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发信人: dcbang (认真学习，努力思考，使劲白唬), 信区: USANews
标 题: 扮演受害者:Victim playing
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Fri Mar 18 10:18:19 2016, 美东)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Victim_playing
扮演受害者:
１。往往是为了欺负别人。欺负别人的人喜欢说对方怎么怎么欺负我了。以此来麻痹自
己的良心。以及获取别人对他的欺负行为的支持。
２。往往是为了逃避自己的责任。好比酗酒的人说我好可怜啊。好比不努力的人说我真
的使出吃奶的劲，但你看我咋这么笨。
Victim playing (also known as playing the victim or self-victimization) is
the fabrication of victimhood for a variety of reasons such as to justify
abuse of others, to manipulate others, a coping strategy or attention
seeking. Where a person is known for regular victim playing, the person may
be referred to as a professional victim.
By abusers[edit]
Victim playing by abusers is either:
diverting attention away from acts of abuse by claiming that the abuse was
justified based on another person's bad behavior (typically the victim)[
citation needed]
soliciting sympathy from others in order to gain their assistance in
supporting or enabling the abuse of a victim (known as proxy abuse).[
citation needed]
It is common for abusers to engage in victim playing.[citation needed] This
serves two purposes:
justification to themselves – as a way of dealing with the cognitive
dissonance that results from inconsistencies between the way they treat
others and what they believe about themselves.[citation needed]
justification to others – as a way of escaping harsh judgment or
condemnation they may fear from others.[citation needed]
By manipulators[edit]
Manipulators often play the victim role ("poor me") by portraying themselves
as victims of circumstances or someone else's behavior in order to gain
pity or sympathy or to evoke compassion and thereby get something from
another. Caring and conscientious people cannot stand to see anyone
suffering, and the manipulator often finds it easy and rewarding to play on
sympathy to get cooperation.[1]
Other types[edit]
Victim playing is also:
an attention seeking technique (see for example Münchausen syndrome, Mü
nchausen syndrome by proxy and Münchausen by Internet).
a strategy used by alcoholics to elicit constructive criticism, rescue, or
enabling behavior from others.[2]
In corporate life[edit]
The language of "victim playing" has entered modern corporate life, as a
weapon of use even for the most competent of professionals.[3] To define
victim-players as dishonest may be an empowering response;[4] as too may be
awareness of how childhood boundary issues can underlay the tactic.[5]
In the hustle of office politics, the term may however be abused so as to
penalize the legitimate victim of injustice, as well as the role-player.
Underlying psychology[edit]
Transactional analysis distinguishes real victims from those who adopt the
role in bad faith, ignoring their own capacities to improve their situation.
[6] Among the games Eric Berne identified as played by the latter are "Look
How Hard I've Tried" and "Wooden Leg".[7]
R. D. Laing considered that “it will be difficult in practice to determine
whether or to what extent a relationship is collusive” – when “the one
person is predominantly the passive 'victim'”,[8] and when they are merely
playing the victim. The problem is intensified once a pattern of
victimization has been internalised, perhaps in the form of a double bind.[9]
Object relations theory has explored the way possession by a false self can
create a permanent sense of victimisation[10] - a sense of always being in
the hands of an external fate.[11]
To break the hold of the negative complex, and to escape the passivity of
victim-hood, requires taking responsibility for one's own desires and long-
term actions.[12]
发信人: dcbang (认真学习，努力思考，使劲白唬), 信区: USANews
标 题: 扮演受害者:Victim playing
发信站: BBS 未名空间站 (Fri Mar 18 10:18:19 2016, 美东)
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Victim_playing
扮演受害者:
１。往往是为了欺负别人。欺负别人的人喜欢说对方怎么怎么欺负我了。以此来麻痹自
己的良心。以及获取别人对他的欺负行为的支持。
２。往往是为了逃避自己的责任。好比酗酒的人说我好可怜啊。好比不努力的人说我真
的使出吃奶的劲，但你看我咋这么笨。
Victim playing (also known as playing the victim or self-victimization) is
the fabrication of victimhood for a variety of reasons such as to justify
abuse of others, to manipulate others, a coping strategy or attention
seeking. Where a person is known for regular victim playing, the person may
be referred to as a professional victim.
By abusers[edit]
Victim playing by abusers is either:
diverting attention away from acts of abuse by claiming that the abuse was
justified based on another person's bad behavior (typically the victim)[
citation needed]
soliciting sympathy from others in order to gain their assistance in
supporting or enabling the abuse of a victim (known as proxy abuse).[
citation needed]
It is common for abusers to engage in victim playing.[citation needed] This
serves two purposes:
justification to themselves – as a way of dealing with the cognitive
dissonance that results from inconsistencies between the way they treat
others and what they believe about themselves.[citation needed]
justification to others – as a way of escaping harsh judgment or
condemnation they may fear from others.[citation needed]
By manipulators[edit]
Manipulators often play the victim role ("poor me") by portraying themselves
as victims of circumstances or someone else's behavior in order to gain
pity or sympathy or to evoke compassion and thereby get something from
another. Caring and conscientious people cannot stand to see anyone
suffering, and the manipulator often finds it easy and rewarding to play on
sympathy to get cooperation.[1]
Other types[edit]
Victim playing is also:
an attention seeking technique (see for example Münchausen syndrome, Mü
nchausen syndrome by proxy and Münchausen by Internet).
a strategy used by alcoholics to elicit constructive criticism, rescue, or
enabling behavior from others.[2]
In corporate life[edit]
The language of "victim playing" has entered modern corporate life, as a
weapon of use even for the most competent of professionals.[3] To define
victim-players as dishonest may be an empowering response;[4] as too may be
awareness of how childhood boundary issues can underlay the tactic.[5]
In the hustle of office politics, the term may however be abused so as to
penalize the legitimate victim of injustice, as well as the role-player.
Underlying psychology[edit]
Transactional analysis distinguishes real victims from those who adopt the
role in bad faith, ignoring their own capacities to improve their situation.
[6] Among the games Eric Berne identified as played by the latter are "Look
How Hard I've Tried" and "Wooden Leg".[7]
R. D. Laing considered that “it will be difficult in practice to determine
whether or to what extent a relationship is collusive” – when “the one
person is predominantly the passive 'victim'”,[8] and when they are merely
playing the victim. The problem is intensified once a pattern of
victimization has been internalised, perhaps in the form of a double bind.[9]
Object relations theory has explored the way possession by a false self can
create a permanent sense of victimisation[10] - a sense of always being in
the hands of an external fate.[11]
To break the hold of the negative complex, and to escape the passivity of
victim-hood, requires taking responsibility for one's own desires and long-
term actions.[12]
