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how do you feel if you are " quiet"?????

how do you feel if you are " quiet"?????# Working - 上班一族

p*g2004-12-13 08:12

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some of my colleagues say i am so quiet, even couple of my managers say so. i
heard " being quiet" in this company will make you look pretty bad. i feel
like no matter how hard i try, i can't catch up with those outgoing people,
especially americans. people in my company like chatting a lot during work
hours. a couple of hours wasted in chatting is pretty normal. i try to engage
myself into those conversations often, but i feel like the first impression i
gave to people when i just started worki

g*f2004-12-13 08:12

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don't be quiet in a team discussion
i think it is ok to be quite in casual chats
but if you really want to be part of them, of their 'circle', you might
want to try saying more...

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: some of my colleagues say i am so quiet, even couple of my managers say so. i
: heard " being quiet" in this company will make you look pretty bad. i feel
: like no matter how hard i try, i can't catch up with those outgoing people,
: especially americans. people in my company like chatting a lot during work
: hours. a couple of hours wasted in chatting is pretty normal. i try to engage
: myself into those conversations often, but i feel like the first impression i
: gave to people when i just started worki

g*a2004-12-13 08:12

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I think mostly it is the attitude. People know that you are trying to mingle,
even your english is not that good or you don't really understand what they
say. BUt they will think you are sociable. Otherwise, they will consider you a
"lone wolf". - being sociable is part of the job. Working hard if your project
manager is also a workholic, otherwise not necessary. You are putting pressure
on your teammate perhaps. People say business is business, don't take it
personal. But people always like to

G*R2004-12-13 08:12

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It depends on what kind of person you are.
If you are indeed a quiet, introvert person, nothing wrong with it. Don't
feel bad and you don't need to do anything to change the situation. If you
don't fit in your firm because of this, just change a job. Remember, you
don't change who you are for your job, but rather you chang your job because
of who you are.
If you are not a quiet person by nature and you are quiet only because of
other things (such as poor communication skills, lack of underst

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h*k2004-12-13 08:12

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同意。
我原来很沉默，现在还是很沉默，只是稍微好一点点而已。希望时间长一点会好一点吧。
我自己有时候想想，很多时候是自己先怯了，怕说错话，觉得自己听得懂，不想说，或者
说句话前还要想一想，结果人家都转移话题了。
其实老外他们还是比较理解的，他们也说我很QUITE，还说我要努力make noise才行。可
是他们一听我才来了两年，又觉得比较可以理解。
保持微笑，即使不知道怎么回答，对我还比较有用。有时候，别人会帮你接上去得。
不知道大家有没有相同得地方，我和一个，两个人聊天，可以handle 得不错，人一多就
不行了。
总之，觉得放松一点吧，时间长了会好一些。这些个Normal conversation和学校里，跟
老板meeting还是很不一样得。自己用功点，多留心，然后努力皮厚一点，不要太在乎。
大家共勉吧。

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