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Starting a business# Midlife - 人到中年

t*92020-07-16 07:07

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立业，指建树功业；建立事业；成家立业等。汉荀悦《（汉纪）序》：“斯皆明王贤
臣命世立业。”《西游记》第三七回：“等我与他辨个真假，想那妖魔，棍到处，立业
成功。” 鲁迅《书信集·致曹靖华》：“此地文坛，依然乌烟瘴气，想乘这次风潮，
成名立业者多，故清涤甚难。”

t*92020-07-16 07:07

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--David Burns
Let's assume you've decided that it's not to your advantage to link your
work and your worth, and you also admit that achievement will not reliably
bring you love, respect, or happiness. You may still feel convinced that on
some level, people who achieve a lot are somehow better than others.

t*92020-07-16 07:07

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作者首先质疑，是否achiever等于being worthwhile。但是他还是如曹雪芹一般，无法
说服大众为何贾宝玉的落魄潦倒，就会要好过兰桂齐芳。
作者询问，为何要将worth与achievement对等，为何不能worth=worth，achievement=
achievement。

t*92020-07-16 07:07

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为了以dynamite的方式来shatter our minds，作者Dr.Burns邀请读者扮演他的高中同
学（现为老师），来一场触及心灵的对话。作者对自己的态度表达了抱歉。
作者：Bob，你还好吗？
同学：还好，David，你还好吗。
作者：太好了，高中一别经年，你怎么样啦？
同学：还不错。我结婚了，我在Parks高中教书，我有了两个孩子，一切都棒极了。
作者：Gee，听到这些很遗憾。我可比你混得好多了。
同学：怎么回事？
作者：我去读了研究生，我，就是和你说话的这个人，我拿到了我的博士学位。我的事
业很成功。我赚了好多好多钱。事实上，我现在是城里数一数二的有钱人了。I've
achieved a great deal, more than you by a long shot. 我并不想侮辱你或者什么
的，但我想，这意味着，I'm a lot better person than you, huh?
同学: Well, gee, Dave, 我不知道说什么好。没和你对话之前，我还挺傻乐傻乐的呢。
作者：我明白你这种感觉。你被震撼得失去语言能力了。但是，你最好还是面对事实。
I've got what it takes, and you don't。但是我很高兴，你过得很开心。Mediocre,
average people are entitled to a little happiness too. After all, I
certainly don't begrudge you a few crumbs from the banquet table. 但是，你没
在自己的人生多做点事，实在是太糟糕了。
同学：Dave，你好像变了一个人一样。你高中的时候，是那么好的一个人。我感觉你不
再like me了（这个like，翻译成喜欢有点怪异）。
作者：哦不，我们还可以做朋友的，只要你肯承认，你是低于我的，第二等级的人。但
是我只是想提醒你，你从此需要仰视我，而我呢，也可以俯视你，因为我比你更加
worthwhile。这来自于我们共同的假设，worth equals achievement. 记得你珍视的这
个观点了吗？I've achieved more, so I'm worth more.
同学：Dave，遇到你真糟糕，我希望我不会很快再遇见你。和你聊天真扫兴。再见！
作者说，That dialogue cools most people off very quickly because it
illustrates how the inferior-superior system follows logically from equating
your worth with your achievement.
作者说，他希望借用这样一个假想的对话来说明，这样的value评价系统有多么常见，
给人何种感受。

t*92020-07-16 07:07

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作者接着玩这个游戏。作者邀请读者扮演Cosmopolitan的主编，Helen Brown,而他自己
这一次是高中老师。对话很长，我就不翻译了。关于society是否value achiever more
等等。

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Persecutor: You are not as hardworking or as successful as most of your
friends. You're lazy and no good.
You: This means I'm less ambitious and hardworking. I may even be less
talented, but how does it follow that I'm "lazy and no good"?

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Persecutor: You're not worth much because you're not outstanding in anything.
You: I agree that I don't hold a single world championship. I'm not even
second best at anything. In fact, at most things I'm pretty much average.
How does it follow that I'm not worth much?

t*92020-07-16 07:07

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下面两条读起来不太让人舒服。FYI.
Persecutor: You're not popular, you don't even have many close friends, and
no one cares about you much. You have no family and not even any casual
lovers. So you're a loser. You're an inadequate person. There's obviously
something wrong with you. You're worthless.
You: It's true I have no lover at this time, and there are just a few
friends I feel close to. How many do I need to be an "adequate person"? Four
? Eleven? If I'm not popular, it may be that I'm relatively unskilled
socially, and I may have to work harder at this. But how does it follow that
I'm a "loser"? Why am I worthless?

t*92020-07-16 07:07

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另外一条省略了。看看Dr. Burns写的这段对话，很好玩。

l*22020-07-16 07:07

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对话挺有意思。读完了。

t*92020-07-16 07:07

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You: Burns, you're worthless!
David: Of course I'm worthless. I fully agree. I realize that there is
nothing about me that makes me "worthy". Love, approval, and achievement can
't give me any "worth", so I'll accept the FACT that I have none! Should
this be a problem for me? Is something bad going to happen now?
You: Well, you must be miserable. You're just "no good".
David: Assuming I am "no good", so what? What specifically do I have to be
miserable about? Does being "worthless" put me at a disadvantage in some way?
You: Well, how can you respect yourself? How could anyone? You're just a
scum!
David: You may think I'm a scum, but I do respect myself, and so do lots of
other people. I see no valid reason not to respect myself. You may not
respect me, but I don't see that as a problem.
You: But worthless people can NOT be happy or have any fun. You're supposed
to be depressed and despicable. MY PANEL OF EXPERTS met and determined that
you're a total zero.
David: If I'm really that bad off, it's reassuring because now I have
nothing to lose. I can live my life fearlessly. Furthermore, I am happy and
I am having fun, so being a total zero cannot be bad. My motto is -
Worthless is wonderful. In fact, I'm thinking of having a T-shirt made up
like that. Apparently you're worthwhile, whereas I'm not. What good does
this "worth" do you? Does it make you better than people like me, or what?

t*92020-07-16 07:07

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接着作者谈到，如果放弃成功可以增加个人价值的观念，那么为什么还要努力工作，追
求achievement？
What is the purpose and meaning of life without a concept of worth?
今天就抄到这里。我来喊小乐回家吃饭了。