updated# Parenting - 为人父母
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好吧，大家的建议我都虚心听取了。好吧，我包子了，我想下次见到他们，再主动一下
道歉示好，毕竟孩子在一个游泳班里。冤家宜解不宜结。如果人家不理我，以后就把他
们当空气吧。
至于帖子中途改写英文，是我写忘了，又懒的改。
其实是一件小事，主要我真心不愿和人公开冲突，没有经验，还要碰见他们，真心尴尬
不知如何处理最好。
我每星期天带两岁半的女儿和四岁半的儿子去上游泳课。每次一个约50岁的白男和一个
约40多的亚女也带着他们两个儿子在那。大儿子约7岁，小儿子约5岁，在我儿子的班。
我一般会和别的父母寒暄，但这个爸爸感觉不友好，我就妹和他们讲过话。
我们这上课的孩子和家庭很多，但只有两个family locker room. 每一个都有一个带锁
的里间，是shower, toilet and sink, 外间是change area with change table. 因为
孩子家庭多，我见到过父母share里外间。一家用完shower， 到外间来,让另一家用里
间。应为冬天小孩子穿湿泳衣都比较冷。
上星期天，这一家用完里间， 在外间帮孩子换衣，我要求用里间。 这个爸爸满脸的不
高兴，不愿意。我的孩子已经等了近20多分钟，一直喊着太冷，我就不顾他的脸色和反
对，用了里间。
今天我特意早和孩子出水，到了门口，但见一个黑人爸爸带着一个女儿等在那了。我敲
了一个family locker room, 那个50岁的白男yes了一声。我带着孩子等着。过了一会
，40多的亚女带着儿子朝房间走去。原来，那个男的只是先占上房间，我们在外面等，
他在里面等他老婆。
我很不高兴他们这样做。就扭头和我的儿子说，“他们这一家人很讨厌，真烦人，又会
很慢，我们不要等他们了。” 那个女的代他的儿子进去，又自己出来，对我大声指责
，用英文对我说”I know what you said. That's not nice at all. what you
said is not nice!"． then she left me there, went back into the locker room
.
i went back to the door and said at the door, "I am sorry for that. I didn'
t know you would understand Chinese. I am sorry for that, but I came with my
kids before you, and your husband was occupying the room here without using
it. another family and my family can't use it."
I left for the second locker room and wait there with my two kids. Then the
husband came out to me in anger, yelled at me, "what's your problem!?!"
I said we came before your wife and kids, you were in the room not using the
room, but waiting for them, but we came before your wife and kids.
He said "what's the difference? remember last weekend, we let you share the
room with us?"
I said "well, that's because I insisted, forced to share. and I thanked you
for that. I can thank you again for that today!"
He left very angrily.
After I dressed up my kids and took them to the front desk. I asked the
receptionist if people can just wait inside the locker room but not use it,
while two families are waiting to use it. She said, no they should not wait
inside the locker room.
I also said if a dad can bring his two school age boys to men's locker room,
maybe it's better to do that, because a single parent often needs to use
the family locker room for mixed gender or opposite gender of kids. it's
more convenient for a dad to bring 5 and 7 years old boy to men's locker
room, than a mom to bring a three years old girl and 5 years old boy to
women's locker room, or maybe even older boys to women's locker room. She
said yes, she agrees.
Now the problem is that we got into this open fight in front of my kids.
next Sunday, it will be classes again, it will be awkward. What should I do
, to react, to treat this family? his younger son will be in the same class
as my son and it's a small swimming class, only 3 or 4 kids each time. I
hate to argue and fight with people, somehow I did. but it makes very
uncomfortable today. of course They think they are right, and I am the evil
one.
my daughter is two and half, so I have to stay in water with her because she
is in a parent-and-me class. my son is in the same class as their younger
son. parents don't need to be in water if kids are older than 3, so they don
't get into water, they just sit there and watch their kids.
What do yo guys think? Did I do anything wrong? what should I do? how
should I get along with them next time when I see them in the class?
好吧，大家的建议我都虚心听取了。好吧，我包子了，我想下次见到他们，再主动一下
道歉示好，毕竟孩子在一个游泳班里。冤家宜解不宜结。如果人家不理我，以后就把他
们当空气吧。
至于帖子中途改写英文，是我写忘了，又懒的改。
其实是一件小事，主要我真心不愿和人公开冲突，没有经验，还要碰见他们，真心尴尬
不知如何处理最好。
我每星期天带两岁半的女儿和四岁半的儿子去上游泳课。每次一个约50岁的白男和一个
约40多的亚女也带着他们两个儿子在那。大儿子约7岁，小儿子约5岁，在我儿子的班。
我一般会和别的父母寒暄，但这个爸爸感觉不友好，我就妹和他们讲过话。
我们这上课的孩子和家庭很多，但只有两个family locker room. 每一个都有一个带锁
的里间，是shower, toilet and sink, 外间是change area with change table. 因为
孩子家庭多，我见到过父母share里外间。一家用完shower， 到外间来,让另一家用里
间。应为冬天小孩子穿湿泳衣都比较冷。
上星期天，这一家用完里间， 在外间帮孩子换衣，我要求用里间。 这个爸爸满脸的不
高兴，不愿意。我的孩子已经等了近20多分钟，一直喊着太冷，我就不顾他的脸色和反
对，用了里间。
今天我特意早和孩子出水，到了门口，但见一个黑人爸爸带着一个女儿等在那了。我敲
了一个family locker room, 那个50岁的白男yes了一声。我带着孩子等着。过了一会
，40多的亚女带着儿子朝房间走去。原来，那个男的只是先占上房间，我们在外面等，
他在里面等他老婆。
我很不高兴他们这样做。就扭头和我的儿子说，“他们这一家人很讨厌，真烦人，又会
很慢，我们不要等他们了。” 那个女的代他的儿子进去，又自己出来，对我大声指责
，用英文对我说”I know what you said. That's not nice at all. what you
said is not nice!"． then she left me there, went back into the locker room
.
i went back to the door and said at the door, "I am sorry for that. I didn'
t know you would understand Chinese. I am sorry for that, but I came with my
kids before you, and your husband was occupying the room here without using
it. another family and my family can't use it."
I left for the second locker room and wait there with my two kids. Then the
husband came out to me in anger, yelled at me, "what's your problem!?!"
I said we came before your wife and kids, you were in the room not using the
room, but waiting for them, but we came before your wife and kids.
He said "what's the difference? remember last weekend, we let you share the
room with us?"
I said "well, that's because I insisted, forced to share. and I thanked you
for that. I can thank you again for that today!"
He left very angrily.
After I dressed up my kids and took them to the front desk. I asked the
receptionist if people can just wait inside the locker room but not use it,
while two families are waiting to use it. She said, no they should not wait
inside the locker room.
I also said if a dad can bring his two school age boys to men's locker room,
maybe it's better to do that, because a single parent often needs to use
the family locker room for mixed gender or opposite gender of kids. it's
more convenient for a dad to bring 5 and 7 years old boy to men's locker
room, than a mom to bring a three years old girl and 5 years old boy to
women's locker room, or maybe even older boys to women's locker room. She
said yes, she agrees.
Now the problem is that we got into this open fight in front of my kids.
next Sunday, it will be classes again, it will be awkward. What should I do
, to react, to treat this family? his younger son will be in the same class
as my son and it's a small swimming class, only 3 or 4 kids each time. I
hate to argue and fight with people, somehow I did. but it makes very
uncomfortable today. of course They think they are right, and I am the evil
one.
my daughter is two and half, so I have to stay in water with her because she
is in a parent-and-me class. my son is in the same class as their younger
son. parents don't need to be in water if kids are older than 3, so they don
't get into water, they just sit there and watch their kids.
What do yo guys think? Did I do anything wrong? what should I do? how
should I get along with them next time when I see them in the class?
