任何时候都不应该责怪受害者。回复：即使是妓女，也有权利说不。
任何时候都不应该责怪受害者, 这是个
原则问题。（点击“
原则问题”，可以看到美国专家学者早在上世纪40年代就将“责怪受害者”这种行为批判成一种及其恶劣的“法西斯行为”－－
In 1947 Theodor W. Adorno defined what would be later called "blaming the victim," as "one of the most sinister features of the Fascist character"。）
人家喝酒喝醉了，不是遭受强奸的借口。强奸在任何情况下都是犯罪。
在女孩被强奸这个事情里，女孩无过错。错的是强奸犯，他们是犯罪。
你可以在家教育孩子要注意人身安全，但是
一旦出了案件，人已经成为受害者，讨论受害人的责任就成了马后炮。找出的受害人的“错误”就相当于给罪犯以开脱的借口。仔细想想吧：
喝个酒喝醉了，就活该遭强奸？？这简直是强盗逻辑。
如果认为受害人因为喝酒喝醉了，是她自己出的错，因而遭受强奸就活该，那么这个逻辑与穆斯林文化里的“荣誉杀人”异曲同工。女性穿著暴露了就是错，未经父母许可自由恋爱了就是错，未婚先孕了就是错，就活该被强奸被杀害。这个逻辑有谁会接受吗？
昨天我贴了一个硅谷当地报纸报道的palo alto 一所高中女生跟男友break up 后遭暴力的文章， 我在comment 里提到经常提醒自己的孩子找朋友要找emotionally stable 的，以后配偶也一样，希望能找脾气也好的。结果有家长回帖意思就是男人不坏，女人不爱。不管家里有儿子还是女儿，父母有这种想法，我觉得对孩子都是非常危险的影响。
楼下那个硅谷女孩遭强奸后自杀的帖子，也有人出来指点女孩家庭。真是太过分了。这个故事是这么发生的。死者去一个女友家玩（女友是她同学）。周末，女友父母去了napa, 不在家。所以两人偷偷喝了酒。想想我们当年在中国这个年龄，偷喝酒的事太正常了。结果死者喝醉了，不舒服，就去女友的房间睡了。后来女友招来其他同学party, 才出了那几个小畜生干出那种事。整个过程中女孩都是不知道的。她是醒来后才知道怎么回事，她身上被画了“到此一游”。死者是100%的受害者，this has nothing to do with political correctness!
当时只有她们俩。party 发生在她不省人事之后。
另外她没有酒后驾车，而是去了女友房价休息。
所有这些都不足以justify 任何对她的攻击。
你的孩子可能还小，如果你真以为美国孩子21岁前都滴酒不沾，
那就太天真了。高中生，大学生都一样。老中，
老美都一样。能教育的是不要酒后开车。只要喝了，
就叫ride,出租，父母去接。no questions asked.
喝酒跟后面发生的事是完全不同的性质。
为被害者 Audrie Pott 请愿 Change.com （
A tragic incident in Senate District 15 has prompted the introduction of SB 838. Audrie Pott, a young woman with a promising life ahead of her, was brutally raped at a high school party while in a defenseless state. The three assailants took pictures of the assault in progress and shared those pictures in an attempt to shame and bully Audrie at school. Unfortunately, just 8 days after the pictures emerged, Audrie took her own life. Since this time, the perpetrators have admitted their crimes, their identities were concealed and a criminal sentence was imposed of only 30 and 45 days of incarceration due to their juvenile status.
A tragic incident in Senate District 15 has prompted the introduction of SB 838. Audrie Pott, a young woman with a promising life ahead of her, was brutally raped at a high school party while in a defenseless state. The three assailants took pictures of the assault in progress and shared those pictures in an attempt to shame and bully Audrie at school. Unfortunately, just 8 days after the pictures emerged, Audrie took her own life. Since this time, the perpetrators have admitted their crimes, their identities were concealed and a criminal sentence was imposed of only 30 and 45 days of incarceration due to their juvenile status.