我希望早点知道的智慧

2023-09-28 01:09

《失控》作者、《连线》杂志创始主编凯文·凯利(KK)，70岁的时候在自己的个人网站上发布了他希望早点知道的103条建议，吸引了大批的关注，并直接导致他的个人网站瘫痪。后来他逐渐扩充这些建议，并集结成一本包含了500条建议的智慧手册《宝贵的人生建议：我希望早点知道的智慧》，我从这本书中挑选了一些，和大家分享：

It is not hard to identify a thief: they are the one who believes that everybody steals.

识别小偷并不难: 认为每个人都会偷东西的人，就是小偷。

世界是映照自己内心的一面镜子，你是什么样的人，就会看见什么样的世界。

The best way to get a correct answer on the internet is to post an obviously wrong answer and wait for someone to correct you.

在互联网上获得正确答案的最好方式是：贴一个明显错误的答案，然后等着别人纠正你。

小红书上有一类旅游笔记，它们往往会通过引战的方式来吸引关注，比如标题写“千万别来柳州！”点进去会发现，作者第一句话是道歉。说自己故意正话反说，就是要激起本地人的好胜心，把深度玩家吸引进来，推荐哪里值得去。

Your best photo portrait will be taken not while you are smiling, but when you are quiet a minute after you have been laughing. Use a photographer that makes you laugh.

你最好的肖像照不应该在你微笑时拍，而应该在你大笑之后，安静的那一刻拍。找一个能让你笑的摄影师。

To rapidly reveal the true character of a person you just met, observe them stuck on an abysmally slow internet connection.

刚认识一个人时，要迅速发现他真实的性格，可以观察他，在网速极慢时会怎么做。

逆境见涵养。

When you forgive others, they may not notice, but you will heal. Forgiveness is not something we do for others; it is a gift to ourselves.

当你原谅别人时，对方可能没有察觉，但你会被治愈。宽恕不是我们为别人做的奉献，宽恕是我们给自己的礼物。

不要拿别人的错误惩罚自己。

If you meet a jerk, overlook them. If you meet jerks everywhere everyday, look deeper into yourself.

如果你遇到一个混蛋，忽略他。如果你每天到处遇到混蛋，那么你需要更深入地审视自身。

No secrets. You are much better off delivering unwelcomed news to someone yourself directly. A secret is rarely unknown, which means inevitably someone else will share it. Meanwhile the secret corrodes all who hold it. Resist accepting secrets.

世上没有秘密。你最好是直接把不受欢迎的消息告诉别人。纸包不住火，秘密不可避免地会被传递。同时，所有掌握秘密的人，都会被秘密腐蚀。你要拒绝接收秘密。

Getting cheated occasionally is the small price for trusting the best of everyone, because when you trust the best in others, they generally treat you best.

如果你相信每个人最好的一面，那么偶尔被骗，只是这么做的微小的成本，因为当你相信别人最好的一面时，他们通常待你最好。

Always demand a deadline. A deadline weeds out the extraneous and the ordinary. It prevents you from trying to make it perfect, so you have to make it different. Different is better.

始终要规定一个截止日期，因为这可以筛选掉，无关紧要和平淡无奇的东西。截止日期有助于纠正你的完美主义倾向，迫使你找到不一样的解决方案。不一样是一件好事。

Whatever your age, these are your golden years.

现在，不管你多大年纪，这就是你的黄金岁月。

此刻是我们未来日子里最年轻的时候。

If you want to go fast go alone; if you want to go further go together.

如果你想走得快，就独自走;如果你想走得远，就一起走。

Over the long term, the future is decided by optimists. To be an optimist you don’t have to ignore the multitude of problems we create; you just have to imagine how much our ability to solve problems improves.

长期而言，未来是由乐观主义者决定的。成为乐观主义者，不意味着你必须忽视我们创造的众多问题。你只需要想象，我们解决问题的能力能有多么大的提升。

悲观者正确，乐观者成功。

Most overnight successes — in fact any significant successes take at least 5 years. Budget your life accordingly.

大多数一夜之间取得的成功，都需要至少五年时间，事实上，任何重大成功都是如此。以此为依据，规划你的生活。

很多一炮走红的背后是无数日夜的积累，量变才能引起质变。我们往往只看到结果，而忽视了背后的过程。

It is easier to maintain a habit by switching your language from “I can’t do X” to ‘I don't do X.” You shift the weight from a wavering choice to an unwavering identity.

要培养一种习惯，就要改变你的语言，从“我做得到还是做不到”变成“我做还是不做”。这样你就转移了重心，从摇摆不定的选择，转移到了一种坚定的身份。

不要想“能不能做到”，这个问题没有答案。要么不做，要么立即做，不要犹豫。

Don’t worry how or where you begin. As long as you keep moving, your success will arrive far from where you start.

不要担心如何开始，或者从哪里开始。只要你在持续前进，你的成功终将到来，到时你已远远超越自己的出发点。

Your growth as a conscious being is measured by the number of uncomfortable conversations you are willing to have.

作为一个成熟的人，衡量你成长程度的尺度是，你愿意进行多少令人不舒服的谈话。

成熟在于你能容纳多少误解与委屈。

Ask anyone you admire: Their lucky breaks happened on a detour from their main goal. So embrace detours. Life is not a straight line for anyone.

问问你崇敬的人：他们幸运的突破发生在他们偏离主要目标，绕道的时候。所以要拥抱弯路。

既要心中有终点，也要拥抱沿途的意外与风景。

The best way to learn anything is to try to teach what you know.

学习任何东西的最好方法是，试着把你所知道的东西教给别人。

以教为学，是最高效的学习方法。

To transcend the influence of your heroes, copy them shamelessly like a student until you get them out of your system. That is the way of all masters.

如果你想超越你心目中的英雄对你的影响，那就放下自尊心，像学生一样模仿他们，直到你能超越他们。这是所有大师的成功之道。

当你想放弃时，再做五个：五分钟，五页，五步。然后再做五个。有时你可以突破并继续前进，但即使在未能突破的情况下，你也多做了五个。告诉你自己，明天可以放弃，但今天不行。

When you feel like quitting, just do five more; 5 more minutes, 5 more pages, 5 more steps. Then repeat. Sometimes you can breakthrough and keep going, but even if you don’t you ended 5 ahead.

走一步，再走一步~

假期愉快！

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