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Re: 我怎样调整心态为好?# PsychoAnalysis - 心理分析

h*r2004-03-31 08:03

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Sorry I have to use English.
a)Your thoughts about yourself, i.e. 自已很无能, was wrong.
b)You deserve happiness as much as other "老拿A,第一" Chinese students.
Several ways to achieve mental fitness:
a) talk with professionals, such as, psychologist, psychiatrics, etc.
It's convenient if your husband is working and has good health insurance plan.
b) Read a good book, such as the book I recommended as board bible in JHQ.
c) Tell your logic behind your depression on this board. :) First, why
you feel bad

h*t2004-03-31 08:03

2 楼

谁说什么中国学生老拿第一?
胡掰啊.我上了那么多课,没有一次拿到全班第一的,还有不少B+什么的,
但我觉得学到东西就好了,没学到东西,拿A+也没用.
再说,你LG说得对,学到知识才是最关键的,成绩什么的P用没有.

n*g2004-03-31 08:03

3 楼

read the following, do something similar, then all problem will be solved.
"Hou zhe gan, si le suan"
从挖砂场走到家整整十五里地。干那样的活儿，人就象疯了一般。干完活扔下
锨就歇可不行，他猜要是扔下锨就躺下或许能死过去。所以这十五里路虽然远了一
点，可是走路的时候能让呼吸平顺下来，僵了的骨节也能走着走着变得松活。前几
天他总觉得到了家也就喘匀了气；脑子也在辽阔的黄昏里清醒了过来。
他只是心里觉得惊奇。在砂窝子干了几天了，他还是觉得那么吃惊。他从来没
有这么干过活儿，他估计爹在活着的时候也没有这么干过活儿。那可真叫揭地三尺
哪，砂场那边土地给成片成块地揭开了。他默默地迈着大步，觉得自己整整一天都
象是做梦，到现在才一点点地醒过劲来。一天十几个钟头，他想，人都象是着了魔，
入了咒。他也一样，象神鬼附了体，十来个钟头不知道累也不知道饿。到现在才觉
出肚子饿了，饿得一阵阵发疼。可是他还没有明白这就是饿，他只明白自己正在渐
渐地恢复知觉。不光肚子，全身都酸胀起来，皮底下一下下地跳血。灰云封

q*n2004-03-31 08:03

4 楼

you don't need to worry at all!
It is important to know that: the under education and grad
education here is totoally different. One big difference is
that it is harder to get good score in under classes, most
professors give A-F for under class, but A-B for grad class.
So be relax, don't compare yourself to other chinese grad
students.

n*g2004-03-31 08:03

5 楼

too soft la, too care others views,... not good.
Ignore others, define what you want, what you like, challenge yourself. be
angry at yourself instead of pityfully think about what others think.
Otherwise you will be other people's emotional burden forever and ever.

心
程
是
美
样
可
象
.L
可
得
学
去
,
考
现在还只是本科专业课,要到了MASTER,还不考个最差了.知道中国学生老拿A,第一,心

n*g2004-03-31 08:03

6 楼

yeh, that is true, however, when one truely have the spirit, he/she may not
need to actually do the physical work and will get mental fitness.
think about it, all successful professors have the spirit of working very
hard, and their student actually do the physical work, they (the professors)
are very mental fit. :-)

学
去
,
考

【在 h******r 的大作中提到】

: Sorry I have to use English.
: a)Your thoughts about yourself, i.e. 自已很无能, was wrong.
: b)You deserve happiness as much as other "老拿A,第一" Chinese students.
: Several ways to achieve mental fitness:
: a) talk with professionals, such as, psychologist, psychiatrics, etc.
: It's convenient if your husband is working and has good health insurance plan.
: b) Read a good book, such as the book I recommended as board bible in JHQ.
: c) Tell your logic behind your depression on this board. :) First, why
: you feel bad

h*r2004-03-31 08:03

7 楼

I don't agree with this professor stuff. :)
They at most can knowing the path, it's completely different with
walking the path, which his or her slaves do.
We can say these successful professors manage better.
solved.
，

【在 n*****g 的大作中提到】

: yeh, that is true, however, when one truely have the spirit, he/she may not
: need to actually do the physical work and will get mental fitness.
: think about it, all successful professors have the spirit of working very
: hard, and their student actually do the physical work, they (the professors)
: are very mental fit. :-)
:
: 学
: 去
: ,
: 考

h*r2004-03-31 08:03

8 楼

心
程
Very probably they were talking about classes in graduate level.
I have to say that probably people bragging about it, even if
they were graduate students, were not in top universities at all :)
You should not have pressure because of others nonsense bragging. Right?
美
Frankly speaking, you will not be happier just because you
读成他们一样的学位. You need a)value yourself correctly; b)know you can
change.
I really want to say more, but I can not do that in English.
Maybe I will write more later.

e*t2004-03-31 08:03

9 楼

老实说, 在美国读本科比master含金量高, 当然也就比之难度大许多. 这是因为本科有许
多基础必修课, 范围相当的广, 而且考试和作业量都相当的大. 而到了master, 学的东西
相对有针对性, 也一般是自己选择比较喜欢, 或者觉得对工作有帮助的, 这是highly
motivated, 相对说来, 乐趣多了些.
其实这样想, 在家闲着也是闲着, 不如去课堂里学点儿东西, 也是社交的一个途径. 不要
为了拿A去学, 而是为了enjoy生活. 相信你学的很多东西, 连你老公都未必知道的, 而且
相当有趣. 这样你的成绩也不会太差的. 相信自己. :)
要有心里准备, 其实读书很累. 呵呵.

心
程
是
美
样
可
象
.L
可
得
学
去
,
考
现在还只是本科专业课,要到了MASTER,还不考个最差了.知道中国学生老拿A,第一,心

l*d2004-03-31 08:03

10 楼

All Chinese students get straight As is the biggest lie. When I was in school,
I strived to get Bs. Dont worry too much. Just do your best.
You cant win all battles.

我在国内时为大专,工作了几年,自认为在中国也不喜欢读书,喜欢工作的人.因
为来了美国,所以只有再回学校读书.虽已轻松考过GT了,但因为是改专业和所读的学校的
要求,所以还是老实地从本科开始读了.本来在国内大学的成绩也就一般. 在美国,去年一
年
的成绩奇好,总考全班第一,第二.但从今年开始课程转难后,发觉自已成绩不比以前,起伏
很大.有些自认为极容易的课,考试时居然再也考不出头几名一样的成绩了,有两门考试居
然还考到了第十几名.本来对读书也不感兴趣,自从成绩不比以前后,更没多少动力了.想想
现在还只是本科专业课,要到了MASTER,还不考个最差了.知道中国学生老拿A,第一,心里觉
得自已很无能.和LG说,他说要是他满意了,学到东西最重要,说我心态不好.我也知