出来乍到，看到不少谈论孩子天才的帖子，好像大家都很在意自己孩子是不是天才，而
且从他们很小就是。
说说我的看法。
Success usually depends a lot on one's talent, but education shouldn't be.
1. Talent is usually born. Education is about what to do after birth.
Finding a talent is important, but the hard part and essence of post-birth
education is about effort. If you have talent, great, how do you develop it
with efforts / hardwork? If you don't have a a talent, then all the more
reason hard work is needed.
2. If we as parents focus too much on praising their talents, we send a
signal to them: If you are not talented like some other kid, you are
inferior. But most kids are not talented, this message will actual deter
their confidence because they are not talented?
3. If a kid does have talent, emphasis on talent tells them they are great
because of their talents. What about areas that they are not talented? What
if they need to compete with someone even more talented? Should they give up?
Therefore, I think focusing on efforts is much more important. We try to
find their talents if any. If none, no problem. But no matter what, they
need to learn to work hard. Success may or may not come from talents (
talents make success easier), but no success can come without hardwork. We
cannot give them talents after they are born already, but we can give them a
habit of hardwork.
BTW, I learned these from the book "Mindset", and also my personal
experiences. Really good book.
没有要教育和说服的目的。大家都是成熟的家长，有成熟的人生观和教育观。我只是一
家之言，从多年的经验和一些阅读中总结而来，目的是抛砖引玉，给自己的教育观一些
debate to get different perspectives，同时也希望能给其他家长们一些参考。
中文太慢，我就中英混搭了。
