关于娃活动多，高中睡的太晚，巴菲特说过一句话, 乔布斯说过类似的话

Warren Buffett Says This 1 Simple Habit Separates Successful People From Everyone Else.
"The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything." 
大多数那些课外活动都是浪费时间的
Steve Jobs Agreed. It’s About Focus. Jobs prophetically supported this notion of saying no at an Apple Worldwide Developers Conference in 1997. Here's what he said: "People think focus means saying yes to the thing you've got to focus on. But that's not what it means at all. It means saying no to the hundred other good ideas that there are. You have to pick carefully. I'm actually as proud of the things we haven't done as the things I have done. Innovation is saying no to 1,000 things."
They say no to overworking. While it's true some successful people and many entrepreneurs put in 60 to 80 hours per week, very successful people aren't workaholics who neglect self-care and family. They recognize that if they can't take care of themselves, everything else suffers.

孩子中学多explore一下才知道自己喜欢什么，跟他们说的不太一样吧，再说高中孩子想干什么不想干什么，家长已经不太管得着了，孩子自己figure out好了。

shzbc 发表于 2024-10-18 17:52
孩子中学多explore一下才知道自己喜欢什么，跟他们说的不太一样吧，再说高中孩子想干什么不想干什么，家长已经不太管得着了，孩子自己figure out好了。

Not really. 大部分是跟屁虫

不同意，我看到的很多over achiever 做的事情就是比普通人多很多

This is BS. Before they became successful, they went extra mile to get to where they are. Only putting minimal hours and expect to be successful is essential impossible unless you are way too lucky!

jobs 自己不就是工作狂吗？ 还逼下属加班才有一段时间被赶出board了。 那些特别有成就的人， 大多数都精力旺盛， 每天工作十几个小时也不累的。

这话适用于已经找到目标和方向的成年人，对还处在人生探索阶段的高中生就不一定了。teenager的优势就在于有大把的时间可以“浪费”，可以通过不断的尝试和体验，找到自己的passion

lz可以看看关于Jobs的纪录片，真工作狂人

Thank you! You make me feel so much better about my son saying no to almost everything except computer games, tvs and YouTube.

高中生这么累是不是因为资本家想看到他们身上的牛马力？

多探索， 多见识才有思想；才有判断力去对无意义的事说No。

他们这两个人估计不说no一周工作200个小时都不够。公司里谁都想要他们的时间。

The2ndLaw 发表于 2024-10-18 19:09
高中生这么累是不是因为资本家想看到他们身上的牛马力？

你得到了

关键词：successful, really successful 大部分普人loser自己能有一个idea给successful的人去pitch就不错了，没有1000ideas thrown at you to choose from

华人真是自虐啊，挣着不到巴菲特零头的收入，用着巴菲特自己都不记得那年说过的话来洗脑自己，信吧，千万别不信了，你按他说的做你能跟他一样牛。

我家娃对我大部分要求都say no! 原来是really successful people!😅

MajiaZ 发表于 2024-10-19 14:54
很多东西到高中才开始explore，还没试过的你怎么知道没兴趣？除非从小你让孩子学各种，早早开始卷。

兴趣爱好和特长这些东西在小学就能表现出来了。这个世界上本来就是99%都是普通人。只是大家不愿意承认而已

高中还在探索的就说明是没啥兴趣爱好的普通人。不是所有人都有特长和兴趣爱好的
Goodlife2017 发表于 2024-10-19 14:31

你是想说天赋吧？兴趣爱好在任何年龄都可以发现并培养的啊。

Goodlife2017 发表于 2024-10-19 15:09
兴趣爱好和特长这些东西在小学就能表现出来了。这个世界上本来就是99%都是普通人。只是大家不愿意承认而已

对于有条件的家庭可以从小就观察孩子的一举一动天赋爱好，并加以培养。更多的是孩子的天赋家人看到却没有办法给很多机会去学习。这样的孩子大一点会自己往那个方向走，或者放弃

dodgers 发表于 2024-10-18 17:45
Warren Buffett Says This 1 Simple Habit Separates Successful People From Everyone Else.
"The difference between successful people and really successful people is that really successful people say no to almost everything." 
大多数那些课外活动都是浪费时间的
Steve Jobs Agreed. It’s About Focus. Jobs prophetically supported this notion of saying no at an Apple Worldwide Developers Conference in 1997. Here's what he said: "People think focus means saying yes to the thing you've got to focus on. But that's not what it means at all. It means saying no to the hundred other good ideas that there are. You have to pick carefully. I'm actually as proud of the things we haven't done as the things I have done. Innovation is saying no to 1,000 things."
They say no to overworking. While it's true some successful people and many entrepreneurs put in 60 to 80 hours per week, very successful people aren't workaholics who neglect self-care and family. They recognize that if they can't take care of themselves, everything else suffers.

大多数那些课外活动都是浪费时间的
顶这一句
课外活动就挖掘兴趣的方法，含金汤匙出生的孩子不愁吃穿不为生活工作，可以玩一辈子。大多数人是需要工作养家的，学习的目的也是以后具备工作的技能，数理化也好技工类也好
等有一天课外班学习的内容可以养家糊口了，比如救生员和游泳教练画画音乐足球等等不需要当明星级别也能赚钱如中产甚至到华人贫困线，课外班也不是那么浪费。可惜目前的就业市场还没能全面到人人中产富足

兴趣爱好和特长这些东西在小学就能表现出来了。这个世界上本来就是99%都是普通人。只是大家不愿意承认而已
Goodlife2017 发表于 2024-10-19 15:09

赞同的。古人说三岁看老，诚不我欺。
美国兴趣爱好大行其道，是因为本质是为资本的服务，有钱人玩的起可以玩一辈子，但推行至全民兴趣爱好，甚至学校以此影响课程设置，更压缩其他学科的时间，还不包括各种政治正确文化类内容的占用时间。所以现在孩子们在学校很忙但无法集中学好任何东西，只能全面的蜻蜓点水