abc感觉美国不是他家# Parenting - 为人父母
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这个还是娶了白人的
It's not just about food. I'm tired of being a minority here in the US,
tired of being seeing as "an Asian guy" rather than just "a guy." I'm tired
of the stereotypes.
When I traveled in Asia it honestly felt like going back to a "home" I never
had. For once I could just be like everybody else. I felt connected to
other people in a way I never felt like in the US (it helps I speak the
language). It was only after coming back to the US that I felt like a
foreigner again.
I wouldn't say I'm not assimilated into Western culture. I don't have an
accent, and I'm sure that in my personality/demeanor I probably come off as
more like a Westerner than an Asian. It's not like I wear my Asian-ness on
my sleeve. But in more superficial things sure I'm not very American. For
example my family never watched sports at home. As a result I don't care at
all about NFL/fantasy football, but it's the only thing my coworkers talk
about. Could I go learn that shit, sure, I could spend all my free time
studying NFL stats and pretending to care about it to be more "American",
but why bother? I'd rather spend time on things I like.
Re: my wife, yes she's practically Asian now, like I said we only cook/eat
Asian food. I probably like Western food more than she does. Will she feel
like a foreigner over there, I guess, but I had to feel like a foreigner
here in the US my entire life. Kids - that's thinking way too far out, but
who says they would have a better life in the US vs. in Asia. If they end up
looking Asian, they're going to have the same problems in the US that I did
.
这个还是娶了白人的
It's not just about food. I'm tired of being a minority here in the US,
tired of being seeing as "an Asian guy" rather than just "a guy." I'm tired
of the stereotypes.
When I traveled in Asia it honestly felt like going back to a "home" I never
had. For once I could just be like everybody else. I felt connected to
other people in a way I never felt like in the US (it helps I speak the
language). It was only after coming back to the US that I felt like a
foreigner again.
I wouldn't say I'm not assimilated into Western culture. I don't have an
accent, and I'm sure that in my personality/demeanor I probably come off as
more like a Westerner than an Asian. It's not like I wear my Asian-ness on
my sleeve. But in more superficial things sure I'm not very American. For
example my family never watched sports at home. As a result I don't care at
all about NFL/fantasy football, but it's the only thing my coworkers talk
about. Could I go learn that shit, sure, I could spend all my free time
studying NFL stats and pretending to care about it to be more "American",
but why bother? I'd rather spend time on things I like.
Re: my wife, yes she's practically Asian now, like I said we only cook/eat
Asian food. I probably like Western food more than she does. Will she feel
like a foreigner over there, I guess, but I had to feel like a foreigner
here in the US my entire life. Kids - that's thinking way too far out, but
who says they would have a better life in the US vs. in Asia. If they end up
looking Asian, they're going to have the same problems in the US that I did
.
