title: So Many Research Scientists, So Few Openings as Professors
By Gina Kolata
The United States is producing more research scientists than academia can
handle.
We have been told time and again that the United States needs more
scientists, but when it comes to some of the most desirable science jobs —
tenure-track professorships at universities, where much of the exciting work
is done — there is such a surplus of Ph.D.s that in the most popular
fields, like biomedicine, fewer than one in six has a chance of joining the
club in the foreseeable future.
While they try to get a foot in the door, many spend years after getting
their Ph.D. as poorly paid foot soldiers in a system that can afford to
exploit them. Even someone as brilliant as Emmanuelle Charpentier, who in
2015 became head of the Max Planck Institute for Infection Biology after a
momentous discovery in gene editing, spent the previous 25 years moving
through nine institutions in five countries.
The lure of a tenured job in academia is great — it means a secure,
prestigious position directing a lab that does cutting-edge experiments,
often carried out by underlings. Yet although many yearn for such jobs,
fewer than half of those who earn science or engineering doctorates end up
in the sort of academic positions that directly use what they were trained
for.
Others, ending up in industry, business or other professions, do interesting
work and earn lucrative salaries and can contribute enormously to society.
But by the time many give up on academia — four to six years or more for a
Ph.D., a decade or more as a postdoc, they are edging toward middle age,
having spent their youth in temporary low-paying positions getting highly
specialized training they do not need.
Now, as a new crop of graduate students receives Ph.D.s in science,
researchers worry over the future of some of these dedicated people; they’
re trained to be academics and are often led to believe that anything else
is an admission of failure.
Every year the market grows tighter, and federal money for research grants,
which support most of this research, remains flat. The journey of Dr.
Charpentier, says Alexander Ommaya, acting chief scientific officer at the
Association of American Medical Colleges, is not so unusual. “It happens,”
he said. Job opportunities, he says, “are limited.”
But wait. Don’t we need more trained scientists — the people whose
research can lead to new knowledge, new products, new cures for disease?
Aren’t some companies importing STEM workers?
Continue reading the main story
It depends on which field: biology (many more Ph.D.s than academic posts);
chemistry (same); computer science (few academic posts, but so much demand
in industry that companies import talent).
And it depends on which degree — bachelor’s, master’s, Ph.D. The toughest
road is the one stretching out in front of people with newly minted
doctorates.
The engineering school at M.I.T., for example, often gets 400 applicants for
every open assistant professor job, says Richard Larson, an operations
research professor there. Many, he adds, are “superstellar.”
One way to see what is happening is to look at a measure, called R0, used in
demography to show how a population is growing. If every baby girl in a
population grows up to have one baby girl on average, R0 is one, and the
population size will remain constant. If R0 is significantly greater than
one, the population can explode.
Dr. Larson and his colleagues calculated R0s for various science fields in
academia. There, R0 is the average number of Ph.D.s that a tenure-track
professor will graduate over the course of his or her career, with an R0 of
one meaning each professor is replaced by one new Ph.D. The highest R0 is in
environmental engineering, at 19.0. It is lower — 6.3 — in biological and
medical sciences combined, but that still means that for every new Ph.D.
who gets a tenure-track academic job, 5.3 will be shut out. In other words,
Dr. Larson said, 84 percent of new Ph.D.s in biomedicine “should be
pursuing other opportunities” — jobs in industry or elsewhere, for example
, that are not meant to lead to a professorship.
Biomedical sciences have been among the hardest hit. The field had an 83
percent increase in Ph.D.s between 1993 and 2013, to about 192,000 from 105,
000. But although most got jobs somewhere, only about half got jobs in
academia and only a quarter got tenure-track positions, which, for many, is
what all that training was preparing them for.
“It used to be that the majority who got a Ph.D. in the biological sciences
would go into an academic career,” said Dr. Michael Lauer, deputy director
for extramural research at the National Institutes of Health. “Now,” he
says, “that is very much the minority.”
Many spend years in a holding pattern as postdocs, which are temporary
positions, working for a professor and being paid from the professor’s
research grant. The average pay in 2016 for a beginning postdoc in the
biomedical sciences is around $44,000, a figure that, adjusted for inflation
, has not changed since 1998.
Why would any smart person work for so little? The goal for postdocs is to
get grants of their own eventually, but the success rate for those applying
has plunged.
In 2000, 32 percent of grant applications to the National Institutes of
Health resulted in an award. Now it is just 18 percent. And the average age
at which the lucky few actually get a grant has steadily increased — it is
now 42, up from 35 in 1980, which means biomedical scientists in academia
are essentially apprentices until middle age. And the tendency is for the
grants to go to scientists who already have them, making it harder and
harder to break into the system.
The National Institutes of Health recently created a grant specifically for
beginning scientists, but only about 20 percent of applications result in an
award. Most beginning scientists face five or more years as a postdoc,
which is not always conducive to original research.
“The incentive for the professor is to have the postdoc do as much work as
possible so the professor can get grants,” said Gary McDowell, executive
director of a newly formed group, The Future of Research, that supports
young scientists. “I have heard of postdocs going to orientation when a
faculty member said: ‘This is not a time to work on your independence. It
is a time for you to work for your professor to help him succeed.’”
Postdocs, he added, “are very much a form of cheap labor.” But young
scientists vie for the positions.
“People are desperate to work, desperate to get academic jobs,” said Dr.
McDowell, who had two postdoctoral positions before accepting his current
job.
At the same time, the number of tenure-track academic jobs is shrinking.
Some places, like M.I.T., have resisted the trend; it has had a steady
number of tenured faculty — 1,000 — for at least 30 years. But with more
people vying for those jobs when they open up and faculty members retiring
later and later, competition is fierce.
But some colleges — like the Boston University School of Medicine and
Morehouse School of Medicine — do not even offer tenure-track positions.
For those thinking of science as a career, said P. Kay Lund, director of the
division of biomedical research workers at the National Institutes of
Health, perhaps the best thing would be for a mentor to sit down with them
and have a heart-to-heart talk, preferably when they’re still
undergraduates.
“A lot of the time, there is not a lot of thought about it,” Dr. Lund said
. “People say, ‘I love science; I am great at it. I will get a Ph.D.’”
Link: http://www.nytimes.com/2016/07/14/upshot/so-many-research-scientists-so-few-openings-as-professors.html
Recent Comments
Spike Johan 16 minutes ago
Great article - thanks, but I believe that it left out a single key point
concerning the potential future for those pursuing PhD's in the...
Gabriel maldonado 53 minutes ago
Come to teaching where your technical skills and deep knowledge of your
subjects are desperately needed, and where instead of milling away...
Marilynn Donahue 1 hour ago
Thank you, Gina Kolata, for such a straightforward article. These are the
cold hard facts about life after a PhD. As an instructor in a...
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D*V
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我儿子已经三岁一个月了,一直用diapper. 其实从两岁半后我们就鼓励他坐马桶,但
是一直没有push他,自然毫无成效. 我的同事告诉我说,男孩子的potty training 要
无为而治。就是家里千万不要push,依靠学校。
我们早上和晚上吃过饭以后就会喊,坐罐罐了,坐罐罐同时给他读书,所以他很乐意。
但是从来没有一次poo或pee在马桶里。总是起来后就poo在尿布里了。
后来我们又用奖励措施,poo或pee在马桶里有雪糕吃。有一次真在学校里poo在马桶里
了,老师说他兴奋极了,回来就要雪糕吃。然后就再没有成功案例了。
他爸最近又想出了新举措,就是,poo在尿布里不能看电视。也没有成效,照样poo在尿
布里。而且小伙子很有志气,曾经那么爱看的电视也就看不到了。
他爸最近有些失去耐心,因为觉得他什么都明白,为什么就不照着做。他爸总是问他,
只要求你觉得要poo的时候喊爸爸或妈妈一声,为什么这都做不到?对他态度十分严厉
的训斥过两次,说他这么大了还要用尿布,说他是因为懒才poo在尿布里。我认为这些
词语是非常不适合对一个三岁的孩子说的。他爸爸其实非常爱孩子,在小事上对孩子比
我还细心,也很尊重他。但是也许是中年危机,也许是在硅谷工作的更种压力下,他现
在越来越容易发火,言词越来越有"verbal abuse"的倾向。经常很多小事情就会说很久
很久。我劳工的妈妈年轻时脾气不好,对小孩指责多于正面夸奖。我先生聪明勤奋,做
事负责,但是对人不够宽容,他从来都没有意识到自己的言语对身边人的伤害有多大。
几年前回他家,他大姐夫都说他大姐说小孩的话他听了都受不了。
说远了, 我能够明显感觉到我儿子最近的不高兴,有心事的样子。他一直是一个happy
kid.偶尔"欺负"小同学(主要是争玩具),不算特别听话,但是老师都说没有关系,
说他bright。他心地柔软,我给他换衣服,都说谢谢妈妈给我换衣服。讲故事说大会狼
吃小兔子,他不喜欢听这样的故事,自己编,说大会狼变好了,亲了小兔子一下。
他的学校条件很好,有两个小马桶,已经没有changing table了。老师也很好,非常
professional.e我们现在有点着急是因为他班上一半多同学都potty train了,而且他
又是年龄第二大的。我们能够感觉到he is under pressure. He used to like stay
at home, but now he wants to go to day care and I think it was because his
Dad yelling at him.
版上的有经验的爸爸妈妈能够给我们一些建议吗。
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w*t
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我个人没有经验,没有发言权,但在这版上学习了很多
今天星期天,大家忙,可能没时间回你,我就多嘴一下啊,呵呵
大家比较多的是说,1,孩子有ready了,你家3岁了,也拉在马桶里过了,应该有通常
意义的READY了
2,会说话了,有能力告诉大人
3,大多数人说要彻底脱尿片,连pull up也不要上,直接穿裤子
3-5天集中训练,20分钟叫一次上厕所,慢慢推至30,40,一个小时叫一次
有意外就让孩子明白尿裤子不舒服,有过几次他就明白了
宗旨是,不批评,不责备,多鼓励
以上是我学习得来,有错的欢迎纠正,眼瞅着我家就要训了,可是说话还不行

【在 D*V 的大作中提到】
: 我儿子已经三岁一个月了,一直用diapper. 其实从两岁半后我们就鼓励他坐马桶,但
: 是一直没有push他,自然毫无成效. 我的同事告诉我说,男孩子的potty training 要
: 无为而治。就是家里千万不要push,依靠学校。
: 我们早上和晚上吃过饭以后就会喊,坐罐罐了,坐罐罐同时给他读书,所以他很乐意。
: 但是从来没有一次poo或pee在马桶里。总是起来后就poo在尿布里了。
: 后来我们又用奖励措施,poo或pee在马桶里有雪糕吃。有一次真在学校里poo在马桶里
: 了,老师说他兴奋极了,回来就要雪糕吃。然后就再没有成功案例了。
: 他爸最近又想出了新举措,就是,poo在尿布里不能看电视。也没有成效,照样poo在尿
: 布里。而且小伙子很有志气,曾经那么爱看的电视也就看不到了。
: 他爸最近有些失去耐心,因为觉得他什么都明白,为什么就不照着做。他爸总是问他,

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az
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我们差不多大,根本没训练他,顺其自然,等他自己ready,我看了一些材料,都是说
他自己ready了就ready了,否则你逼他也没用,不着急。老师说我们physically ready
了,但是mentally 还没有 ready。在幼儿园他愿意坐potty,但是没有过成果,在家我
们没强迫他,就让他爸示范下,等

【在 D*V 的大作中提到】
: 我儿子已经三岁一个月了,一直用diapper. 其实从两岁半后我们就鼓励他坐马桶,但
: 是一直没有push他,自然毫无成效. 我的同事告诉我说,男孩子的potty training 要
: 无为而治。就是家里千万不要push,依靠学校。
: 我们早上和晚上吃过饭以后就会喊,坐罐罐了,坐罐罐同时给他读书,所以他很乐意。
: 但是从来没有一次poo或pee在马桶里。总是起来后就poo在尿布里了。
: 后来我们又用奖励措施,poo或pee在马桶里有雪糕吃。有一次真在学校里poo在马桶里
: 了,老师说他兴奋极了,回来就要雪糕吃。然后就再没有成功案例了。
: 他爸最近又想出了新举措,就是,poo在尿布里不能看电视。也没有成效,照样poo在尿
: 布里。而且小伙子很有志气,曾经那么爱看的电视也就看不到了。
: 他爸最近有些失去耐心,因为觉得他什么都明白,为什么就不照着做。他爸总是问他,

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n*y
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呃,我们3岁potty training,最后还是打屁股打出来的。当然我是很有爱的打的。
你家这个,我觉得可以考虑定时上poo。我们是每天睡觉前放potty上,不poo出东西不
让下来。不过我们这个有历史问题,不推荐。
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n*y
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又看一遍,忽然疑惑说你娃儿还穿尿片?既然要训,就跟娃儿说大孩子了,白天不穿尿
片了。'直接上小裤头。头几个星期事故会多,不过一般一个星期就好很多
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V*8
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别再给他穿尿布了,直接上内裤啊。我们两岁半开始potty train,一个月内搞定
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m*o
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我儿子根本没potty train。
这主要是婆婆的功劳。
daiper戴到几个月,白天就不给他戴了,晚上就放一个。
后来,晚上的那个也不放了。
我婆婆估摸着该拉屎撒尿了,就抱到厕所把,他也到听话。
后来,回国待了一年。再回来,两岁出头,上厕所都能自己搞定了。
我看day care那边,很多美国3岁多的小孩,都有diaper那边放着。
我儿子估计是day care那边最省事的小孩了。
2岁多到那边上day care,从来没带diaper到那边,也很少在那边拉
臭臭。一开始,就需要老师帮忙提裤子,现在自己都能搞定了。
不过,我儿子太调皮捣蛋,一个人带着他买菜都很困难,
就差拿绳子牵着了。
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q*m
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我们家的也是,男宝,3岁了,上厕所很是个问题。为此都不能升班。
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h*n
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我家三岁一个月.我们一直没有push,但经常碎碎念,但没有成效,仍然带着diaper,
马桶上坐半个小时没有,起来5分钟换上干净diaper就大的小的都有.最后放弃,打算
暑假回国再说.
2个星期前刚买了一大箱新的diaper,买回来两天,突然一天,他自己主动要求上马桶,
让他起来他还不起来,说马上就会poo poo出来,就突然开窍,没有任何思想准备. 然
后这个星期,自己脱diaper,自己上马桶,大的小的都是.然后自己拉裤子.今天出门,
要求找厕所,一时没有,让他尿在diaper里算了,他居然表现出十分地难为情.
现在我算是明白了,ready了就是ready了,不需要push太多,没人会穿着diaper上小学
的吧.

【在 D*V 的大作中提到】
: 我儿子已经三岁一个月了,一直用diapper. 其实从两岁半后我们就鼓励他坐马桶,但
: 是一直没有push他,自然毫无成效. 我的同事告诉我说,男孩子的potty training 要
: 无为而治。就是家里千万不要push,依靠学校。
: 我们早上和晚上吃过饭以后就会喊,坐罐罐了,坐罐罐同时给他读书,所以他很乐意。
: 但是从来没有一次poo或pee在马桶里。总是起来后就poo在尿布里了。
: 后来我们又用奖励措施,poo或pee在马桶里有雪糕吃。有一次真在学校里poo在马桶里
: 了,老师说他兴奋极了,回来就要雪糕吃。然后就再没有成功案例了。
: 他爸最近又想出了新举措,就是,poo在尿布里不能看电视。也没有成效,照样poo在尿
: 布里。而且小伙子很有志气,曾经那么爱看的电视也就看不到了。
: 他爸最近有些失去耐心,因为觉得他什么都明白,为什么就不照着做。他爸总是问他,

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h*y
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有点说不能Push,有的说就是Push才成功的。这个真的要看自己小孩是吃哪一套的。我
觉得通用规则是,家长一定要下定决心,不能带尿片Train。从下决心开始Train那天起
,怎么着的都要穿小内裤。
花三到四天最好在家集中Train。不停的问要不要去上厕所。

【在 D*V 的大作中提到】
: 我儿子已经三岁一个月了,一直用diapper. 其实从两岁半后我们就鼓励他坐马桶,但
: 是一直没有push他,自然毫无成效. 我的同事告诉我说,男孩子的potty training 要
: 无为而治。就是家里千万不要push,依靠学校。
: 我们早上和晚上吃过饭以后就会喊,坐罐罐了,坐罐罐同时给他读书,所以他很乐意。
: 但是从来没有一次poo或pee在马桶里。总是起来后就poo在尿布里了。
: 后来我们又用奖励措施,poo或pee在马桶里有雪糕吃。有一次真在学校里poo在马桶里
: 了,老师说他兴奋极了,回来就要雪糕吃。然后就再没有成功案例了。
: 他爸最近又想出了新举措,就是,poo在尿布里不能看电视。也没有成效,照样poo在尿
: 布里。而且小伙子很有志气,曾经那么爱看的电视也就看不到了。
: 他爸最近有些失去耐心,因为觉得他什么都明白,为什么就不照着做。他爸总是问他,

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D*V
12
祝贺祝贺,:)
谢谢分享。

【在 h****n 的大作中提到】
: 我家三岁一个月.我们一直没有push,但经常碎碎念,但没有成效,仍然带着diaper,
: 马桶上坐半个小时没有,起来5分钟换上干净diaper就大的小的都有.最后放弃,打算
: 暑假回国再说.
: 2个星期前刚买了一大箱新的diaper,买回来两天,突然一天,他自己主动要求上马桶,
: 让他起来他还不起来,说马上就会poo poo出来,就突然开窍,没有任何思想准备. 然
: 后这个星期,自己脱diaper,自己上马桶,大的小的都是.然后自己拉裤子.今天出门,
: 要求找厕所,一时没有,让他尿在diaper里算了,他居然表现出十分地难为情.
: 现在我算是明白了,ready了就是ready了,不需要push太多,没人会穿着diaper上小学
: 的吧.

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D*V
13
谢谢大家的经验分享。我儿子三天就train成功了。我那个做事认真严谨的老公提醒我
应该update一下大家 :). 是呀,把我们的经验也写出来给其他的爸爸妈妈参考,再一
次谢谢大家了。
准备
看到大家的回帖后,我们家的总设计师做出了总攻的计划,并决定利用随即而来的总统
日长周末来进行强化训练.接下来,我们一起带为为去JCP买了十条underwear,告诉为为
,你是大孩子了,要穿underwear了。为为的老师又建议我们采用"prize bowl"的方法。
Day 0 Friday
星期五的下午,他爸特地早下班,带为为去买了一大盒lego,都倒在一个透明大盆里,
向为为宣布“游戏”规则:
坐一次potty给一个lego,
自己主动坐potty多加一个,
pee在potty里给两个lego,
poo在potty里给五个。
然后他爸又把两块不用的旧地毯拿出来铺在地毯上。一场没有硝烟的战争开始了。
Potty Train 在星期五的晚上正式开始了。为为穿上了underwear. 塑料小potty就摆在
房间中间。他爸隔二十分钟就像留声机一样开始自动播放:“为为,要不要pee呀?要
不要poo呀?不能pee在小裤裤上呀!小裤裤就生气了”。 根据他爸的纪录:
6:23pm 穿上underwear
6:32pm pee在potty里
7:23pm pee在potty里
somewhere in bettwen,为为pee在裤裤上了。第一天就还算顺利的结束了。
Day 1 Saturday
星期六的早上,为为刚起床,他爸就急匆匆地进来给为为换上underwear. 新的一天开
始了。七点半和八点之间,为为又pee在裤裤上了。九点半为为要上足球课,这中间肯
定要pee在裤裤上。
算下来这一天一共有五次pee在裤裤上(他爸情绪失控两次)。但是这一天最大的好消息
是在下午的时候,为为poo在potty里了。为为开心极了,自己激动的大喊,我poo在罐
罐里了,我poo在罐罐里了。和妈妈一起蹦啊,跳啊,像过节一样。
Day 2 Sunday
为为还是pee在裤裤上两次,但是最大最大的好消息是下午的时候,为为主动的说,我
要poo了,并成功的poo在potty里。那一刻,妈妈就知道potty training 要成功了。
Day 3 Monday (President's day)
一切都变得非常smooth了,为为每次都能够主动pee和poo在potty里。结果晚上的时候
,为为要求看电视(因为以前说go potty才能看电视),结果看了没有十分钟,为为就
pee在裤裤里了。电视被无情的关上了。为为哭得柔肠寸断,还好为为still open to
other offers,妈妈给了两个cookie让为为心情好了一点。
Day 4 Tuesday
爸爸请假在家陪为为。妈妈不放心,走之前修书一封,告知要对为为耐心一点。这只是
人生的一小步,还有很长的路要总,永远要鼓励,爱与尊重。傍晚,妈妈check in
with 为为,爸爸回答,为为全部都pee和poo在potty里了。
Day 5 and Day 6
爸爸和妈妈又轮流在家一天陪为为。为为寂寞的说,我要上学,为什么大人上班的时候
不带我去上学。。。为为的奖品得的太多,他都有点不在意是不是每次都领奖了。周四
晚上为为的老师发来email关心为为的进展并表达了对为为的想念。为为的爹妈分别忙
着回email,向老师汇报喜讯。
为为就算是train成功了。但是晚上睡觉还有湿diaper,中午睡觉不用了。Kudos to his
Dad! :) 照片是为为得的那么多的奖品。

【在 D*V 的大作中提到】
: 我儿子已经三岁一个月了,一直用diapper. 其实从两岁半后我们就鼓励他坐马桶,但
: 是一直没有push他,自然毫无成效. 我的同事告诉我说,男孩子的potty training 要
: 无为而治。就是家里千万不要push,依靠学校。
: 我们早上和晚上吃过饭以后就会喊,坐罐罐了,坐罐罐同时给他读书,所以他很乐意。
: 但是从来没有一次poo或pee在马桶里。总是起来后就poo在尿布里了。
: 后来我们又用奖励措施,poo或pee在马桶里有雪糕吃。有一次真在学校里poo在马桶里
: 了,老师说他兴奋极了,回来就要雪糕吃。然后就再没有成功案例了。
: 他爸最近又想出了新举措,就是,poo在尿布里不能看电视。也没有成效,照样poo在尿
: 布里。而且小伙子很有志气,曾经那么爱看的电视也就看不到了。
: 他爸最近有些失去耐心,因为觉得他什么都明白,为什么就不照着做。他爸总是问他,

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