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w*r2011-01-03 08:01

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【以下文字转载自 Joke 讨论区】
发信人: xiaopo (po), 信区: Joke
标题: 怎样省钱在农村建别墅 (多图)
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Wed Oct 2 00:29:23 2013, 美东)
2002年至2009年，从农村到城里做7年伪白领，7年的10万伪白领积蓄在万恶股市呆了6
个月，以为可以变成14、5万做个首付做个城市人。没想到6个月后变成了2万，老爸又
天天追问什么时候买楼，说家里的泥砖房下雨都不敢住了。急呀，只好赶回家和老爸说
：房子我看好了，只是没到交款时，把家里的泥房扒了重建一个吧，其实是看上老爸那
8万的棺材款了。话说7年伪白领，也是在地产公司干活，就拿公司的设计图改改建一
个吧。
穷苦的屌丝要建别墅，首要考虑的当然就是资金。要想建成白富贵别野就更难了，不过
这难为了屌丝，屌丝的7年伪白领正是在房地产公司干活，就拿公司一个户型改改照做
就好了。宅基地平面图
先上个户型图吧
穷屌丝对不起老爸老妈，让你在这史上最差的工棚住上一年半载了
穷屌丝讲究的就一个节省，别太宽，别太深，刚刚好就才是真的好。
在农村，施工队伍没有会看施工图的，说要看效果图做，屌丝只好求人帮做个建模效果
图了，最主要是不花钱。正面
侧面
后面
浇筑基础前要搞形式：行砖脚。客家话，就是拜过主宗后，在四个角上放上八块砖，确
定房子的方位，求各路神仙保佑出入平安，五谷丰登。
老爸老妈临时的家，农村现在其实就剩下老人和清新的空气了。
怎样才能省钱呢，屌丝自有屌丝的办法绝招一：使用童工，绝对的童工，哦，漏点了，
不好意思。
绝招二：板筋能用8的，绝对不用10，要用10的，打死也不用12。
绝招三：柱筋和圈梁都是用12的。那天，天气极好，和老爸到5公里外的小镇上买钢筋
，我说要12的柱筋和圈梁铁，钢筋店的老板和工仔都狂笑，店老板说“我买了十年的铁
，从来没剪过12的柱筋和圈梁铁”。
庆祝首层顺利完工，屌丝用自家种的菜招待辛苦的工人师傅，省钱吧。
这是成本图
第二层顺利完工，屌丝上去一看，感觉层高不对，一问老爸，老爸回答到：“你的设计
不合风水3米层高对应的砖轮（砖的层数）败财，所我给增高到3米4。”还好，不是增
到3.8,楼梯就无法走了。门口的大公鸡是给老婆坐月子养的
屌丝省钱的办法还有很多的，模板、支撑都是自产自制。只是辛苦老爸了。白富美别墅
当然少不了大气的落地大窗。
西北面
东北面
屌丝造的白富美别野要让村人有从没见过的感觉，钱又少，怎么办，大脑突然闪出“白
富美的百折裙”，线条，绝对线条，六重线条。前无古人，后有屌丝。
第一层计算砖时没扣除门窗面积，在此修正。屌丝的这个成本价只是个估算，白富美不
要太计教哟。
这年冬天来得特别早，外面临时家太冷，老爸老妈年纪也大了，所以就搬回一楼住上了。
就这样，三层没封顶就过年了。这年年关，屌丝的老婆就要生儿子了，所以没能回家过
年，二老住没有关起门的白富美别野迎来新年。
老婆马上就要生了，我回去搂老妈上来照顾老婆，老舅过来做客。屌丝的别野是错层设
计，这张照片是从客厅向餐厅方向拍的。
后来老姐也过来，我正是这个年前失业，也呆在出租房里。就这样，四个大人照顾一个
6.9斤的小盘友，现代人呀，无语。听老爸说，当年老妈生我时，他还天天在外面做瓦
工。
清明节回去扫墓时，别野封顶大吉
前面这个就是当年老爸老妈的住所呀。屌丝落泪中……，心想一定要争大钱给老爸住上
真正的白富美别野。这一年，我开始去找工程干，不再想那伪白领。
屌丝就是屌丝，十万不到点就把白富美别墅主体建成。跪拜吧
转眼半年又过去了，已经进入9月份，南方天的雨水也少很多，屌丝也在半年内身兼三
职，赚了点小米，决定进行初步装修，先道是安装露台护拦，人家说要100元/米，老爸
心痛，就自己干了。主材料不贵，9元/个。
现在，屌丝就是用这个给大家直接的的哟。在山村，只有爬到最高的楼顶才有一点点信
号可以连上网
屌丝想在年前把外墙搞好，入住过年，年后找到米，再继续搞内装修。
九月的天，正是野花和的时候。这是不是特别有野趣。
很又过了4个月，又是一年的年关到呀，屌丝苦于无米，白富美别野进展慢，老爸意见
也越来越大，说当初听他的，建国字楼，早就装修好了。看来又这一年又得在工地一样
的家过新年了。
白富美别野北面
过年杀的肥鸡呀，你的日子也不多了，对不起呀。
又一年要过去了，总结一下吧：这年，主体封顶，外墙完50%工作。没有实现最终目标。
屋面瓦、外墙漆完成后，有几分白富美的感觉了。
顶上那玩意就是一水塔，因屌丝老家离城市远，没有自来水，只能每家打井，喝自来水
，但又地下十来米就是岩石层，所以一直喝的都是地表水，这几年来，速生桉种的多了
，水质越来越差基本不敢喝这水了，一直想打一个50米深水井，让全村人享用，但苦于
米没赚到多少。
这地里的是刚刚长出来的苜蓿苗。屌丝村其实没有什么经济作物，主要的就是几棵花生
和几片苜蓿了，所以太多数年轻人都出外打工，村上只剩下十几个老人和十几个小孩了
开工至此是第584天，很多就两年了，总花费约15万元，完成主体到外墙（含内墙漆部
分）。快两年来本屌丝收入也翻番，达到年入7-8万元。这才是开春不久嘛，争取完工
过新年
屌丝的白富美别野露台虽然风景好，但露台主要功能还是用来晒农家作物的
猜得出这是什么东东吗，看下图吧
晒黄瓜切片
内部装修：楼梯部位采用花岗岩大理石，这是从三楼往二楼方向的照片，不做伪白领两
年，本屌丝手头反而宽松些，当然内部装修就讲究些了。
屌丝楼梯扶手一直想做木头的，但没有施工队伍，最后只能做不锈钢又是荔枝熟，再
过三个月就两整年了，现在白富美就差楼梯扶手、灯光家具没到位了。。
全面完工之——局部篇1、大门，尺寸很讲究，必须按风水尺寸定，装修图中有明确的
标注
2、落地大窗——嚎野的标志
3、腰线——你的风采如此的迷人
全面完工之——室内篇1、站在楼梯往客厅看
2、从客厅往餐厅看（特别强调：屌丝花完最后一分钱了，那餐桌还没赚到米买）
3、从三楼一房间向北看
4、同一房间看南看：满窗春色。其实是前天拍的

M*t2011-01-03 08:01

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This is an interesting article. Would like to share with readers who are
looking for a Happy MArriage.
Happy New Year to every beautiful single!!! :)
Sustainable Love
The Happy Marriage Is the ‘Me’ Marriage
By TARA PARKER-POPE
Published: December 31, 2010
A lasting marriage does not always signal a happy marriage. Plenty of
miserable couples have stayed together for children, religion or other
practical reasons.
But for many couples, it’s just not enough to stay together. They want a
relationship that is meaningful and satisfying. In short, they want a
sustainable marriage.
“The things that make a marriage last have more to do with communication
skills, mental health, social support, stress — those are the things that
allow it to last or not,” says Arthur Aron, a psychology professor who
directs the Interpersonal Relationships Laboratory at the State University
of New York at Stony Brook. “But those things don’t necessarily make it
meaningful or enjoyable or sustaining to the individual.”
The notion that the best marriages are those that bring satisfaction to the
individual may seem counterintuitive. After all, isn’t marriage supposed to
be about putting the relationship first?
Not anymore. For centuries, marriage was viewed as an economic and social
institution, and the emotional and intellectual needs of the spouses were
secondary to the survival of the marriage itself. But in modern
relationships, people are looking for a partnership, and they want partners
who make their lives more interesting.
Caryl Rusbult, a researcher at Vrije University in Amsterdam who died last
January, called it the “Michelangelo effect,” referring to the manner in
which close partners “sculpt” each other in ways that help each of them
attain valued goals.
Dr. Aron and Gary W. Lewandowski Jr., a professor at Monmouth University in
New Jersey, have studied how individuals use a relationship to accumulate
knowledge and experiences, a process called “self-expansion.” Research
shows that the more self-expansion people experience from their partner, the
more committed and satisfied they are in the relationship.
To measure this, Dr. Lewandowski developed a series of questions for couples
How much has knowing your partner made you a better person? (Take the full
quiz measuring self-expansion.)
While the notion of self-expansion may sound inherently self-serving, it can
lead to stronger, more sustainable relationships, Dr. Lewandowski says.
“If you’re seeking self-growth and obtain it from your partner, then that
puts your partner in a pretty important position,” he explains. “And being
able to help your partner’s self-expansion would be pretty pleasing to
yourself.”
The concept explains why people are delighted when dates treat them to new
experiences, like a weekend away. But self-expansion isn’t just about
exotic experiences. Individuals experience personal growth through their
partners in big and small ways. It happens when they introduce new friends,
or casually talk about a new restaurant or a fascinating story in the news.
The effect of self-expansion is particularly pronounced when people first
fall in love. In research at the University of California at Santa Cruz, 325
undergraduate students were given questionnaires five times over 10 weeks.
They were asked, “Who are you today?” and given three minutes to describe
themselves. They were also asked about recent experiences, including whether
they had fallen in love.
After students reported falling in love, they used more varied words in
their self-descriptions. The new relationships had literally broadened the
way they looked at themselves.
“You go from being a stranger to including this person in the self, so you
suddenly have all of these social roles and identities you didn’t have
before,” explains Dr. Aron, who co-authored the research. “When people
fall in love that happens rapidly, and it’s very exhilarating.”
Over time, the personal gains from lasting relationships are often subtle.
Having a partner who is funny or creative adds something new to someone who
isn’t. A partner who is an active community volunteer creates new social
opportunities for a spouse who spends long hours at work.
Additional research suggests that spouses eventually adopt the traits of the
other — and become slower to distinguish differences between them, or
slower to remember which skills belong to which spouse.
In experiments by Dr. Aron, participants rated themselves and their partners
on a variety of traits, like “ambitious” or “artistic.” A week later,
the subjects returned to the lab and were shown the list of traits and asked
to indicate which ones described them.
People responded the quickest to traits that were true of both them and
their partner. When the trait described only one person, the answer came
more slowly. The delay was measured in milliseconds, but nonetheless
suggested that when individuals were particularly close to someone, their
brains were slower to distinguish between their traits and those of their
spouses.
“It’s easy to answer those questions if you’re both the same,” Dr.
Lewandowski explains. “But if it’s just true of you and not of me, then I
have to sort it out. It happens very quickly, but I have to ask myself, ‘Is
that me or is that you?’ ”
It’s not that these couples lost themselves in the marriage; instead, they
grew in it. Activities, traits and behaviors that had not been part of their
identity before the relationship were now an essential part of how they
experienced life.
All of this can be highly predictive for a couple's long-term happiness. One
scale designed by Dr. Aron and colleagues depicts seven pairs of circles.
The first set is side by side. With each new set, the circles begin to
overlap until they are nearly on top of one another. Couples choose the set
of circles that best represents their relationship. In a 2009 report in the
journal Psychological Science, people bored in their marriages were more
likely to choose the more separate circles. Partners involved in novel and
interesting experiences together were more likely to pick one of the
overlapping circles and less likely to report boredom. “People have a
fundamental motivation to improve the self and add to who they are as a
person,” Dr. Lewandowski says. “If your partner is helping you become a
better person, you become happier and more satisfied in the relationship.”

J*S2011-01-03 08:01

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看第三第四张图，我想起了，本拉登被击毙的那个房子。

G*G2011-01-03 08:01

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great article.
but I still want to say the unhappy marriage is also the 'me' marriage.

【在 M*********t 的大作中提到】

: This is an interesting article. Would like to share with readers who are
: looking for a Happy MArriage.
: Happy New Year to every beautiful single!!! :)
: Sustainable Love
: The Happy Marriage Is the ‘Me’ Marriage
: By TARA PARKER-POPE
: Published: December 31, 2010
: A lasting marriage does not always signal a happy marriage. Plenty of
: miserable couples have stayed together for children, religion or other
: practical reasons.

u*q2011-01-03 08:01

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唉，真圡。

d*g2011-01-03 08:01

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太学院派了
半天都不知道说什么

J*S2011-01-03 08:01

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还是赞一下， 15W能盖这么漂亮的豪宅。这是哪里啊？

M*t2011-01-03 08:01

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下春：我其实觉得这篇文章挺有道理的。如果互相不能给彼此带来知识或者兴趣爱好的
扩展，就很容易缺乏新鲜感，生活就会变得乏味。如果和你在一起的人让你觉得自己每
天都在成长，经历着有意义的事情，你岂不是每天都很充实快乐？就是这个道理吧：
）

n*e2011-01-03 08:01

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DIY 真强，佩服
效果确实不错

A*t2011-01-03 08:01

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哪位好心人给总结/翻译一下，什么叫做me marriage? 这文章谁写的利利索索也没说
清楚。文采不如teller,逻辑不如夜心.

F*y2011-01-03 08:01

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高端大气上档次，赞一个

Y*n2011-01-03 08:01

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你给他们解释解释吧，有些人太年轻，看不懂。

【在 G***G 的大作中提到】

: great article.
: but I still want to say the unhappy marriage is also the 'me' marriage.

c*o2011-01-03 08:01

13 楼

这么便宜，老子回去造30个，每一个里面放一个小三

A*t2011-01-03 08:01

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在补充一点，简练不如有米有盐。到底什么是me marriage?

s*s2011-01-03 08:01

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BSO有上百万闲钱。。。

【在 c****o 的大作中提到】

: 这么便宜，老子回去造30个，每一个里面放一个小三

G*G2011-01-03 08:01

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very interesting article. My understanding are
1)love is a kind of relationship we can use to accumulate knowledge and
experience.
traditionally, we thought love is forgiving and giving.
2)Love is kind of like this,
the more you give to your partner, the more you can get back.
the less you get from your partner, the less you would give and the less
committed and satifised you are in the relationship.
3)Letting your partner meet another friends with opposite sex will
increase his or her social roles and identities he or she didn't have before.
4) Your lover doesn't necessarily need your money, your house, or your green
card, but he or she really needs somethings which can make her or him happy.

【在 d********g 的大作中提到】

: 太学院派了
: 半天都不知道说什么

t*e2011-01-03 08:01

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真不错，
现在江浙农村很多漂亮别墅，
这个外观格外好些

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【在 w********r 的大作中提到】

: 【以下文字转载自 Joke 讨论区】
: 发信人: xiaopo (po), 信区: Joke
: 标题: 怎样省钱在农村建别墅 (多图)
: 发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Wed Oct 2 00:29:23 2013, 美东)
: 2002年至2009年，从农村到城里做7年伪白领，7年的10万伪白领积蓄在万恶股市呆了6
: 个月，以为可以变成14、5万做个首付做个城市人。没想到6个月后变成了2万，老爸又
: 天天追问什么时候买楼，说家里的泥砖房下雨都不敢住了。急呀，只好赶回家和老爸说
: ：房子我看好了，只是没到交款时，把家里的泥房扒了重建一个吧，其实是看上老爸那
: 8万的棺材款了。话说7年伪白领，也是在地产公司干活，就拿公司的设计图改改建一
: 个吧。

d*g2011-01-03 08:01

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是这个道理啊啊啊：）
不过这也要看人。能够不断学习不断成长的人，乐于改变自我的人，可以把平凡的生活
过得妙趣横生的人，可遇而不可求。
既然你喜欢英文长篇，就回赠你一篇我喜欢的，虽然我把这篇到处贴过很多次了。。。
SCIENTISTS have discovered true love.
Brain scans have proved that a small number of couples can respond with as
much passion after 20 years as most people exhibit only in the first flush
of love.
The findings overturn the conventional view that love and sexual desire peak
at the start of a relationship and then decline as the years pass.
A team from Stony Brook University in New York scanned the brains of couples
who had been together for 20 years and compared them with those of new
lovers. They found that about one in 10 of the mature couples exhibited the
same chemical reactions when shown photographs of their loved ones as people
commonly do in the early stages of a relationship.
Previous research suggested that the first stages of romantic love, a
rollercoaster ride of mood swings and obsessions that psychologists call
limerence, start to fade within 15 months. After 10 years the chemical tide
has ebbed away.
The scans of some of the long-term couples, however, revealed that elements
of limerence mature, enabling them to enjoy what a new report calls “
intensive companionship and sexual liveliness”.
The researchers nicknamed the couples “swans” because they have similar
mental “love maps” to animals that mate for life such as swans, voles and
grey foxes.
The reactions of the swans to pictures of their beloved were identified on
MRI brain scans as a burst of pleasure-producing dopamine more commonly seen
in couples who are gripped in the first flush of lust.
“The findings go against the traditional view of romance – that it drops
off sharply in the first decade – but we are sure it’s real,” said Arthur
Aron, a psychologist at Stony Brook.
Previous research had laid out the “fracture points” in relationships as
12-15 months, three years and the infamous seven-year itch.
Aron said when he first interviewed people claiming they were still in love
after an average of 21 years he thought they were fooling themselves: “But
this is what the brain scans tell us and people can’t fake that.”
One pair of Aron’s swans are Billy and Michelle Jordon who, 18 years after
they met, still make their friends envious. The couple, who live in Newport
Beach, California, hold hands all the time. “It comes very naturally,”
said Michelle, 59.
Lisa Baber, 40, and her husband David, 46, from Bristol, say they still feel
the same frisson as when they got together 17 years ago.
“He was crazy and so exciting, he whisked me off my feet,” said Lisa. “
That excitement is very much alive. We make sure our lives are always
changing.”
Other couples who have kept their passion include Tony and Cherie Blair and
Michael and Shakira Caine. Michael Howard, the former Tory leader, and his
wife Sandra have been together for more than 30 years.
Aron said he and his wife Elaine, both 64, have a strong relationship but
were a little jealous of the swans. “Their relationships are intense and
sexually active, too, without many of the downsides of first love,” he said
last week.

【在 M*********t 的大作中提到】

: 下春：我其实觉得这篇文章挺有道理的。如果互相不能给彼此带来知识或者兴趣爱好的
: 扩展，就很容易缺乏新鲜感，生活就会变得乏味。如果和你在一起的人让你觉得自己每
: 天都在成长，经历着有意义的事情，你岂不是每天都很充实快乐？就是这个道理吧：
: ）

l*a2011-01-03 08:01

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还不错，我今年回国的时候也去看过一个农村别野，自己盖的房子就是好，一层楼整个
做高顶，大概3，4米高，太爽了。。。

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【在 w********r 的大作中提到】

h*e2011-01-03 08:01

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"me, me, me", in contrast to "we, we, we"

【在 A*****t 的大作中提到】

: 在补充一点，简练不如有米有盐。到底什么是me marriage?

p*p2011-01-03 08:01

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还是美金

【在 s******s 的大作中提到】

: BSO有上百万闲钱。。。

A*t2011-01-03 08:01

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真是够扯的。 this is equivalently saying '自己每

p*p2011-01-03 08:01

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3-4米高不叫高顶,普通的农民房底层都是这么高
高顶要6-7米才算,乃至10几米

【在 l******a 的大作中提到】

: 还不错，我今年回国的时候也去看过一个农村别野，自己盖的房子就是好，一层楼整个
: 做高顶，大概3，4米高，太爽了。。。
:
: 6

G*G2011-01-03 08:01

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me marriage means a marriage which is perfect and that you feel
proud of and are happy with.
I don't completely agree with the point of view in the article.
I believe any marriage is 'me marriage' whether it is happy or unhappy.

【在 A*****t 的大作中提到】

: 在补充一点，简练不如有米有盐。到底什么是me marriage?

l*a2011-01-03 08:01

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我又想了想，大概有1层半的高度，4，5米左右，我在美国的房子高顶也就6米，我以为
这样就能算了。。。反正国内农村建房子舒服，现在富裕农村生活比普通城市屌丝好太
多了。

【在 p*****p 的大作中提到】

: 3-4米高不叫高顶,普通的农民房底层都是这么高
: 高顶要6-7米才算,乃至10几米

G*G2011-01-03 08:01

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not 'depends on'
but 'is made by you from'

【在 A*****t 的大作中提到】

: 真是够扯的。 this is equivalently saying '自己每

p*s2011-01-03 08:01

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楼主好有孝心
赞一个！

A*t2011-01-03 08:01

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proud of a
nd are happy with."
原来是建立在循环论证的基础上。夜心的文章看多了我老逻辑水平大涨啊。
n't completely agree with the point of view in the article.

【在 G***G 的大作中提到】

: me marriage means a marriage which is perfect and that you feel
: proud of and are happy with.
: I don't completely agree with the point of view in the article.
: I believe any marriage is 'me marriage' whether it is happy or unhappy.

p*p2011-01-03 08:01

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城里的房子，蹦一蹦，就能摸到天花板
乡下房子可不是，都高得很。房间又大，所以冬天太冷。

【在 l******a 的大作中提到】

: 我又想了想，大概有1层半的高度，4，5米左右，我在美国的房子高顶也就6米，我以为
: 这样就能算了。。。反正国内农村建房子舒服，现在富裕农村生活比普通城市屌丝好太
: 多了。

h*e2011-01-03 08:01

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第一句和第三句是矛盾的

【在 G***G 的大作中提到】

w*m2011-01-03 08:01

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不是很好看啊，到是很便宜

A*t2011-01-03 08:01

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就算是made by you from, 这个功能完全不需要marriage来实现嘛. lol.

【在 G***G 的大作中提到】

: not 'depends on'
: but 'is made by you from'

l*a2011-01-03 08:01

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他们房间多，两栋4层楼。。。楼上的卧室就不大了，可能就是怕冬天冷。农民虽然房
子造的大，生活还是很节约的，不可能象美国这里整栋房子上暖气。

【在 p*****p 的大作中提到】

: 城里的房子，蹦一蹦，就能摸到天花板
: 乡下房子可不是，都高得很。房间又大，所以冬天太冷。

G*G2011-01-03 08:01

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it is if you think so.
I just think life is 'my life' no matter whether it is bitter or not.

【在 h*****e 的大作中提到】

: 第一句和第三句是矛盾的

w*m2011-01-03 08:01

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看着像个CHURCH

h*e2011-01-03 08:01

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文科生？

【在 G***G 的大作中提到】

: it is if you think so.
: I just think life is 'my life' no matter whether it is bitter or not.

N*M2011-01-03 08:01

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G*G2011-01-03 08:01

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no. computer science.

【在 h*****e 的大作中提到】

: 文科生？

p*p2011-01-03 08:01

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是的，农村盖个三间三层，很普通。可是几乎没有人住，顶多就俩老人住，这么大个房
子通暖气，暖气费都吓死人

【在 l******a 的大作中提到】

: 他们房间多，两栋4层楼。。。楼上的卧室就不大了，可能就是怕冬天冷。农民虽然房
: 子造的大，生活还是很节约的，不可能象美国这里整栋房子上暖气。

h*e2011-01-03 08:01

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Me marriage 是相对于 We marriage, 说的是在婚姻中 me first 还是 I choose us
的态度，跟my life, my marriage 没
关系。

【在 G***G 的大作中提到】

: it is if you think so.
: I just think life is 'my life' no matter whether it is bitter or not.

b*s2011-01-03 08:01

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很不错啊，最赞的是孝心！！

G*G2011-01-03 08:01

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thank you.

【在 h*****e 的大作中提到】

: Me marriage 是相对于 We marriage, 说的是在婚姻中 me first 还是 I choose us
: 的态度，跟my life, my marriage 没
: 关系。

G*e2011-01-03 08:01

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咋上的笑话版？。。。。感觉挺好

A*t2011-01-03 08:01

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说了半天连marriage的毛都没有说到。一般的朋友，同事，邻居关系都能满足这4点关
系。
1. 朋友聊天可以增进知识和经验。
2.就更不用说了。
3.通过朋友可以认识更多的朋友，增进social role
4.朋友不需要你的金钱，房子，绿卡 lol.
甚至连网友都可以满足这些条件。 lol.

before.

【在 G***G 的大作中提到】

: very interesting article. My understanding are
: 1)love is a kind of relationship we can use to accumulate knowledge and
: experience.
: traditionally, we thought love is forgiving and giving.
: 2)Love is kind of like this,
: the more you give to your partner, the more you can get back.
: the less you get from your partner, the less you would give and the less
: committed and satifised you are in the relationship.
: 3)Letting your partner meet another friends with opposite sex will
: increase his or her social roles and identities he or she didn't have before.

S*r2011-01-03 08:01

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I think this is amazing
About heating, I believe the house is located in Fujian so heating is not
such a big concern. Guess that's why they picked the marble floor throughout
the whole house.

h*e2011-01-03 08:01

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知识和兴趣是没用的，只有社会地位的改变才能真正带来新鲜感，而保证能够事业蒸蒸
日上的人是很少很少
的，甚至根本就没有，到一定位置\年龄之后，不走下坡路已经就很不容易了

【在 M*********t 的大作中提到】